Breaking Norms: Culture and Religion that put women's life at risk

Buky Orija
Posted April 19, 2018 from United Kingdom

It was summertime of 2014, You would have seen me with Nadine, a councillor sharing how miserable, unhappy, terrified and confused I was with him. The first statement she will say to me was, "Buky, how did you make for yourself a bad marriage like this- you have given him all your power" How can you blame me for being an obedient, caring and submissive wife? 

This was a turning point in my life, a light bulb experience, that conversation led to massive transformation for me. I accepted responsibility for allowing myself to be abused by a man that doesn't know how to love, whom I have allowed to manipulate, humiliate, disrespect and control everything about me for 24years. As I made a further self-discovery, I invested in my personal development, that enable me to communicate my need and feeling. Today, I love and enjoy what I do as a life coach, empowering women to speak out and shine, break habits and patterns that ridicule and put their life at risk and create abundance in health, wealth, wisdom and happiness, and more importantly, never at the mercy of any man.

It was a tough decision that was not accepted by most people around me, from my mother to friends and siblings with the church family, however, as my life matters, I don't have to conform to culture and religion that will not tell a man to grow up and love their wives. I choose to break the cycle of abuse in my generation.

Abuse strive in silence, if you are a woman in abusive marriage, or you know any women experiencing abuse, reach out to me and break free today, no woman should be allowed to suffer or die in the hand of any fellow human being. Statistics show that over 70%of women are abused by their partner. Marriage must be enjoyed. 

 

 

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Enmita Marin
Apr 19, 2018
Apr 19, 2018

I like your post. Religion, in a bad way, is used to subdue women. You are an intelligent and determined woman, to notice and rebel about it.

Buky Orija
Apr 20, 2018
Apr 20, 2018

Thank you, am grateful for your encouragement!

Olutosin
Apr 19, 2018
Apr 19, 2018

I'm glad you took a decision that helped you. You matter.
Thanks for helping other women too.

Buky Orija
Apr 20, 2018
Apr 20, 2018

Hi, thank you, i appreciate you!

Jill Langhus
Apr 20, 2018
Apr 20, 2018

Hi Buky! Welcome to World Pulse:-) Good job! It's great that you are breaking the cycle of abuse, and not only have learned from your own experiences but are helping others to break free as well. I agree and love your message about marriage being enjoyable rather than abusive in any way, shape or form.

Buky Orija
Apr 20, 2018
Apr 20, 2018

Hi Jlanghus, thank you for the encouraging comment!

Jill Langhus
Apr 20, 2018
Apr 20, 2018

You're welcome:) Have a great day and weekend!

Juliet Acom
Feb 26
Feb 26

Say No to Domestic Violence, always take the high road.

I stand with you, it is wise decision to walk away.

Bettina Amendi
Mar 08
Mar 08

Burky you propelled me to be myself.Culture is a way of life of a people.You have a right to say no to it if it meant to take you to the grave before you reach out to nations.
Be strong always.
Bettina

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