It was summertime of 2014, You would have seen me with Nadine, a councillor sharing how miserable, unhappy, terrified and confused I was with him. The first statement she will say to me was, "Buky, how did you make for yourself a bad marriage like this- you have given him all your power" How can you blame me for being an obedient, caring and submissive wife?
This was a turning point in my life, a light bulb experience, that conversation led to massive transformation for me. I accepted responsibility for allowing myself to be abused by a man that doesn't know how to love, whom I have allowed to manipulate, humiliate, disrespect and control everything about me for 24years. As I made a further self-discovery, I invested in my personal development, that enable me to communicate my need and feeling. Today, I love and enjoy what I do as a life coach, empowering women to speak out and shine, break habits and patterns that ridicule and put their life at risk and create abundance in health, wealth, wisdom and happiness, and more importantly, never at the mercy of any man.
It was a tough decision that was not accepted by most people around me, from my mother to friends and siblings with the church family, however, as my life matters, I don't have to conform to culture and religion that will not tell a man to grow up and love their wives. I choose to break the cycle of abuse in my generation.
Abuse strive in silence, if you are a woman in abusive marriage, or you know any women experiencing abuse, reach out to me and break free today, no woman should be allowed to suffer or die in the hand of any fellow human being. Statistics show that over 70%of women are abused by their partner. Marriage must be enjoyed.