Campaign Update

CHALLENGE OF BEING A CHANGE MAKER

Obisakin Busayo
Posted May 3, 2018 from Nigeria

I have been working in my community for the past 8 years to eradicate violence against women and girls. I have empowered more than 3000 women and girls physically in Nigeria in the course of my work and about 15,000 women and girls through my campaign on radios. Therefore it is very likely that several women and girls even those that I don't know at all would know me as a change maker in my community.

In the early morning of Saturday, 21st of April, 2018 as I was woken up I was hearing a crying beside my house which I thought was a crying of a cat because I never thought a child could be dropped inside the bush beside my house. I was even rebuking the cat that it was woken me with its pathetic crying. After my weekend chores, I decided to go out and enjoy the weekend with my friend. It was on my arrival at 4pm that I met the confusion in my neighbourhood that a baby has been abandoned beside my home. I immediately went to see the baby that has been in the care of one of my neighbours that is much younger and a nursing mother.

On the following day I immediately went to the market to shop for baby things so that we can make the baby comfortable. The case was also reported  to the police and state welfare department for necessary documentation. The child law in Nigeria is that the child could not be brought up in the vicinity of where she was found but I insisted that I must be carried along on every step of the child adoption. This week we decided to take the child for immunization and test for HIV and hepatitis B and C.

It was very sad to discover during the test that this child is HIV positive and then the night mare began. Everyone that has been hustling for the adoption of the baby ran away, nobody want to have anything to do with her again, even the orphanages around rejected her. It was then that I realized how terrible the stigma of HIV is in our society. Presently this child is a state hospital but my heart is always with her. I am a very busy person and I had a baby last 18 years ago. I know it will be very expensive taking care of this baby because the retroviral drug is very expensive in Nigeria but yet my heart is always with this baby that I knew I was the target of the mother for dropping her beside my home. The mother trusted me that I could take care of her baby but it is like I am disappointing her right now. I am in a fix, I don't know what to do my friends.

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Olutosin
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

Ooohhhh I am in tears. My heart is broken because of the little girl. I pray that God will be with her, thanks so much for your love and care for us.

This must have been the reason the mother abandoned her. The frequency of which babies are abandoned in Nigeria these days is very high.

Obisakin Busayo
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

It is not palatable at all my sister! We don't even know the mother contacted HIV, it might be through rape. My heart has been broken since Wednesday that have got the news. Things are so difficult for people financially that is why the case of abandon babies has been on the increase. Thank you for your concerns my sister

Warmest Love

Busayo 

Bim Adegbite
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

This is truly heart breaking.  My dear sister, this can be burdensome and overwhelming but I'd suggest you just take one day at a time.  Give the baby a name (even if it's one you give personally) and continue to share her story.  There are people out there who will be drawn to her and take up her case as you support them through the process. Find out the actual cost of the antiretroviral drug and make it known.  Sometimes when things seem so big, we break it into bits and others may realize where they can be of assistance. I pray this darling one finds a home because she deserves the love and care. ....Her mom trusted you and already you are not disappointing, you are already making a difference.  One day at a time. God bless!

Obisakin Busayo
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

Thank you so much my sister for your encouragement. I will do just as you have suggested. I really appreciate your comment

Love

Busayo

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

Hello, Obisakin,

My heart is breaking in pieces to know about rhis little girl's story. There are cases in the Philippines where a mother leaves her baby inside a plastic bag and throw the child in a trash can. But this one is trult heartbreaking because the baby is HIV+.

It is so sad that she already feels rejection in her first few days/weeks on earth. I am praying that she will be well and she will grow up surrounded with love and acceptance.

Please do not feel bad about yourself. You did what you think is the best for her. 

Love from the Philippines,

Karen

Obisakin Busayo
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

Thank you so much Karen for your kind words. I pray so too that she will grow up surrounded with Love and acceptance.

Love

Busayo

Jill Langhus
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

Hi Busayo. That's so sad:( Maybe some special parents will come along to take care of her. Please keep us posted on what happens with her.

Obisakin Busayo
May 04, 2018
May 04, 2018

Hi Jill,

Yes it is so sad! Definitely I will keep you posted as things are going on.

Thank you so much

Love

Busayo

Jill Langhus
May 05, 2018
May 05, 2018

Poor thing. Please give her plenty of hugs from me:) Thanks, and you're welcome:)

Beth Lacey
May 07, 2018
May 07, 2018

I will say prayers that God shows you the right path.

Beth

Obisakin Busayo
May 08, 2018
May 08, 2018

Thank you so much Beth for your prayers!

Love

Busayo

AbdulRaheem Dirisu
May 07, 2018
May 07, 2018

Good Day Madam Obisakin Busayo,Sincerely I don't know what to say,It really a sad moment.I'll revert soon I can't really think but by God grace,I'll do some consultation to safe the life of the baby.You have not disappointed her absent and God.God knows your capacity and effort you have put in.Be strong for others and we join you in pray and action plan for survive the innocent baby.

Obisakin Busayo
May 08, 2018
May 08, 2018

Thank you so much my brother for your kind words and encouragement. By God's grace consultation is going on and soon the baby will be in a safe hand

Warmly

Busayo

AbdulRaheem Dirisu
May 08, 2018
May 08, 2018

Thanks for the progressive update.God is able.Your effort is recorded by God.You will not be disappointed.The good news must come by God grace.

judy_2
May 08, 2018
May 08, 2018

This is a heartbreaking story. A mother who abandons her child for exactly what reason we do not know. And now an infant is laying in a hospital fighting HIV without her mother. For whatever reason, her mother chose you. You are. OT disappointing. You are fighting for her life too. May you receive many blessings 

Obisakin Busayo
May 08, 2018
May 08, 2018

Thank you Judy for your encouragement. I hope soon I will be able to give you good news about the baby

warmest Love

Busayo

Corine Milano
May 17, 2018
May 17, 2018

This is heartbreaking. Busayo, you are in a hard position here — and also, it is wonderful that you are seen as someone in the community who will be able to help in a situation like this. I am sure you are having a number of emotions and thoughts about this experience and about what you can and cannot provide here. I am glad to know this baby has medical care now. Has there been an update since you posted? My thoughts are with this baby, her mother, and YOU. Sending love from Oregon.

Obisakin Busayo
May 22, 2018
May 22, 2018

Thank you so much Corine, The baby is now in charge of Unicef and I was told she will be taking to US. That was what I heard last. The last time I went to see her she was still in a mission hospital in Osogbo. She is doing fine and well taking care of.

Warmest Love 

Busayo