SEXUAL AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SURGE DURING CONVID 19

Busayo Obisakin
Posted July 16, 2020 from Nigeria
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Though COVID 19 cases increase on daily basis but the crying we hear from every corner of Nigeria is that of rape and not death from COVID 19. The most gruesome ones are rape of minors even from six months old, 2 years old 4 years old and so on. Girls are raped and killed and rape of very old women like 80 years old and so on. No female is safe now in Nigeria. Baby, young, teenager, adult and very old, are all prone to rape. Not even in the street again the rapist break into houses to rape the women, girls and children.

It got to a stage that women activists round the country cried out and then the governors declared State of Emergency on Sexual and Domestic violence. Despite that the violence continues. Women and girls are now living in fear.

Wife battering has become the order of the day. Women are battered and most of the hospital are closed due to the pandemic which means there is no place to receive treatment. Many women would be no more after this pandemic not as a result of COVID 19 Virus but as a result of injury sustained from sexual and domestic violence. Many girls would not resume back to school, those who have not died would be nursing the unwanted pregnant they got as a result of sexual violence.

We only her of safe environment for women and girls in the news in Nigeria but in reality, no female gender is safe anywhere in Nigeria. Women and girls are not safe in the street, we are not safe in our homes and we don’t know where to run to.

We the grassroot activist are so overwhelmed that we are so confused and have no idea of how we can be helping women and girls in our community again. I think it is time that we all seat down globally, those in government and those working at the grassroot level, look into the cause of this surge and then explore the lasting solution to it.

In Nigeria most of the rapist are using their victim for money rituals and this is not far from the lack of employment opportunities and high poverty rate in the country. The youth love life and they want to enjoy it to the fullest, there is no employment for them, no hope of a better future even when they have suffered themselves to go to school.

Our wealth is the hand of very few people and they don’t hide as they and their children flaunt this wealth around in the country. And so, the youths also device their own means of getting rich by all means as they engage in either internet scam or money rituals. They use all kinds of female parts for all these rituals.

Women and girls are the one facing the heat of poverty, misappropriation of fund, bad leadership of the developing countries especially African countries. Serious conversation on sexual and domestic violence must start now! Conversations that will cut across all works of life, not some few people, conversation that will force government to do something concrete in their various country on sexual and domestic violence. African Countries especially Nigeria must look into laws on sexual and domestic and amend immediately. “ENOUGH IS ENOUGH”

We are going to intensify our advocacy on creating change in the area of sexual and domestic violence both on the radios, offline and online. Empowerment and support for survivors of sexual and domestic violence will be a serious priority during and after COVID 19 lockdown.

More men would be engaged to be part of the activism against Violence against women and men would also be targeted to be empowered to live with their female counterpart in peace and with mutual respect.

Government stake holders would be engaged to review laws and make new laws that will eradicate this menace in our society. Magistrates and judges would also be engaged to ensure justice are adequately served on cases of gender-based violence especially rape and other domestic violence.

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ARREY- ECHI
Jul 16
Jul 16

Dear Busayo,

Hope you are doing well. Thank you for shinning the light on what has become a pandemic within a pandemic. The rape culture is getting increasingly alarming.

To curb this, men and women need to be educated and especially the power dynamics which make men feel superior need to be revisited.

Please stay save as you continue to create impact.

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 17
Jul 17

Thank you Sis! Definitely patriarchy culture need to be erased. Stay safe too!
Love
Busayo

Arem
Jul 17
Jul 17

Thank you for shedding light on this horrific issue, Busayo. As you said, "ENOUGH IS ENOUGH".
You are an inspiration and I'm cheering and praying for you as you intensify your advocacy. Keep up the excellent work and faith. Day-by-day...step-by-step...you will get there.
I hope you write more stories and keep us posted on the progress.
Take care.

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 17
Jul 17

Thank you so much Arem for your encouragement. Together we can and we will!
Continue to stay safe
Love
Busayo

Jill Langhus
Jul 17
Jul 17

Hello Busayo Dear,

How are you holding up, Love? This must be so stressful and draining for you to have to keep putting up with these stressful situations. You can always reach out to me if you need some extra support. Otherwise, in the interim, I hope you're taking care of yourself?

I'm very glad you're planning on increasing empowerment and support for these women. Really it's about prevention, as most things are. Are there any shelters there at all for women, so they have somewhere to go? And is SRHR studied there as a regular class. I really think the government should be addressing this, too, along with laws, but it's my understanding that laws are great, when they're actually upheld. And, even better if there's no reason in the first place, i.e., lack of GBV in the first place to have laws to uphold. We'll get there, dear. Hang in there:-)

XX

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 17
Jul 17

I am doing well Jill! Yes stressful especially now with the surge but I am taken good care of myself my dear. The serious problem is there are no shelter and the abused has to continue to lock up with the abusers because there is where to go. I have been working to get a temporary shelter but not successful yet
Thank you
Busayo

Jill Langhus
Jul 18
Jul 18

Great to hear, dear:-)

I'm very glad to hear you're taking good care of yourself. I'm curious to hear what you found out about the upsurge in GBV.

Yeah, I hear you about no shelters:-( Hmm. Okay, dear. I'll keep that in mind.

Hope you have a good weekend, dear! See you soon!

XX

Chi8629
Jul 17
Jul 17

Thank you for sharing .

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 19
Jul 19

Thanks

Millynairi
Jul 22
Jul 22

Dear Busayo,
It is so sad that the rapists break into homes. I hope something is done urgently to stop this cruel and awful act.

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 24
Jul 24

Yes very sad my Sister! We are doing all we can and we are getting some good results.
Thank you for your love
Love
Busayo

Hello, hardworking sister Busayo,

Oh, my. How horrible it is! It's my first time to hear about "A State of Emergency on Sexual and Domestic Violence". There should be zero tolerance on rape.

How are the perpetrators punished? I hate rape so much that the punishment I could think of is either removal of the man's part or death.

Hugs to you, our brave warrior! You are Nigeria's shero. May God protect you always as you protect His daughters.

We stand with you!

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 24
Jul 24

Hello my dear Sister Karen,
yes! so horrible. Some of the reported cases are taking to family court and rape cases to high courts. Thank God at this time we are getting more justice than before and it has been a sort of relief
Thank you Sis
Love
Busayo

Veronica Ngum Ndi
Jul 27
Jul 27

Dear Busayo
Hope you are doing well and keeping safe in this difficult times.Thanks for sharing your thoughts and giving us an insight on COVID-19 SGBV.Continue sharing for we love to read more
In Sisterhood
Veronica Ngum
Cameroon

Busayo Obisakin
Jul 27
Jul 27

Dear Veronica
Hope you are also doing well and keeping safe in this trying time. We shall overcome! Thank you so much for your encouragement!