Right Wing Women Attack Me

CCarlisi
Posted January 28, 2017 from United States
It's My Body- I chose abortion
My body, My Choices- None of anyone else's business!

On social media I am being shamed for my choice to support women's reproductive freedom. Right Wing women attack my freedom, calling me awful things, making the choice for abortion more difficult than it was, even though I made that choice manyyears ago. The burden of deciding to terminate a pregnancy should be personal, private, and out of the government's reach. It should also be understood by women who act as judge over me. Without knowing my story, my circumstances, my substantial personal burden, I ask are you God? Did not the son of your God forgive unconditionally? I ask to not be battered again, by their words, when they live in protected homes with secure financial comforts. I ask them to take down the posts that burn with judgement against other women. I plead for them to stop making my journey more difficult, as they seem to want to destroy my existence, and to make way for deaths of many women who must choose not to carry an unintended pregnancy.

This story was submitted in response to Women’s Bodies and the Law.

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CCarlisi
Jan 28, 2017
Jan 28, 2017

I have trembled under the pressure of shunning among those in my community who make judgment against me. I am a single mother. Many married men make passes at me, and their women ravage me with judgments. There are no dinner invitations. I love my children & their friends, our pets & the great outdoors.

Jill Langhus
Jan 29, 2017
Jan 29, 2017

Hi there, I wholeheartedly agree. No one knows what journey or story anyone has, and it's no one's business but our own what we do with our bodies. I would suggest if these are "friends" on your social media that you no longer "friend" them, personally. I think life is too short to not have only supportive and loving people in your tribe. Thanks for sharing your story.

Carol Sunborn
Jan 29, 2017
Jan 29, 2017

As a woman who had an abortion many years ago just after it became legal, I can tell you that speaking out about our choices is the best thing we can do to help the judgemental situation most women experience around the world. What I don't understand is if other people think that women should not have full reproductive rights why are those people stingy with help for unwanted and poor children around the world. Oh, yes, I forget that poor and unwanted children are women's problems that they brought on themselves. 

Still, I hear (but have not done this) that sitting with the problem with people who disagree is a good way to enlighten  and inform others. 

Carrie Lee
Jan 30, 2017
Jan 30, 2017

No one knows, and no one should judge. I would block these people from your social media feeds. 

I love this quote by Sister Joan Chittister:  "I do not believe that just because you're opposed to abortion, that that makes you pro-life. In fact, I think in many cases, your morality is deeply lacking if all you want is a child born but not a child fed, not a child educated, not a child housed. And why would I think that you don't? Because you don't want any tax money to go there. That's not pro-life. That's pro-birth. We need a much broader conversation on what the morality of pro-life is."

People judge, yet they have no idea what personal journey and considerations a woman made.

Love to you. 

Carrie

CCarlisi
Jan 31, 2017
Jan 31, 2017

Thank you for commenting. Your support feels really great as I'm isolated quite a bit. A book I knew I had to write after my first of two daughters was born exposes (in detail) my experience of abortion & abuse, including graphic childhood sexual assault. "Thrashed," my title, is a surfing term for getting tumbled under the waves. Metaphorically women are thrashed all over the world. I trembled & cried while writing. Keeping honest conversation going, exposing gut wrenching pain, some understanding may grow. My first born was killed in a car wreck, July 18th, 2013, in Croatia. Guilt & grief weigh on my heart. I struggle to gain some footing, financial, emotional, physical, like climbing a cold dark slope of sliding shale, and your words here feel like a hand reaches for mine, lifting me towards some solid ground, a foundation we form with each other.

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