MY MONTHLY VISITOR

CHIOMA EVANGELINE OKAFOR
Posted May 6, 2017 from Nigeria
The Girl and her monthly visitor

It was during a long vacation holiday after my thirteenth birthday at my Uncle's place. I woke up and noticed the whole bed was soaked with blood. Oh God! could it be my period I shouted. I was so scared at the amount of blood stain on the bedspread. I had to start washing the stains off before my Uncle's wife wakes up. I threw away my pant and use the tissue paper throughout the four days it lasted.

When I traveled back home, I told my Mother, she was happy but left me scared with her advice " Chioma she called me; NEVER ALLOW A MAN TOUCH OR NEAR YOU WHEN YOU ARE ON! You are now a full grown woman who can get pregnant when touched by a man. Is this what I got myself into, I exclaimed. My mother gave me napkins cut into two and instructed me to use it whenever I see it again. Did I forget to mention that I was NEVER told it can come at the beginning, middle orend of the month depending on your cycle. Innocent me kept on waiting for the end of next month to welcome my visitor with my new napkins. I was embarrassed when it came out on the eight day of the next month.

I started avoiding men like a plague especially when my visitor is around I remembered shouting atthe young man who sat next to me in the bus not to near me because am not ready to welcome a baby. This went on till my Aunt was embarrassed the day I refused to sit in the middle of two men in a commercial bus. My Auntwas the one who taught me I can't get pregnant by a mere touch of a man.

I advocate mothers should teach their daughters all they need to know about their body and our monthly visitor.

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We need to create awareness or organize seminars where Girls of primary school age will be taught about their bodies and what happens around it.

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Jill Langhus
May 07, 2017
May 07, 2017

Hi Chioma. Welcome to World Pulse:) Thanks for sharing your story. I agree. I didn't get much more sex education from my family. I believe I was showed a box of tampons and told to read the box. We can do better. Is anything done in your area for sex education? Do you have ideas to improve the situation?

CHIOMA EVANGELINE OKAFOR
May 08, 2017
May 08, 2017

Thank you Jlanghus for your contribution. Yes, something is done in my area for sex education. I t has been added to the education curriculum. I wish to improve the situation by introducing the use of washable and re-usable fabric made pads. The fabric made pads is very affordable especially to school girls in the Eastern part of Nigeria because the normal pad is no longer affordable.

Jill Langhus
May 08, 2017
May 08, 2017

You're welcome:) Oh, good to hear. Yes, that makes sense. I know other ladies that already do that in your country. Good job. Looking forward to seeing more posts from you. Have a great day.