Women helping women

Christiechikwe4
Posted November 29, 2020 from Nigeria

I had this neighbor in my neighborhood who was constantly battering her fiancee. This went on for a long time. I had the come in in other to have a first hand knowledge of the happenings. Surprising that case was unreconcilable because this guy wasn't even ready to settle down with her. He was too demanding,he wanted a nurse, he hated her family cause she was raised by a single mom and so many other lame reasons. I had to intervene yet again during one other fight.

Moved her into my family house my room to be precise. Encouraged her, and followed her to her mom. To say I was shocked to know that the mom wasn't even ready to have her back or understand the predicament she was going through is an understatement. I had to beg her to  cool allow heroff at home before going back. 

I encouraged the girl to get a job and move out of the house instead of going back to a monster of a man since her mom wasn't ready to house her.

This story was submitted in response to Sharing Solutions: Ending GBV.

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Tamarack Verrall
Nov 29, 2020
Nov 29, 2020

Dear Christie,
This is such a sad story, and happens all too often. This woman will never forget the kindness and respect you have been showing her. This is true sisterhood.

jomarieb.earth
Nov 30, 2020
Nov 30, 2020

Dear Christie,
You reached out. You planted an important seed. You made an exemplary effort to help a young woman. How the story continues is up to her. Sometimes you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make them drink it.
Sometimes they are ready for a better way, and sometimes they are not. But, you made an amazing effort. Possibly risking your own well being. You did what you felt was right. The important thing is that you encouraged, showed and offered. And it was from your heart. Bravo!
Hugs...JoMarie

Nini Mappo
Dec 01, 2020
Dec 01, 2020

Hello Christie,
It was so good of you to be a bridge for your neighbor, hopefully to a life of wholeness and safety. Perhaps she had no where to go and stayed on because her mother didn't want to house her. Sometimes women remain in abusive relationships because they have no options. You became the option, and the voice of reason and comfort and also to bring solutions to her dilemma. I hope that she rallies herself to get work and reclaim her life.
Good on you, for helping a sister in dire circumstances.

Sujit
Dec 03, 2020
Dec 03, 2020

Dear Christie

It must have been so reassuring for her that she is not alone. And you gave her that reassurance!

Bravo

Sujit

Karen QuiƱones-Axalan
Dec 03, 2020
Dec 03, 2020

Hello, Christie,

Welcome to World Pulse! It's a joy that a new voice from Nigeria is rising up.

You are a real life shero. You rescued a woman in need and empower her to access economic freedom. I agree with Tam, she will not forget your love and kindness.

Thank you for caring. Please continue to share your stories. We want to know more about you!

Andrace
Dec 04, 2020
Dec 04, 2020

Hi Christie,
Thank you so much for your empathy. Thank you for being a peacemaker and saving another sister. Others have lost their lives. That's why we all warmly welcome you to World Pulse, your new family.....Yaaaaayyyyyyy! This is the place to be.

Congratulations on your first post too. I join all my sisters to thank you for sharing.

'Great that you are raising your voice. Keep writing and shining, Sis.

Love and hugs,
E. J.