An African Woman's ordeal

Christine Achieno
Posted February 9, 2021 from Uganda

In rural communities of Uganda, a case study of Busia District, women carry heavy burdens of caring for children and the extended family at large. While their drunken husbands loiter around trading centres, gamble and drink themselves silly, women wake up in wee hours of the night to go to the garden because they have to dig their own and also look for middle income families to dig for them and get paid something little to feed their large families. As she returns home, she has a lot of work to do-from cleaning, cooking, fetching water and firewood, washing because our patriarchal societies have defined their roles. Generally a typical Ugandan woman does not have time for herself, all she does is to work so that the children can have something to eat. She goes to bed very exhausted and expected to offer sex to their husbands, in cases where she is not in the mood she is raped because it's assumed that it's her primary duty. 

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Hello, again Christine,

It's too heartbreaking to read that women suffer so much in Busia District of Uganda, and other parts of the world. This happens because it is part of the culture. How do we put a stop to this? All the things you enumerated spelled abuse to me. Women deserve better. I hope women champions in Uganda step up to challenge this. It's easier said than done. Thank you for sharing this story with us. I hope this is not the case with you? Thank you for being the voice of these women.

bhavsinghrandev
Feb 10
Feb 10

Hi Christine,
It's such a disgrace that women in today's modern day are subjected to such torture. Thanks for sharing this. People need to be aware of such things. Keep sharing.

Nini Mappo
Feb 10
Feb 10

Hello Christine,
You relate a true and painful tale for so many marginalized women in Africa, not just in the said district. I wonder if the women know that there is better. In my village they don't. They continue in the slave work. It is infuriating. And educating them is a start to their freedom. I wonder whether there are women empowerment groups in Busia you could partner with in bringing this message to those who it would benefit most.

Christine Achieno
Feb 10
Feb 10

Yes dear, thanks for the concern. We have have a women's rights organization but i think they have never gotten funds for such projects.

Nini Mappo
Feb 10
Feb 10

They don't have to get funds. They can start as grassroots projects. For example in Kenya we have what we call 'chamas', which is an informal savings merry-go-round initiated by women who know each other and they meet weekly or monthly. A change activator can go and speak to women in these settings, who will in turn spread the word, and begin the change in perspectives and expectations. There many organizations that started like that, and were eventually funded for expansion, because people saw that they were doing important work. It could be worth a try.

Christine Achieno
Feb 10
Feb 10

Thanks Mappo, of late we actually have so many Saving groups where members meet on a weekly basis. It's actually good to tap into such opportunities

Laetitia Shindano
Apr 13
Apr 13

Chere Christina
Merci de partager la situation alarmante que vive la plupart des femmes du district de Busia.
Je penses qu'il faut seulement informer ces femmes et leur mari sur leurs droits humains ,sur la répartition equitable du travail dans leur menage et autres informations sur le genre. Le travail de changement des mentalités est ardu mais il finira par améliorer la vie de ces femmes.
Courage et à bientot.
Laetitia