I had added my secondary school friend to our Whatsapp group where after 29 years of leaving school everyone onboard was super excited to comment and travel back in time .
We cracked jokes and called one another by their nickname.It was beautiful coming together online again.Yet for weeks on end my friend who was also my classmate never commented.
One day i decided to call the number with which i had added her on the group,it rang and she pivked.
After the pleasantries i asked why she was not talking on the class group.Initially, she said nothing.Then i reminded her that i work with women and she could confide in me.She then opened up.She said her husband of more than 20 years took another wife 7 years ago and got the new wife an apartment leaving her and her kids in their house.He visits once in two weeks and each time he came around he demanded for het phone and goes through her call log, messages and social media handles.
He was looking for any vonversation that he could latch on to send her packing.She is not empowered as he refused she should work or do any serious business.
My friend fears if he sends her packing she may not be able to pay her children through school.
She fears she might be throxn out like her mum and a step mother bringing up her children.
My friend has been intimidated into silence.
My friend has lost that life in every enthudiastic living person.
My heart broke for my friend. I could only help by adding her to an online vocational training group where she might learn a thing or two to empower her.
Women! Never get so beaten up by life to loose your self esteem.Domestic Violence is not just physical , but emotional, psycological and financial.
He forbids her from visiting even her family and no one visits her.She is dying slowly but does not know.
I pray i can prep her up to the point that she can become fearless and truely live.
I feel for my friend.