The Visit

Chinyere Kalu
Posted February 16, 2020 from Nigeria
The Visit
The Emotional Visit

Yesterday i decided to visit a Children's Home for a change with some members of my women group.It was my first time of going to an orphanage.I was excited initially but on seeing the children/ babies igot emotional.

I had seen cute and lovely babies and my heart was broken.

I ask: Why will a woman carry her child for nine months, go through the birth pangs, give birth and then dump the child.

I couldnt fathom any reason on earth to warrant such a senseless act.

Let us get closer to our girls as parents, make them our friends and  confidant.Let us be the first they come to when confused about life.

I cant judge anyone of those women who abandoned their kids neither will i pat them on the back for their inhumane act.

Can we be less judgemental on seeing a pregnant unmarried teenage girl?

Can we as women begin to look out for one another?

Can we decide to rise by raising others?

Questions! Questions and endlesss quedtions for women.

Hmmm! I rest my pen here for now.

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Anita Shrestha
Feb 16
Feb 16

Dear sister
You are doing great work. Please keep continue

Hello, dear,

Visiting an orphanage can really bring mix emotions, especially when the services there are not well. I saw a TED Talk where the speaker shared orphans are not truly cared for in such places. The solution is for these children to belong to families. It’s such a complicated issue. I agree with you, there are so many questions to ask.

Thank you for sharing.
I believe the children are happy to see you.

laison sylvie
Feb 17
Feb 17

Most of these things women do, are for fear of stigmatisation. I can speak for teenage pregnant girls because I work with them and I hear their stories. We need to listens to the stories of these women without judging and see how we can help them so they don't feel condemned.

Metiege Noel Eve
Feb 17
Feb 17

My dear sister. It is so touching to see some of these kids in motherless babies homes. It is sure our responsibilities as women to try to give hope to these children. Many women give up these kids not as a Desiree but due to societal dictates like poverty. War etc. Let's all be our sisters keeper.

Beth Lacey
Feb 17
Feb 17

You raise all the right points

Kabahenda
Feb 17
Feb 17

I am glad that you took the trouble to visit, hold those kids and to show them love and appreciation.

Apart from shelter, food and clothing, orphaned children need love: a hug and kind words will go a long way to soothe the longing that we may not see on the surface.
Keep visiting, keep holding amd hugging the children, tell them that you love them, and you will have given them something that money cannot buy.

All the best to you in your noble mission. I would encourage you to invite your women friends to accompany you on your visits.

maeann
Feb 18
Feb 18

Babies are a gift from heaven. There are some women who cannot conceive. Yet some women can conceive that easily. I hope that these babies will find love and care.0

Ekitah
Feb 18
Feb 18

Hi sister!
That is a great job you are doing out there.More grease, thanks for sharing!

Wukwen Destiny
Feb 18
Feb 18

Hi Kalu thanks for taking out time to visit .This problem, together with related issues like teenage pregnancy, child marriage and the decreasing age of sexual debut among teenagers appear regularly as “shocking news”.Let us get closer to our girls as parents, make them our friends and confidant. True we need to be there for one another.

Regina Afanwi Young
Feb 19
Feb 19

You are an amazing person to have taken off timeto visit this kids. It's always so emotional. Am personally touched by your advice. Yes we must talk about sexual and reproductive health to our children early enough.

Felicitas Wung
Feb 26
Feb 26

Dear kalu,
You did a great job by visiting an orphanage to share your love with such cute babies just like the one you are carrying.
Indeed the questions are endless as you said. But the best thing is that we make friends with such unmarried teenage girls and see how we can advise them in a friendly manner.