Come Oh Come, Menopause!

Chinyere Kalu
Posted May 18, 2021 from Nigeria

It is said that : You don't know what you have until you loose it.So it was that as a girl I had the most pleasurable monthly period. It was very predictable,depandant and stress- free. I was so lucky that if my period date was the 4th of a month it could stay on that day for years. Be sure it will show up as you opened your eyes from sleep in the morning or just before bedtime at night  

I marveled at how perfect God's handwork was and felt really blessed .

Fast forward to 26 years later, when I had hit the Peri Menopause phase,it became the opposite of all I had experienced as a girl. It became erratic, unpredictable, uncontrollable and could be for as long as two weeks!.

Can I ever forget the 18th of August 2018 when I had to embark on a long journey which incidentally was the 2nd day of my period. The 2nd and the 3rd day we're usually the days it came flooding. I had passed my self so well that sitting comfortable became an up hill task. 

As we journeyed ,we had a flat tyre and all passengers were asked to disembark so the tyre can be fixed. No sooner had I set  my feet on the ground did I feel the surge of  hot blood. It by  passed all the pad and ran straight through my legs to the ground. I was instantly soaked and the ground on which I stood was instantly bloodied.  The ladies I was in the bus with screamed. They thought I was in serious trouble . I allayed their fears by telling them I was on my period. 

One quicky got me some bottled water and helped me into a nearby bush where I cleaned myself while the other helped get me another set of clothes from my luggage that I changed into.

It's not been funny at all. I have resorted to taking the 3 months family planning injections as this helps to stall the period for as long as am on it but the flip side is whenever I want to have my period I stop the injection and it won't just rush ,it floods for almost two weeks .

This is how I have been managing myself and I can't wait for menopause to set it 

I just can't wait 

This story was submitted in response to Menstruation Matters.

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May 19
May 19

Thank you for sharing. This is natural cycle every woman has to go through. Different women have difference experience at different stages. We can go through it.
May Almighty God bless you!

Jill Langhus
May 19
May 19

Hello Chinyere,

How are you, dear? Thanks for sharing such a personal experience. That was nice that you had some friends to help you on that traumatic day. Oh, wow! I hear you, but in a different way. I always had very painful periods that were somewhat erratic, so reaching peri-menopause has been pretty great for me, apart from from some of the side effects such as hot flashes and vaginal dryness.

You may want to try these resources. I love Dr. Northrup.
Blog post:

Also, her book which I plan on buying. It gives a different than mainstream view on menopause that you may find enlightening/refreshing. I hope you get some relief soon, dear.

Beth Lacey
May 20
May 20

I know exactly what you are going through, since I was there once. It is tough to get through, for sure. I am sending hopes for a quick resolution.

Tamarack Verrall
May 21
May 21

Dear Chinyere,
May your journey through get easier and have you enjoying never bleeding again. It is such a journey. Menopausal Years, The Wise Woman Way by Susun Wiseheart is a great book too. Being post menopausal has such advantages. A special time. I wish you a smoother journey from here on.

Amina Hanga
May 23
May 23

Thanks for sharing Tamarack. I will look out for the book.

May 28
May 28

Thank you for sharing your story. I hope you are keeping well and staying strong.