My Personal Asset Map

coolasas
Posted December 8, 2015 from Philippines
The Lake and The Colorful Boats (Pokhara, Nepal / 2015)
The water is me and I have all the boat I can use to reach as many people I could with my love for the work I do and for all other things I can share about myself

This assignment is long overdue, thanks for the encouragement I received in my e-mail, I am nowfinishing this up. You can read some of my old submissions in my site and I hope I can get more of you to know me better after this.

Mapping my personal asset was a way for me to acknowledge who I am, not waiting for someone to tell me about it but rather it was a chance for me to look at myself from inside out and I have to say I am happy with what I had discovered I have. I maybe undermining myself when I say I have nothing much to share but actually, if you may allow me, I have a lot to share and I hope it goes beyond this writing.

I am an easy going kind of person, easily relatable. Although I have my tempers but who doesn’t right? Over years of working in development, meeting people from all background, from different cultures, I learned to stretch my patience and be more adaptable. It was not easy with my personality but with opening my mind a little bit more I managed to curb them and use them to my advantage. When I am at work I command respect by befriending most of my staff, there was no other way in my opinion and through that I make sure they still know their boundaries and that nothing is achieved without mutual respect, and then I get what needs to be done with less stress and mumbling under breath.

My family is my inspiration and I am lucky to belong to one that celebrates success and that allowed me and my siblings to be who we want to be. There were no pressure from my parents, they are not the kind who tells their children who they should be, so that was always a good thing. My siblings and I enjoy who we are now and that is thanks to my parents and immediate families who helped raised us. I was born and bred in the city and being a high achiever was nothing new to us but my personality iskindalaid back – I don’t stressthat easily and I carried it through my work life. I believed that everything can be solved and nothing good comes out when done in a rush but I do have good tendencies to have bright ideas during “crunch times”.

I have few besties but those I have are the few that in spite of the distance and time we never lost touch and never lost the interest in each other’s lives. We all lived different lives, I am the only one who’s not in a relationship but it doesn’t matter, we all choose the life we live and that’s all that matters. Over the years though, I made tons of new friends, they come and go and some stick around even in social medial. That’s given with the kind of work I do, staying short time in a country is difficult to forge a lasting friendship than when you’re in school but it does not stop me from reaching out – I am good at sending emails and messages whenever I can and in whatever occasion. So far I am happy with the lot I have and I have enough room to accommodate more J

Now that I don’t take long mission, I have time to join a local disability group and volunteer my time, skills and knowledge (and sometimes my cooking). This is to help them set up the organization well, using my experience doing the same in other countries. We don’t have a very strong support group for people with disabilities, who’s often marginalized in all aspect of life and living. Where I live is hilly and for a person using an assistive and mobility devices that would be a challenge. At the same time, our government is riddled with corruption, the money intended for the sector is oftendiverteddo something or somewhere elsebecause most of the members of the group doesn’t know how to access them and are often thought to be stupid to know.

We have a very bad case of “padrino system” in the country especially where I live. Nepotism is rife and always a hindrance to the development of one community and it’s hard for me to break in because one, I am not very political and two, I am very outspoken, slightly diplomatic and always not loved by those in power (temper remember?). I also deal the same thing in Africa and other Asian countries I worked in but it’s different when you’re in your country because it goes straight to the core and it can easily blew a fuse!

Good that I am well versed with local laws and international treaties on disability, gender and children’s rights, so I use them to help advocating for the group. It was not very easy having been away for so long but slowly I am building my local network of professionals and experts I can use to progress my cause and use my international network for other things – new trends and maybe financial support, now that would be great!

I hope to be able to do a lot for the group – long term and be able to raise their level of confidence to be who they want to be and to bring their organization above par simply because the people I am joining with now are empowered just me and the people I helped over the years.

Wish me luck!

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Tamarack Verrall
Dec 09, 2015
Dec 09, 2015

Hi Coolasas,

You say "the water is me" and this is how your story of your Personal Assets Map reads. Flowing, energetic, full of heart and feeling. I feel grateful to have the chance to get to know you better through it. Easy going, but with a strong temper when needed for strength to stand up to situations that require it. Supportive family, good besties, love of your independent choices for your own life, able to bring your laid back and friendly manner into your work places, and committment to people with disabilities who are forgotten by so many. A keen and mind, educated beyond the basics in human rights, by personal determination an vision. Wow, Coolasas. Those form the summary of what I now carry when I think of you. So happy to know more about you.

Wishing you the best of luck with all you are doing,

Tam

coolasas
Dec 09, 2015
Dec 09, 2015

Thank you Tam for this wonderful comment. I am humbled reading what you take from my post and I hope I could live up to it -- in action. 

I am impressed with the women and men here and I wan to be part of the movement of empowered women and so is the group I am helping. 

Thanks once again and read more from you too :) 

Cheers! 

Coolasas

Stephanie Auxier
Dec 10, 2015
Dec 10, 2015

Coolasas,

I am so glad to read your personal assets map and learn more about you! I like what you wrote about the importance of knowing our own personal assets - so that we are defining them for ourselves instead of letting others tell us who we are. Through the way you describe your work I can tell you are a passionate advocate, especially for people with disabilities, and I hope that you continue sharing with us about your life and your work so we can learn from your insight and experiences. 

Best,

Stephanie

coolasas
Dec 15, 2015
Dec 15, 2015

Hello Stephanie, 

You're the force behind me finishing up, thank you.

I am back home and with me are five months of good experience from my time in Nepal, I am still gathering my thoughts and going through lots of photos to go with it but eventually I will share my stories here and hopefully reach out to more. 

Namaste! 

coolasas

Michelle Helman
Dec 11, 2015
Dec 11, 2015

It's hard work to look within for the answers, as much as I want someone else to tell me what I want. I can relate! It's also nice to hear to set aside time for volunteering. Thanks for sharing your story - the heart is free indeed! When I play music my heart feels free, especially from so much worry and anxiety.

~Michelle

coolasas
Dec 15, 2015
Dec 15, 2015

Hello Michelle, 

Thank you for your comment and for sharing a bit of yourself, you see we believe in the same thing that our hearts are free and indeed - to love and be love and to be free from the stresses of the world even for a short time. 

When I am home (i have a post of the same title) I do volunteer, I can't sit idly, my mind races with ideas and I have to do something about it that is why I am doing it and somehow my way of giving back something because I work a lot overseas that I am loosing touch in my own village. 

Keep the music playing ... good luck to you! 

Coolasas

nsahmala
Dec 16, 2015
Dec 16, 2015

HelloHi Coolasas!

It is better late than never. I am glad you have caught up and you are coming on full gear, with enough determination to concentrate your enormous experience in helping out disabled persons in your community. You can now garner support from your local and international netwworks and crowfund to get necessary funds. Welcome to World Pulse. You are at the right place. Courage.

Nsah Mala

Cameroon

coolasas
Dec 17, 2015
Dec 17, 2015

Hello Keneth, 

I am glad I did and it was always nice to receive good comments like this to keep me going. 

I wish you also good continuation. 

Good luck and happy holidays! 

Coolasas

bgebstadt
Dec 21, 2015
Dec 21, 2015

Hello coolasas,

Thanks for sharing. I loved how you shared that this exercise encouraged us to look at the inside out. I agree.

ANd I loved how you talked about the relationships that inspired you. May they continue to do so!

Happy Holidsay,

Lisa Alfano
Dec 21, 2015
Dec 21, 2015

Hi Coolasas,

I loved reading your Personal Assets Map. I got a strong sense of who you are and could feel your energy and passion come through your words. Your work with the disabled community, and how they are treated in your country, can use a strong person with conviction to ensure the right thing is done and you are the perfect person to help make that happen. 

I see some of me in you as I too am a bit impatient, have a strong, determined side and am not afraid to speak my mind...sometimes, this side of me gets me in trouble. Yet at the end of the day, my intent is for the good of the person and for the community and it comes through, as does your intent with the people you serve and work with.

Traveling and being away from home is such a wonderful way to make new connections and learn about cultures, politics, ways of life you would not have should you have stayed within your region/community. Yet, as you pointed out, you are away from home and away from the happenings in the area where your family and your history is. How have you /are dealing with that duality at this time of your life -- where your work is important in your home country and your skills are needed elsewhere?

I've read your blog posts, and am now a subscriber. I really like your posts and am now even more determined to get to Nepal myself where I want to volunteer and serve, and hike and be part of the community as best I can.

Thank you for sharing your journey, your vulnerability and your passions with us. I look forward to reading more about your journey.

Lisa