Maybe things not working out is actually for the best!

Daeyna Jackson
Posted October 2, 2019 from Jamaica

Have you ever stopped to think about the possibility, the possibility, just throwing it out there, that you actually married the wrong person? Or that you might have married the right person but at the wrong time in your life? One of the scenarios most definitely applied to me.

Even though I have been divorced for a while now, I'm actually happy that things didn't work out the way I intended them to work out, because I understand that they just weren't meant to. 

Sometimes we get so caught up in an idea that we kind of spend our lives living in this nightmare reality that wasn't really meant for us in the first place. But because we have grown to love the idea, we just can't let go of it.

Sometimes a man's purpose in one woman's life is to help her to become a better person for another person. And that was what I had to learn.

My relationship with my ex was toxic and I spent most of my time crying or contemplating suicide. And even though divorce wasn't the first option, even though it wasn't what I wanted, it was what needed to happen. 

Had I not gone through my divorce, I wouldn't have come to Japan, I wouldn't have started blogging, I wouldn't have become a master life coach, I wouldn't have failed, and I wouldn't have started my She Is A Mess podcast. 

So all these amazing things happened because my marriage didn't work out the way I thought it would work out. Sometimes things not working out is actually for the best

(excerpt from episode 3 of She Is A Mess)

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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Anita Shrestha
Oct 03
Oct 03

Dear Daeyna

''Maybe things not working out is actually for the best!''
Thank you sharing !!!!! Keep it continue as previous

Daeyna Jackson
Oct 03
Oct 03

You are so welcome. I believe that everything happens as it should an I will definitely keep on going! Thank you

maeann
Oct 03
Oct 03

Hi Daeyna,
There are somethings that we cannot explain. Some questions are hard to answer. And I agree as you said and I quote: "Sometimes things not working out is actually the best". We also need to give up in order for us to stand up for the best and be better person. Thank you for sharing.

Daeyna Jackson
Oct 03
Oct 03

Yes I believe that we can never truly move forward if we keep holding on to things from the past. We have to be willing to let go and give up the things that aren't meant for us so we can move forward.

Hello, Daeyna,

A lot of women can definitely relate to what you have gone through. I now understand the motivation of your " She Is A Mess" project". You have a powerful message that women need to hear. I believe, too, that when the marriage becomes a haven of abuse, the woman must leave. She needs to protect herselt.

I'm sorry you had to go through that painful experience to the point of wanting to commit suicide. I'm glad you found a way out, and even more, you made yourself into a better person. You are so brave, so strong, so smart, so powerful. You've got to keep that project going, dear.

Thank you for sharing!

Daeyna Jackson
Oct 04
Oct 04

Wow! Thank you for your kind words and your support. I have just gotten started and I am most definitely going to keep going. I want to work with organizations that help women start over because I want to give these women a platform, a voice and hope for a better tomorrow.

You're welcome, sister. A lot of our sisters here are leaders of their own organizations. :) It would be great to be connected with them. :)
Hope you're having a great day!

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Dear Daeyna,
Thank you so much for sharing your story and what you went through. And yes no matter what we go through we always have to look on the bright side of life. Always be strong and keep looking on the bright side. Stay Blessed and have a great day.

Daeyna Jackson
Oct 04
Oct 04

Amen. Thank you so much. Have a blessed day as well

Tarke Edith
Oct 03
Oct 03

Hi Jacskson
Thanks for sharing
You know dear life is full of ups and downs. but it is only God who have the final say in our lives
Be a strong woman and will move on in life.
Stay blessed sister and take good care of your life.

Daeyna Jackson
Oct 04
Oct 04

Thank you so much. I truly appreciate that and I will most definitely keep going and try to help as many people as possible.

Lisbeth
Oct 03
Oct 03

Dear Daeyna,
I have not welcome you yet to World Pulse :-). So you are very most welcome. We are very glad to have you here.
Sorry about your divorce. I hope you are doing well? It's not always easy with divorce even if the partner was misbehaving. I pray you have the courage to accept who you have become.
However, congrats on your visit to Japan. How is Japan? Is it easy to intergrate in the societies there? What about the language haha...
Thanks for sharing your story to us.
Regards

Daeyna Jackson
Oct 04
Oct 04

Hi. Japan is an interesting experience and each day I get more and more used to life here. Learning Japanese has been a fun challenge but I've learned alot along the way about myself and what I'm made of.

Lisbeth
Oct 04
Oct 04

Splendid! It do look like the most slippery language to learn haha. Have a good weekend.

Jill Langhus
Oct 04
Oct 04

Hi Daeyna,

Thanks for sharing your powerful story and message! I quite agree that often most things happen the way they should. I'm glad you heeded the strong warning and listened to your heart and now you're thriving! Good job!

Daeyna Jackson
Oct 04
Oct 04

Hi Jill! Thank you so much. God has been good and I just am bring open to being used by Him.

Jill Langhus
Oct 05
Oct 05

Hello Dear,

You're very welcome! It's great that you are open to being of service and living your life on purpose. Looking forward to seeing more posts from you.

Hope you have a great weekend.

ANJ ANA
Oct 05
Oct 05

Dear Daeyna

Things are sometimes difficult but it always comes with lessons or opportunities.I love your last line and your positive attitude. keep it up...

love and regards,
anjana

Tamarack Verrall
Oct 05
Oct 05

Hi Daeyna,
There can be so much pressure and judgement when a woman wants to leave a marriage. What you have written can make it easier for another who might be struggling. The right to choose our lives is a basic human right. Congratulations on your new chapter, with moving to a new country, and your blog "She's a Mess". What a good title to make it easy to tune into.