GIRLS TIGHTENING DEFENSE BEFORE SHARP SHOOTERS.

Dalitso Lungu
Posted May 30, 2020 from Zambia
Conversations that matter about girls empowerment.
During a session about menstrual hygiene with female footballers at Step Up Youth Zambia,Lusaka Zambia.

 

As schools re-open there is need to strengthen sensitization about Sexual Reproductive Health Rights and Services towards children. The new normal has come with a lot of strict health guidelines that individuals must follow. It is important to understand that Adolescent are more likely to engage themselves in good or abusive relationships during winter. It goes without stating that `prevention is better than cure`. Imparting knowledge about health relationships can be so helpful to young people in that when the clock of puberty ticks often many try to experiment the taste of life. Research has shown that a good number of girls were impregnated during their time in examination classes. However, where right information is passed on consistently, girls will be able to tighten their defense by avoiding sharp shooters who might torn the net of their dignity and pride.  Social distancing has become part of our vocabulary and practice. This intervention must be an advantageous stance for the girl child who might be thinking of risking her opportunity to focus on her studies. It is a good measure that will protect her from being bothered by sugar daddies and young boys who may not even contribute anything towards her goals.  As a matter of fact social distance is not only an obtrusive agent in the fight against Corona viruses but also it does create an atmosphere were romantic undertakings such as roaming around in dark corners, kissing and touching can be avoided. Of course many loss track by involving themselves into sexual relationships without being prudent about life.   It is so unfortunate that older men tend to manipulate the mind of girls in exchange of money and rust. Girls are the most vulnerable especially in the shanty compounds and we must not sweep the dirty under the carpet but in the damp bin as a way to put an end to such immoral activities.  Older men must set as an example by being role models than embarrassing themselves in proposing the lads.  Parents must keenly monitor the moves of their children for direction is better than speed. The need for parents to guide their children on the kind of choices children they intend to make must not be taken lightly.  Conversations about sex must not be shunned in as much the messages about the pandemic of COVID-19 is being spread every day having the knowledge that young people may be in a relationship and the outcomes may not be foreseen.   As a nation we have had a lot of cases of teenage pregnancy and that should be a thing of the past. Young people must be assertive enough to overcome tempting situations that may endanger their lives because the prevalence of Sexual Transmitted Infections Disease may meet their fate.  At times what makes girls to fall for these unintended relationships it is because of lack of resources such as money to afford sanitary pads and as a result he who feeds them will control their mind. This kind of poverty may observed as a potential catalyst towards sexual exploitation and early forced child marriage.  

Adolescents must be clear of their sexual values because the romantic gear might gain momentum that may reverse them to the bridge of failure. It is time to fall in love with books than never before.  In high spirit girls must set and work towards their goals that will break the boundaries of male dominated society in the leadership circle.  Mentoring boys and young men too on the importance of empowering girls and women must not be concealed. The society must function in a manner were its members experience equal rights and opportunities for all.  Seeking the right information of how to cope up with emotions from people one can trust is key. It is in that Adolescent friendly space found at your health facility in your locality in case your child or as a young person you find it difficult to consult from your parents about sexual reproductive health matters just step your foot in and spark the conversation without paying a penny.  You can use the U-Report messaging service number by asking questions sending to 878 using any mobile network for free as long as you have a National Registration Card. This will help you resist the pressure of being hooked up by force. Since school are resuming you can also take advantage of the guidance department and social clubs by learning how to make well informed decisions during this period. Examine the circle of friends you are found with and choose those who are goal oriented this will determine your how far you will make it in life.      

  

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Jill Langhus
May 30
May 30

Hi Dalitso,

How are you? Thanks for sharing your first post! I'm impressed how much of an advocate you are for women, girls, and SRHR, too. I agree with what you're saying. I hope these changes, such as parents getting more involved in sensitizing their children, older men (or any men/boys for that matter) not taking advantage of girls, and more access to information, guidance and support for children to learn from. What is the "U-Report messaging service?" How does it work.

Dalitso Lungu
May 31
May 31

I am so grateful for your feedback.
Well , U-Report messaging operates in manner in which any qualified citizen above the age 16 can register using the line in the text typing `join`then particulars like age, sex, interest are submitted. It can be accessed by any type of mobile or smart offline. It is quick.

Jill Langhus
Jun 01
Jun 01

Thanks! Oh, very interesting. Thanks for sharing. That sounds like a good system, then.

Lungu Wellington
May 31
May 31

Well Articulated Sir

Dalitso Lungu
May 31
May 31

am humbled my brother.

Thelma obani 2020
Jun 01
Jun 01

Thanks for sharing this information with us.

Dalitso Lungu
Jun 02
Jun 02

you are most welcome sister.

Kabahenda
Jun 02
Jun 02

Hello Dalitso,

You have raised very many imporant points and I commend you for this.
A lot of schools here in the West have counselling services, and talking about relationships between girls and boys is not a taboo as it is in the South. Some schools in the South used to have counselling departments or services.
The questions that has been in my mind lately is this: Why or How can we expect boys and girls between 13-18 years of age to know about sex and sexuality? To have the wisdom to defend themselves against Sugar daddies? For starters, girls are taught to obey their elders, so when a young kid is approached by a Sugar daddy or a relative who promises to "help," the poor kid does not what that means until she is in a tight corner and cannot defend her self.
In most families boys and girls live with cousins but nobody has ever told them that it is wrong to have sexual relations with your brother or cousin: remember that these are young kids trying to "experiment" with or learning about sex! Before you know it, a cousin has impregnated a cousin!! The language used is "playing" sex!

My point is that it is high time to counsel boys and girls or to teach them about human relationships, a subject that has been ignored with terrible consequences.

I encourage you to share your message with head-teachers, teachers, and parents because the girls and boys need to be informed about the consequences of their actions.

It is the only way to stop unwanted teenage pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases.

Keep up the good work.

Anita Shrestha
Jun 03
Jun 03

Thank u for sharing

Chi8629
Jun 07
Jun 07

Thank you for sharing.