How Do You Deal With Body Shaming?

Deborahajala1
Posted October 16, 2021 from Nigeria
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Your dictionary dot com defines body shaming as the practice of making critical, potentially humiliating comments about a person's size or weight.

The effect can be so great that the victim’s relationship and work will be negatively affected.

As a content creator, I concentrated more on text contents for a long time because I was shy of showing my small body via video contents. 

I used to avoid audio contents too until I learned to love my unique voice. 

I tell you what! 

I had to start telling myself and my friends that:

Anybody fatter than me is too fat

Anybody taller than me is too tall

Any voice thicker than mine is too thick

Everything about me is just perfect

I am wonderfully and fearfully made

"God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good". Yeah! I’m one of His creatures and I am very good

I’ve learned to celebrate my gap teeth instead of focusing on the unique effect it has on my audio production. Besides, there are alternative ways of creating audiobooks and other audio contents that I have fallen in love with.

We are in an age where many people prefer audio and video contents to text contents. As a matter of fact, my Facebook live videos gets more engagements than my text contents, so I had to come out of my shell.

Let me buttress a little on this by showing you three important lessons from “Prison of the Mind” By Sean Stephenson.

I don’t know if you have seen that man before but there was a striking comment he made during his speech at TEDx which is “If somebody pities me they are wasting their strength because I’ve chosen to be strong”. 

My question for you is;

What is your choice?   Have you chosen to be strong or to give in to what people say about you?

The three lessons from his speech are:

1. Never believe a prediction that doesn’t empower you, so that you won’t wither away or die physically or spiritually.

2. You are not your condition. The only disability is one’s refusal to adapt.

3. The real prison is in the mind. It sends emotional possibilities, infinite possibilities of choice in our behaviour, life and attitude.

Does this gorgeous lady look like someone who has experienced body shaming (especially when she was on low cut)?  

You can also get over it by working on your mind.

Got value? Kindly share to help someone deal with body shaming.

© Deborah Ajala. Content creator, Ghostwriter, Editor, Author, and Book Publisher.

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Tamarack Verrall
Oct 16
Oct 16

Dear Debora,
A big welcome to World Pulse, and congrats on your first story! I love that you have just jumped in, with such a great message on self acceptance, no matter what others say or how they treat us. I see such a wise, beautiful young woman standing strong and challenging us to believe in ourselves, and to reach out to others struggling. I haven't heard of Sean Stevenson but I love hearing the message you have learned and passed on!

Deborahajala1
Oct 17
Oct 17

Thank you so much Verall.
It's very important for us to believe in ourselves.

You can listen to Sean Stevenson's TED talk for more details about the message I shared.

megsmueller
Oct 16
Oct 16

Hello Debora and welcome to World Pulse beautiful woman! You gave us such a powerful first story, thank you. You have stepped out and stood for who you are, not for what represents you and that is huge. Your message is loud and clear and we embrace it. It's like a therapy for me. Thank you for encouraging us to find our value. Do you have a You Tube channel?

Please share with us some more...we are so happy that you have joined us!

Deborahajala1
Oct 17
Oct 17

Thanks a bunch for your nice feedback.

I'm happy to be here as well and I'm glad you got value from the story I shared.

I don't have a YouTube channel yet because of my commitment to helping writers enhance their skills for global impact, influence, and income. However, it's part of my 2022 goals. Do watch out for it.

megsmueller
Oct 18
Oct 18

I shall indeed look out for it. Chase your dreams and your goals dear.

Blessed day further.

maeann
Oct 17
Oct 17

Welcome to World Pulse Debora. Your story is your power!

I did not hear this before "body shaming". It was not in my radar. Because of pandemic, I guess it increases.

I know a friend here in World Pulse - Rosegold, https://www.worldpulse.com/community/users/rosegold/posts/101137 who are confidently raising awareness on Be Body Confident campaign. You may want to read her story and get some ideas.

Looking forward to read more of your stories. Have a great day!

Deborahajala1
Oct 21
Oct 21

Thank you so much, Maeann.
I'm glad you were able to get something new from my story.

Thanks for telling me about your friend who raises awareness on BBC. I'll check her up.

Regina Afanwi Young
Oct 19
Oct 19

Welcome to World pulse dear sister Debo. Wow!!! I love this write up sis. So motivating. I use to feel really bad when I put on so much weight. Has to make up my mind with the help of Jill and my sisters to love myself above and beyond. No I feel more confident. I have also learnt to take actions to avoid going back to the same point.
Thank you so much for reminding so many ladies out there that the a beautifully and fearfully made..
Look forward to reading from you again.
Sending hugs.
Regina

Deborahajala1
Oct 21
Oct 21

Thank you madam Regina.
It's a good thing that you now love yourself for who you are.

Lots of love.

Regina Afanwi Young
Oct 21
Oct 21

You are welcome dearie

Grace Iliya
Oct 22
Oct 22

Welcome Debora,
Self confidence is key and accepting who we are also makes things come smooth and easy for us. We are who we are. Thank you so much.

Much Love

Deborahajala1
Oct 22
Oct 22

Many thanks for your nice comment ma'am.

You're absolutely right.

himani deswal
Oct 22
Oct 22

Welcome to World Pulse and love your first story

Deborahajala1
Oct 22
Oct 22

Many thanks Himani

Duru Edith
Oct 24
Oct 24

While reading your story, I remember the song title "You say". That song inspires me all the time .
I actually laughed out laughed when I read the part in your story that says "anyone fatter than me is too fat ,...".
That's the spirit. We are very unique and special creatures of God.
I'm happy you decided to come to limelight.
Welcome to worldpulse sis.
And you sincerely look amazing.
Me that I like gap teeth and dimples.

Deborahajala1
Oct 24
Oct 24

Many thanks, sis.

Yes ooo. Anyone fatter than me is too fat and we are God's special creature.

You look amazing too.

Felicitas Wung
Oct 24
Oct 24

Welcome to world world pulse.
We are all made in the image and likeness of God.

Deborahajala1
Oct 24
Oct 24

Thank you so much, sis.
Yes, we are made in God's image and likeness.

Queen Sheba D Cisse
Oct 26
Oct 26

Greetings Deborah,
Congratulations to your first story and yes what a good topic.
I really admire your strength and wonderful self esteem because it is how we perceive ourselves that leads us to win or fail at the many challenges life throws our way.
The advise from the Ted talk speaker is so on point and I am grateful you shared it here to WP platform because we all need the upliftment that motivates you in your everyday life.
All the best to you, keep doing what you are doing because it is inspiring indeed.
sincerely,
Mama Queen