Who I Am

DeeKui
Posted September 23, 2017 from Kenya

Back then in 1990s a strong beautiful woman got pregnantat a young age while still in high school. She felt very ashamed but didn't have any other choice but to raise me on her own. When I was growing up she introduced me to a man who took very care of me andlater on ended up being a step-father and thereaftermy two sisters, his biological children were born.

I felt like I was going to be neglected so the thought of my real father popped up. I wanted so bad to ask mum who he was and where I could find him but the African child lacks courage to ask of such things unlike the American kids. So I kept in inside for years again till when I was mature enough to understand that I didn't need to know who he was or where he was as long as mum is there and step-father is also there taking care and providing everything for me.

In 2015 the unexpected happened, step-father passed on. That's when hell broke loose as his family(step-father) took everything from us. We lost everything including ourselves, from grace to grass. Now I knewthe importance of a father as the head of the family. I lost my hopes and dreams of becoming a journalist as I had to drop out and let my younger sister finish her primary education as that was more important compared to mine.

My sweet mother's world crumbled, she lost everything including friends and family and I had no choice but feel her pain. The only friends and family she had and still has is her three daughters and her mother, our grandmother. We have been sleeping hungry and sometimesout in the cold but no one cares that's when I knew friends and family are just there for your money.

At times it became hard for me to see her cry and asking many questions. I felt like nothing made sense anymore, the weaker she became, I also became weakwith her. Watching my two sisters go to bed hungry which they still do makes her even question more "If their father was still alive they would food on the table androof over their heads" she says.

Enough was enough I couldn't sit down and watch my mother break down every time. I had to be strong for her. I went back to school for a diploma course in web development which is currently ongoing hoping to graduate in December. My educational journey has not been a walk in the park but I had to be positive and strong for my mother and my two sisters.

I had to give back to her for taking care of me all those years, so it was my turn to care of her now as the man of the family. My strength, courage and positive attitude has made her change, the tears are slowly fading and her strength is coming back. She has learned how to be optimistic.

The struggles are still there but now she knows how to handle them. I am a 23 year oldlady with a dream of getting the woman who gave birth to me and raised meback what she lost and and so much more. I am a sister who wants to see her younger sisters excel to greater heights. This who I am.

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Jill Langhus
Sep 23, 2017
Sep 23, 2017

Hi Dee. Welcome to the World Pulse community:-) I applaud your strength and tenacity. Thanks for sharing your story. You have friends here in this community and you will find out what true sisterhood and friendships are:-) Looking forward to hearing more from you and finding out what your hopes and dreams are...:-)

DeeKui
Oct 16, 2017
Oct 16, 2017

Thank you for the encouragement I am humbled :-) 

Jill Langhus
Oct 17, 2017
Oct 17, 2017

You're welcome:-)

Nakinti
Sep 25, 2017
Sep 25, 2017

Dear Deekui,

I can relate to your story. It is often hard to live a life of repeated pain. I can imagine from you wanting to know your dad, to you and family finding a new dad and caring dad and husband to you and mum, to dad dying, to the return to hardship. This is really hard but what is important is standing up to the challenge and making haven out of the difficulty -- that is exactly what you are doing. My dear, don't relent, keep pushing and someday, you will get there.

Love

Nakinti

DeeKui
Oct 16, 2017
Oct 16, 2017

Thank you for the encouragement I am humbled :-) my biggest dream right now is to save my family.

Lily Habesha
Oct 19, 2017
Oct 19, 2017

Hi DEE,

I have another friend, her name is Dee and I introduced her to World Pulse.

Your story look alike.

I like your strength.

Keep it up and ...live your dream

I want to see you on KTN, KBC,...or on Nation News.

Lily

DeeKui
Oct 20, 2017
Oct 20, 2017

Aaaaw. soon I will be on air, thank you dear.

maeann
Nov 07, 2017
Nov 07, 2017

Hello DeeKui, thank you for sharing your story.  Because of what you've experienced you became a strong woman.  May you find strength and courage from God as you continue to help your family.

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