Lush Hair, Some Hair, or No Hair - Embrace it!

denramonal
Posted October 4, 2021 from Philippines

Today, I am writing about hair. It seems odd that I am doing this now that it’s October and Alopecia Awareness Month was September. Well, I am posting this alongside the video I created last month in celebration of hair, with a focus on mine which went on regular strike!

Deciding on a hairstyle is like making a commitment to yourself. It can become problematic because your preferences will change through the years (sometimes even in months or in a matter of weeks for the fickle-minded). Your hairstyle will change alongside the many phases of your growth as an individual. The process of learning, exploring, and testing will undergo many different stages of discovery that range from the annoying phase of bad hair days, the nuisance of a regretful decision, all the way to the glory of greying, and ultimately, losing hair.

I have tried all sorts of hairstyles - pixie cut, short bob, crazy curls, rebonded long hair, bald, fringes, dyed layers, undercut – name it, I have tried it. Through the years, I have subjected my lush wavy hair to all kinds of torture at the beck and call of my whim because I was experimenting with what felt right or what looked good based on where my life was at.

Looking back, I am so glad that I did all that because now I am losing my hair even more aggressively when I was first diagnosed with Alopecia many years ago. Usually, the hair I lost would grow back in a few weeks but this time, my bald patches seemed to have permanently taken residence on my head – screaming, “We are here to stay!”

It took me a while to embrace this new reality but thinking about all the hairstyles I have donned in the past helped in the process of acceptance. I do not catch myself saying “I wish I tried that hairstyle” because I have tried them all and even if I regretted some of my bad decisions at certain periods, I am thankful to have allowed myself to be spirited away when I still had a full set of hair to experiment with.

I knew how fearless felt like when I was bald but I laugh at the memory of living through the growing out phase from my bald ‘do’ to the stubs-spikes that evolved into a weird mohawk. I was cool with my undercut and sexy with my curls. I wore wigs that made me look like a different person. I tried dyeing my hair with different colors but purple was my favorite because I felt like a mermaid. When I desperately needed change to happen in my life, my hair was kind enough to endure being hacked into the shortest bob. (Thank you, hair, for your many sacrifices.)

Do not get me wrong as having Alopecia does not restrict my creativity. I can still experiment with a bandana or other hair props. On rare occasions, I am okay with just wearing my patches out in the open. What is important is my commitment to this newfound acceptance of Alopecia --- to be alright with what I have now and remember what I had with gladness.

As for you, dearest readers, I urge you to celebrate your hair (whatever hairstyle that may be), celebrate having no hair, or celebrate missing some hairs (like me) because all of these are different types of crowns to be proud of. A belated "Alopecia Awareness Month" greeting to you all. 

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megsmueller
Oct 05
Oct 05

Hi dear sister
Wow, I love your creativity! You have such a lovely attitude and it is really inspiring. Yes, I have definitely learned more about Alopecia today and I have seen how a beautiful woman won't allow it to be a barrier in her life. Thank you so much for sharing the video too. You have beautiful hair too.

All the best and much love to you!

denramonal
Oct 05
Oct 05

Hey there! I'm happy that this post opened the door to Alopecia info for you. It took me longer to get to this stage but thankful for the journey. All the best and much much love to you too!

Beth Lacey
Oct 05
Oct 05

I have friends in your situation. I am going to share this with them Thanks much

denramonal
Oct 06
Oct 06

No problem. I hope this can help them even in the smallest of ways.

maeann
Oct 07
Oct 07

Hi Den,

So brave naman... I had a problem with my hair, nalalagas siya, so I decided to cut it bald with a little bangs, then I let it grow, kaya maintain ko nalang ang short short hair para less maintenance and mas healthy ang pag grow, though minsan talaga nag fall pa din siya. Thanks for sharing Den, so brave of you, even you experienced this, you still have a heart to share. You are beautiful.

denramonal
Oct 09
Oct 09

Hi, Mae Ann! Yes, this is constant now and longer periods too. The last patches have yet to recover but I don't think about them too much anymore. Before they used to bother me but now - Kebz! Hahaha. There are many things we can't control and for some of us, the hair is one of them so let God and let be. :)