Save Girl Child - (because it's ban on foeticide?)

Dhara Patel
Posted January 27, 2017 from India
It should be by choice , not by compulsion

Government's "Beti Bachao Beti badhao" campaign is really appreciable and this initiative has left impact as well. I salute the Government for that.

Well, I always wonder " How overnight people get educated..!!" When Social customs are there as it is. Our campaign always show Girl child being actress , being Olympic winner , being scientist. It means If we accept girls child , We see a dream like these through her. All girls cant manage to reach to that stage and all cant have same calibre. Girl is just your child. Don't treat her differently. Yes , some girls make their parents proud but If She can'tmanage ,what's wrong? We are doing any favour to her if we let her born..?

I strongly believe Parents should have a choice to take decision to select their child rather blaming their luckfor having Girl child (As they were unable to take a choice). We never think What situation they have to go through being unwanted child.

I would like to raise some questions as well here...

How many middle class Girls opt for the foreign education having male sibling? How many girls take decision of their marriage by their selves (as Girls are always been responsibility and parents feel peace after the marriage of daughter because of society's bloody thought)? How many girls get a time to make career after Education( They have to get marry between 22 to 24)? How many Girls are allowed to do business?(Girls always been dependent. Who will invest?, Parents or husband)? How many girls can dare to say No to "Gold" their parents give on marriage? How many Girls can deny for wedding ceremony where lacs of rupees have to spend? (modern Dowry which is not comes under Law).

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Jill Langhus
Jan 27, 2017
Jan 27, 2017

Hi Dhara. Thanks for you post. You definitely raise some complex and compelling questions here. Where do you feel the biggest impact can be made in changing people's views and eliciting positive change in beliefs/old traditions and thinking?

Dhara Patel
Jan 27, 2017
Jan 27, 2017

I can't say by Educating people about it , We can get the better world for Girls. Tradition is so rigid  that it's too difficult to remove.  As I said There's a Law against dowry but I can bet that I won't able to find single girl who is married without spending single penny in arrange marriage.    Let me know few example where parents have spend more rupees after Girls Education though having male child.  We can expect change only if we can remove the tradition. (Tradition is more powerful that even Law doesn't work against it).

Jill Langhus
Jan 28, 2017
Jan 28, 2017

Yes, I hear you. So, educating the parents first, or the children and then hoping for the next generation to change traditions, beliefs, laws?

Dhara Patel
Jan 30, 2017
Jan 30, 2017

I guess it would be possible only if women will be financial independent. When they will be independent , they will learn to take decision their selves. They won't be in fear that what will happen if their husband leave them..! If this generation will be financial independent , next generation will be educated and society can expect more changes from them.

Jill Langhus
Jan 31, 2017
Jan 31, 2017

Interesting. I think that could help if women were financially independent, but I think people becoming more open minded and thinking more about human rights is also important.

Wendy Stebbins
Mar 28, 2017
Mar 28, 2017

I sent  you a long message about how you can begin to change this in a sustainable way but apparently it erased. Sorry.

Dhara Patel
Mar 29, 2017
Mar 29, 2017

I can say "It's my Bad Luck" that I couldn't read it.

Wendy Stebbins
Mar 29, 2017
Mar 29, 2017

Dhara i am going to rewrite it today. I just could not yesterday. That is my goal for today