Domestic Violence and abuse survival

In the world today there are many cases of domestic violence and abuse, Surviving this is a challenge and recovery is even more difficult.

I know this first hand, I have survived domestic violence and abuse but have not recovered.

my spouse and I lived in a remote isolate village accessible by boat only and he owned the boat to come and go from this remote isolated community. There was only a post office about 3 miles from the house we shared , there were no stores or anything else there.

we had to travel for half hour by boat in treacheris  waters to a nearby town to dock the boat then travel by vehicle to the town for medical and shopping for food detc which was another 20 minutes or more by road.

I was completely dependant on him for everything as a disabled woman and he also had compldete control over everything.

The home we shared has wood stoves and the work to maintain things was a constant. He is a gun enthusiast and owns a lot of uns more than 15 and also has a violent temper the abuse started 3 months after we moved in together and would happen in episodes about every 2 months. Then as time went on it became more in the form of gaslighting this became a common theme by the end of first year. He also became very demanding and critical which was taking its toll on my health and I was feeling worn out a lot of the time.

I needed time alone and rest so one day I locked the doors to the house so he could not gdet in

and sent him a message to go stauy at his other house down the road after he was done with a project he was working on. He then called yelling that the door better be unlocked etc with some threats.  shortly after that call he stormed down the hill and tore the door off the house to gain entry and the abuse continued.

he has a lot of guns and my fear was he would snap and shoot me. I had to learn to appease his temper and survive the many personalities he displayed in our 6 years together. 

I had no money he cleaned me out financially and finally after 6 years got out wih help from others, but he bascally left me to die in poverty. I got some legal help to get spousal support yet he refuses and continues to lie and decieve me and others as a constant further abuse by finances and emotional harm.

He can well afford it has large bank accounts , real etate and a lot of assets but his cruelty knows no limits and demonstrates lack of conscience.

A pscholgist friend assesed him as being a narcisist with expert experience in gaslighting.

I suffered several strokes due to the stress and issues I have and still face because of him.