MY 3 SONS

Diane Dillon
Posted February 7, 2018 from Canada
my children
jeremy as a baby then donovan and jeremy as young boys

I was married to a kind intelligent young man from berkely. He was very worldly and taught me a great deal, when we divorced when the boys were young 3 years old and up I became a single mother but my sons spent weekends and holidays with their dad. Their dad later remarried and we remained friends and his new wife shared in raising our sons.

As a single mom I used humor to deal with issues and as a teaching tool . I also worked at different jobs , I ran a day care and my sons helped when they were older. When they were younger they had books on the shelves , puzzles games and toys we also had baby dolls a toy high chairand cradle so when their sister came to visit they would role play. My sons father had a daughter with his new wife and she would come visit and stay and play with her brothers, so they played with trucks and cars and then katie would too plus then they would role play with the dolls and cradle. once we lived near a school where I worked and 5 girls that were sisters moved in near us, we decided to host a welcome tea party and the kids at the one room school house came to welcome the 5 sisters. My sons decided to be like butlers and served everyone we all had fun they put on their butler aprons and hosted and served all the kids that came.

some times after dinner we would watch the news together and if there were stories where people got hurt or a house fire I used those news stories as a value lesson to teach them to be sensative to others who sufferd from this. I would ask them how they would feel if this happened to them to make it personal.

my sons are married to wondeful women 2 have children and they are all thoughtful and helpful in roles they share in their marriages and raising their kids. My youngest graduated with his masters in political science and his wife who is from kenya is a nurse my other son works for the city and his wife works with disabled people they have 2 children a boy and a girl, my other son works for a large company and loves to cook his wife loves to bake so they have fun in the kitchen , this is their second marriage each and they each have children. all my family do volunteer work and donate time and help for others such as cook at a homeless shelter, work with kids on sports and donate equipment etc

They have good sense of humor, I remember one halloween when they were ages 3, 6 and 8 years old they knew how much I wanted a daughter but never had one, they got into an old trunk I had stored girls clothes in and they put on dresses and surprised me they wore them for halloween to act like daughters we all laughed when they choseto do this, they came dancing into the living room and said now you have 3 daughters. They were sensative to my dream that never happened and it shows they remembered and wanted to do some thing forme.

I worked and went to university and was lucky with some of the jobs I had one being on archaeological digs and woking for museums. My sons at time got to travel with me and spent time with men and woman in the field of study. I also new musicians and artist so they had an interesting group around them which taught them to be flexable.

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Diane Dillon
Feb 07, 2018
Feb 07, 2018

we learn as we go

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Feb 08, 2018
Feb 08, 2018

I commend you, Diane, for raising your boys well with a sprinkle of humor here and there. It must be a fun environment with them. I find it so sweet that they dressed up as girls to cheer you up. Now, that they are married, you already have daughters, too. 

Thank you for sharing your story, Diane. I'm a mom of two young boys. I have a long way to go. Your dedication as a mom encourage me to embark in this "mom of boys" journey.

Diane Dillon
Feb 08, 2018
Feb 08, 2018

have your humour botton ready it defuses things, my oldest son Jeremy at age 12 had a neurological disorder that came on suddenly in the middle of the night he dropped to the floor and was instantly blind and could not talk, I had 2 small boys sleeping, no car ,I called his dad who lived near us and he took him to hospital where he was for over 2 months. they discovered the issue and eventually his sight returned etc but slowly and he had to lear how to walk and talk again mentally he was about 5 years old, I asked him in the hospital room while he was in bed WHEN YOU ARE READY TO GET OUT OF THAT BED, WOULD YOU LIKE TO GO SEE MICKEY MOUSE AT DISNEYLAND. HE couldhear but not talk, he smiled and that was my answer. I sold my antique furnture had a major yard sale and used my savings to take him and his brothers to disneyland once he walked out of the hospital. When he came home he kept doing silly things so his brothers and I would break out into song like an opera and make up lyrics about it

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Feb 13, 2018
Feb 13, 2018

It must be heartbreaking for you that Jeremy got a neurological disorder, Diane. How old is he now? How is he? Is he married with children, too?

You are such a brave and selfless mom. Hugs.

Diane Dillon
Feb 16, 2018
Feb 16, 2018

Hi Jeremy is 43 has 2 children and beautiful wife, he works 80 hour weeks coachs soccer for his sons team etc his daughter takes music lessons and loves archery

Olutosin
Feb 08, 2018
Feb 08, 2018

Thanks for sharing your story with us Diane. I'm happy the way you raised your sons, how I wish everyone could take time to instill great values into their children. 

Gifty Pearl Correspondent
Feb 09, 2018
Feb 09, 2018

Diane, thanks for sharing your powerful story of how you raised your boys. Using humor and spending time with your children is key ways one can use to address issues that you wan t them to learn.

Great piece!