Rise above poverty and violence and injustice

Diane Dillon
Posted October 5, 2018 from Canada
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I have worked with multi cultural groups since 1977 and have discovered a common link in these groups. poverty. violence and injustice.

I have witnessed this and also experience these issues which plague all of us in society today. There seem to be more women than men and also children but the problem affects everyone.

It is important for the courts and police etc to take this seriously with regards to domestic violence and abuse of women and children yet men get away with this all the time especially in Canada. There are few supports and legal help is marginalized so that women cant get the help they need

There are few places for anyone to go to escape this or start over and with no money that is not possible. The impact on lives is monumental and lasting. There is need for lawyers but cost is prohibitive.

I can personally speak to this I have a lawyer now 350 an hour plus a high retainer for my case. i was and still am the victim of domestic violence and abuse and I sold some of my belongings to pay for this case. The ex partner was trustee of my trust fund and executor of my will, he had complete control of my assets dead or alive, my aunt passed away left me some money it is now all gone and my ex left me  to die in poverty.

it has been a painful experience and very damaging. I have congestive heart failure and several medical issues which have been compromised by his brutal lies and actions. we lived in a remote wilderness village , no stores etc he owned the boat that got us out of there it is a water access place . he owned the 2 big pieces of land with house on ocean and boats truck etc yet used my money for the place and for his benefit. I have him on tape threatening me right before he tore door off house to get in , he owns a lot of guns and I discovered he was growing illegal drugs on one of his properties. yet he chose to lie about everything and we lived in that house for 4 years then move to a place nearby in town where he stayed part time. The abuse was constant so i finally in 2016 asked him to stay elsewhere I was dependent on him as i am disabled and he had control of finances and i could not manage on my own. he had 2 other properties with house to stay in plus his son lived nearby but he was so aggressive and pushy and then denied me help for rent etc he stopped paying his share and it was a nightmare and worried me about becoming homeless.

I have an outstanding portfolio of my accomplishments yet this was my grim reality. I have university education references from work and also volunteering and this man took clear advantage.

This does and can happen to anyone yet our leaders have done nothing to help with this issues or put into place supports etc. there should be free legal help for this and tougher laws that are actually enforced.

My ex Perrie can drag this he has the money and this is a further injustice so it is a matter of economic injustice as well those who have the money can lie cheat etc and manipulate the courts and others in doing so.

my message to leaders is to start changing legislation and laws that must be enforced and supports for victims

This story was submitted in response to The Future of Security is Women .

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Diane Dillon
Oct 05, 2018
Oct 05, 2018

I hope people will learn from this to not give up or give in

Tarke Edith
Oct 05, 2018
Oct 05, 2018

Hi Diane
Thanks for sharing indeed sister women is forces to recon with .
Love you sister

Lisbeth
Oct 05, 2018
Oct 05, 2018

Dear Diane,
Hope you are fine? Its very sad that today's world is full of injustice, no peace at all.
Even the so-called change makers and those who are supposed to fight for the voiceless end up hurting them due to the fact that they are corrupt. We see this everywhere!

Thanks for your story
Lisbeth

Jill Langhus
Oct 06, 2018
Oct 06, 2018

Hi Diane,

Thanks for sharing your story. Good luck with your story submission.

Hope you have a great day!

Tamarack Verrall
Apr 19
Apr 19

Hi Diane,
It is so true that even in Canada, famed for backing human rights, getting away from and having justice prevail over violent men is still all too often not respected by the Court system. That you have no access to free legal help is a glaring example of how difficult it is to get away from violent men and have any money for yourself. The Canadian Courts also have an abysmal record in believing women who have escaped violence. I hope the at this point you are closer to being finished with this.
In sisterhood,
Tam