Happiness does not have an age

Diwan
Posted April 7, 2020 from Nigeria
30 and happy
30 and happy (1/1)

I want the world to know that I was emotionally abused and I didn’t think I will survive it but here I am. Until some years after separation I didn’t even know I was manipulated over and over again and I was quiet about it.

I got married at 25 to a man I dated for three years but the marriage did not last a year before it ended. I was 6months pregnant when it ended and it was like the whole world was on my shoulders.

the surprising part was my husband sent me away for no reason and from where I am(Nigeria,Africa) it’s a weird thing, you must do something to be sent away from your marriage. 

I had family, friends and church members to deal with (laughs) I heard all sorts. 

But guess who is living her life and doing she abandoned for love. I’m a happy 30year old girl who has a three years old son. 

I will not even say it’s easy as I cannot put all my story here. But with this few paragraph you can try to live my pain in your head, you will see that it wasn’t an easy experience to go through. But I have been victorious and I’m excited for where I am and where I am headed.

This story was submitted in response to The Real Me.

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florence kekong
Apr 07
Apr 07

Hello, Diwan,
Great to hear your story. I like to tell you that you are not alone. But it is good that you unburden yourself. You would be meeting a lot of us who have passed through ugly experiences, some even worst than yours. I have also been writing about "Real Me". I am yet to also open the ,emotional abuse chapter. I had the toughest marriage one has ever seen. I was also abandoned in the middle of no where, worst with a Sickler in between. Today, I am still kicking strong even after suffering with with three sons and painfully losing one at age 8 years and the other at 23 years. Can you see that you are still very lucky?
Good to meet you here. Courage! Sister. ##Let's Heal As One###.

Diwan
Apr 14
Apr 14

Thank you for the support and encouragement. Wow you are equally a strong woman.

rebecca.tang
Apr 07
Apr 07

Hi Diwan, it is not easy to raise a child indeed especially being a single mum. On the other hand, it is a gift from God. He brings you a lot of happiness and joy.
I can feel you your pain and hard time in your story. Your family, friends and church members stand with you.
Be Strong! Good days is coming! May God bless you!

Diwan
Apr 14
Apr 14

Yes but we keep being positive and happy. Thank you for the kind words

Anita Shrestha
Apr 07
Apr 07

yes dear

Chidimma
Apr 08
Apr 08

Hi Sister Diwan, how are you and your son. Hope your staying safe?
It's so sad you pass through all this, but am glad your strong now and strong you will be for ever.
Thanks for sharing.
God will see you through in all that you do to be victorious.
Hugs.

Diwan
Apr 14
Apr 14

Thank you too for reading and yes I’m staying safe.

Vanora.Lee
Apr 12
Apr 12

Yet we cannot understand why God making us into such difficult situations, definitely God is still with us all the times be it ups and downs. Trust God saved you and keep strengthening you being a single mum. Glad you left the bitterness behind and moving forward. Pray God to continue blessing you and your kid!

Diwan
Apr 14
Apr 14

Oh yes he is and I am still learning from my pain.

Kabahenda
Apr 13
Apr 13

Dear Diwan,

First and foremost, I want congratulate you for your courage for surviving the bad marriage and the abuse.
Second, I want to applaud you because you are still surviving and are now happier than you were.

Third, I want you to know that there is life after abuse and as your example demonstrates.

You are a courageous woman and may use that courage to make life better for yourself and your son and other women in your community who may be experiencing abuse.
Kudos to you.

Diwan
Apr 14
Apr 14

Thank you so much I am really encouraged by your kind words

Thelma obani 2020
Apr 13
Apr 13

You are strong. I love your submission to life and your experience. Please continue to share for you are an inspiration, a force to reckon with.

Diwan
Apr 14
Apr 14

Thank you so much...