Lola Maria and flowers

Dyan Mabunga Rodriguez
Posted February 19, 2020 from Philippines

My grandmother, Lola Maria, was a strong and independent World War II survivor.

Memories of her building vibrant fire and cooking fried bananas to sell to her loud neighbours remain one of my favourite memories.

She had the gift of cooking outstanding fried bananas. Caramelised brown sugar embraced the bananas like a lover who would not let go.

Lola grew up poor and her life was never easy as a single parent to 12 children.

When she became older and weaker, she could not longer sell fried bananas. She needed her children who were also in poverty. She never insisted on help.

I was in my early 20s barely earning enough as a young development worker. I wanted to give her the healthcare she deserved but I was unable.

But I brought her groceries and spent time with her. She asked me to pull the unwanted hair on her right cheek. I am glad I was able to touch Lola's face.

And I brought her flowers. Flowers in all colours and complexion.

At a young age, I had the firm and beautiful resolve that I will give flowers while Lola could appreciate them.

A few years later, Lola passed away. I touched the intricate carvings of the coffin I chose for Lola. The carvings were beautiful and circular like fluffy, happy petals.

Every now and then, I remember Lola. I am inspired to express my love for the aging women in my life especially my mother. I am reminded to give flowers while the heart beats.

I buy myself flowers to remind my exhausted heart that life begins, life pauses, and life ends.

We may not spend 24 hours with the people most dear to us but they hold our hearts as we hold theirs.

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Jill Langhus
Feb 19
Feb 19

Hi Dyan,

How are you doing, dear? Aw, what a lovely post and tribute to your lovely grandmother. I wish I had a close relationship like that with one of my grandmothers. How fortunate you are. Thanks for sharing your lovely tribute and loving post:-)

Hope you're doing well, taking care of yourself and having a good week!

Thanks :)

Jill Langhus
Feb 21
Feb 21

You're welcome:-)

maeann
Feb 19
Feb 19

Hi Dyan, how are you? Thank you for sharing this wonderful story about your lovely grandmother. I suddenly remember my Lola.

Thanks :)

Beth Lacey
Feb 20
Feb 20

Your grandmother was beautiful- and so are you. (You are making me want fried bananas)

Thank you, Beth :)

Hello, Dee,

Your post resonates with me because my lola also cooked banana cue and sold them to make ends meet. Whoa! 12 children! She's a superwoman!

That's a great idea to give our loved ones, especially the elderly, flowers. I haven't bought flowers for myself (yet). Thank you for the idea. Life is short and unpredictable. We should love until we are able. Thank you for sharing this memory with us! HUGS TO YOUR SUPERMOM. <3

Thank you, Kaye :)

You're welcome, Dee. :)

Akshaya9
Feb 20
Feb 20

Hi Dyan,
Thank you for sharing your story . It reminds my lola also your story, I'm more closed with my grandma and all my cousins said I'm the favorite among of them :-) . If i see aging women in the streets my heart breaks and hoping that i could help them.
Hope you doing fine.

Have a nice day

Thank you :)

Akshaya9
Feb 21
Feb 21

Your welcome :-)

Anita Shrestha
Feb 21
Feb 21

Dear Sis
Thank you for sharing this information. Please update regulalry

Thank you :)

Chinyere Kalu
Feb 21
Feb 21

Hmmm! We should really give flowers to people when they can appreciate them.
Deep! How easily we could be so carried away and forget about others.
Thanks for reminding us of the importance of reaching out to loved ones while they are alive.

Thanks :)

BABARA ACHU
Mar 10
Mar 10

Thanks for sharing your story. This just made me to remember my Grand mother who is so loving and caring.

Thank you :)