“MY AIM WAS TO SUPPORT HIM FINANCIALLY”

Tarke Edith
Posted June 25, 2018 from Cameroon

“MY AIM WAS TO SUPPORT HIM FINANCIALY”

 

WEALTH OF WOMEN

W- WE

E- EDUCATE

A- ALLEVIATE

L- LIVES

T- THROUGH

H- HARD WORK

O- ORIENTATIONS

F- FORWARD

W- WOMEN

O- ORGANIZATIONS

M- MORE

E- ELABORATELY

N- NATION WIDE

 

            Let’s stick to one another and show the world how powerful we are as women. When I got married, I wanted to prove to my husband that I am now a woman not a girl.because he treated me as a girl.He was the providing all my needs and every time i needed something i had to wait for him to come or i had to ask or beg for his permission to do anything i wanted as far as financing was concerned. Though it was good because he provided everything for me i was not satisfied because i did nothing.I wanted to support him and myself. But i was hush down because he thought his friends will laugh at him saying "you cannot take care of a woman". I want to pass on this experience of mine to other women. When I was hush down by my husband, I felt bad, it was like I didn't have a voice or anything to do in the welfare of the family and the thought of it disturbed me a lot. He always thinks I will overtake him but i told him no. I felt very bad about it to the extent that i thought of divorcing him but that did not boarder him.His attitude made me feel inferior ,I change my attitude in the house, in bed, and he noticed it .Our marriage and love was dying and even to dine with him was difficult.

I did this not because i wanted to compete or to be stubborn towards him but it was because i wanted financial independence and my husband understood this.

As time went by, i realize he wont accept so i decided to do business at home and i told him about it and he accepted but i could see that he was not really happy with the idea .I did not relent my effort. Since I wanted to go out and do business, I stayed in the house and still did business. I engaged in the frying of groundnuts and cracking of egusi to distribute  in the market and to my neighbors. With this I still made profits because of my interest and determination I had in me to make my own wealth. I was unstoppable! I continued with this business and it yielded profit and as time went on i engaged in other little businesses ,I started selling oranges and cold water and that kept me busy most of the time.My petty businesses was great and profitable .

My husband and I lived for 18 years and we had 5 kids.When he died, I stood up with all zeal, knowledge and power to work without wasting any minute in my life.After his death I did not give up.I went out and acquired more skills in the production of beauty products so as to support my children and myself and I know that wherever he is now ,he is proud of me.

            Today I am aspiring to be an entrepreneur who deals in the production of beauty products. I want to establish an economic framework where women can come together and share ideas. A place where our voices can be heard,a place where our wealth can be made and seen.

            I want to help women to get involve in marketing and gain skills so that they can also in return help other women to come out of their slumber.

 

 

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Jill Langhus
Jun 25, 2018
Jun 25, 2018

Good luck with your story submission, hon:-)

Tarke Edith
Jun 25, 2018
Jun 25, 2018

Thank you mum Jlanghus have a nice day

Ngala Nadege
Dec 19, 2018
Dec 19, 2018

Hello sister
Thanks for sharing your story. I see it was not easy but you made it through.

Tarke Edith
Jan 24
Jan 24

Thanks sister

Adanna
Jan 07
Jan 07

Dear Edith,

Thank you for sharing. I admire your determination :)

Love,
Adanna

Tarke Edith
Jan 24
Jan 24

Thanks my dear sister for encouraging me

Wow, sister Edith. You are one determined, and yes, unstoppable, woman. Congratulations on your achievements and for passing your knowledge and experience to the rest of the women!

Tamarack Verrall
Feb 10
Feb 10

Dear Edith,
Your determination to be self sufficient showed just how important financial independence is for women in so many ways. I am sorry to learn that you lost your husband, and glad for you that you were able to show him while he was alive that as women we need to be able to have access to money, too. Complete dependence n husbands financially can bring and has brought so much pain and danger to so many women. All the best with your business. You are an inspiration.

Beth Lacey
Feb 19
Feb 19

Good luck to you!

SIMON MUREU
Apr 27
Apr 27

It is good you helped him all a long and this is why you are able to do it evenly