Team Women

efe
Posted July 25, 2018 from Nigeria
Empowering session
Having a session with teachers of children with special needs and learning difficulties, in Asaba, Delta State, Nigeria

In Sub-Saharan Africa and I guess all over the world, being a woman comes with a lot of drama but no matter how tough it is, when you look around you there is some woman out there who needs to be encouraged. At age 42, still unmarried and never been a mother, I would be honest enough to say that I sometimes feel like I have a horrible disease but I never let that feeling stop  the desire I have to empower women in any way I can. In working with families who have children with special needs, I have noticed that the mothers in such situations have to bear the brunt. Sometimes all they need is someone to be with their child while they find some form of employment. At other times they just need someone to keep an eye on that child while they rush off to the store to get groceries. When I provide one on one or group therapy/sessions, I don't just stop at providing behavioural interventions, I try to make sure that the environment in which the child is, is enabling and mothers have a lot to do with enabling the environment. Sometimes they are the sole breadwinners and they need all the support they can get. Women are designed to crave attention, affirmation and the like to thrive in their personal or professional lives, sometimes all they need is a word of encouragement. I attended a program recently for special needs children where they showcased their cultural identities. I took a picture of one of the children and sent the picture to the mum who could not attend as an inbox message  that gesture meant a lot to her. It did because it gave dignity and individuality to her child. I know this because she recently left her marriage  and one of the reasons she left was that her ex, gave little or no attention to her child with special needs. It made her realize that someone cared enough about her child to single him out in a positive way and that to her would be like receiving a million dollars. 

This story was submitted in response to #WealthofWomen.

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Jill Langhus
Jul 26, 2018
Jul 26, 2018

Hi Efe,

Thanks for sharing your post about what you're passionate about and what you do. I think it's great that you're providing them women with encouragement and support that they need, as well as their children. I don't think you have a horrible disease, by the way. I think you're following your path and doing it well. I don't think every woman's path is to get married and have children.

Hope you have a great day!

Vivian Emesowum
Jul 26, 2018
Jul 26, 2018

O no my sister, you do not have a disease, you are still on top and can move the world as a single, thought it is something depressing but believe in yourself always, you are not alone. Thanks for sharing

Tarke Edith
Jul 29, 2018
Jul 29, 2018

Dear Efe
Thank you for that initiative sister those children will in return takes care of you at your old age , you are sowing a seed that is going sprow keep up sis

Lisbeth
Dec 15, 2018
Dec 15, 2018

My dear age is just a number. All we need is love and support from our love ones and that is exactly what you are doing.
Keep it up.
Regards

Juliet Acom
Mar 12
Mar 12

Hi Efe,
I love what you do and I applaud you for not following societal stereo types. I look forward to hearing more about your inspirational work.

Wishing you all the best