SHE IS 18 YEARS OLD WITH TWO FATHERLESS KIDS

Ekitah
Posted December 5, 2019 from Cameroon

 She has always been timid all her life and men have used this as an opportunity to exploit her and she finds herself where she is today with two fatherless kids.

It all started when Susan lost her mother. Her elder sister asked her to come and live with her in Buea. Susan had completed primary school but her mother was sick so she couldn’t go to secondary school. When she went to Buea her sister sent her to learn to become a seamstress. Susan was living in a compound where there were many tenants including young boys. Her elder sister gets up and goes to farm everyday as that was their only means of survival, Susan gets up after completing house chores and goes to work. These boys have monitored their life style and decided to take advantage of her. One morning after Susan’s sister had gone to the farm and the kids to school as she was preparing to step out, she heard a knock at the door. It was their neighbor’s son, he said Susan, you know I love you why are you treating me this way? Before she knew it he was on her body on the chair and threatened her not to shout or tell anybody what had happened. she was afraid and could not tell her sister. The second week a different neighbor’s son did the same act to her and she was completely depressed. At the end of that month she never saw her period and that is how she carried a nine months child without a father because none of them accepted to assume responsibility.

 Life became more difficult for her and there were times she breastfed the baby without eating. I came to know about Susan’s story when I was looking for a nanny to take care of my kids. After hearing this entire story, I still made-up my mind to take her with her  eight months old baby and Susan also accepted the offer. Why in my house she continued with her trade. I had promised to send her to a vocational school when the baby will be two years old.

 There was this young man who was a family friend and usually comes to play with the kids, little did i know he had a secondary intention. This guy had a friend with whom they always move together. There was a time I had a family meeting in the village and had to go with all the children. She was left behind because someone had to stay and by then the children were stills tender. She was a fool for the second time with these guys taking turns in the evening. They had planned it within themselves so well and that is how she became pregnant for her second child. Susan’s immediate family rejected her because of the disgrace she brought to the family but i took care of the pregnancy till she gave birth. She has gone back to the school and the children are doing well. I am pleased because despite all what her family and I went through I stood by her and am proud of her today as a daughter. She has realized her mistakes and cannot allow men to take advantage of her again. I am seeing a brighter future in her because she is very intelligent.    

This story was submitted in response to #IStandWithHer.

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Anita Shrestha
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Thank you for sharing

Ekitah
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Hi sis
Hope you are doing well. Thanks for reading my story.

Lisbeth
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Hi Ekitah,
Wow, this is not a pleasant condition to be in. Are her kids now grown or there are still kids? I understand how hard this is in a developing country.
I stand with her. #istandwithher.
Regards

Ekitah
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Hi Lisbeth!
Thank you for going through my story. The kids are with me. The first is five years plus a girl while the second is getting to four years a boy. They are so close to me and are like my grand children.

Lisbeth
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

OMG :-)!
Thanks for been there for them.
Take care of yourself
Hugs

Ekitah
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Thanks my dear,

Lisbeth
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

It's my pleasure :-)

Tarke Edith
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Hi Ekita
That is great dear ,
Poeple like you are not easy to sea this days
You are a model ,keep up sis your reward lies ahead of you.

Ekitah
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hello Edith!
Thanks for going through my story. Hope you are doing great.

Jill Langhus
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hi Ekitah,

How are you? Thanks for sharing your inspiring story about Susan. I'm so glad you were able to help Susan. So, no one in her family will have anything to do with her now? How sad. I hope she joins World Pulse and is able to tell us her story, too, and what her plans for the future are, too!

Hope you're doing well, and that you have a good, safe weekend, dear.

Ekitah
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Hi Jill !
Thanks for going through my story. Susan will be part of worldpulse in the near future and will tell our sisters her story. Thanks for encouraging me.

Jill Langhus
Dec 13, 2019
Dec 13, 2019

Hello Ekitah,

You're welcome:-) Great to hear!

XX

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hello, dear Etikah,

You are such a compassionate woman. Thank you for giving Susan several fighting chances in life. I hope she will be able to pass on the kindness you showed her. Keep up the great work!

Ekitah
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Hello Karen!
I just hope so too. Thanks you for your encouragement. Have a wonderful week.

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

You’re welcome, dear! Thank you, have a great week, too!

Beth Lacey
Dec 09, 2019
Dec 09, 2019

You are a great support for her

Ekitah
Dec 11, 2019
Dec 11, 2019

Dear sister!
I feel great to know you had time to go through my story. Thanks you for your comment.

Hawwah
Dec 17, 2019
Dec 17, 2019

Dear Ekita,
Reading your story filled me with so much sadness and so much joy.
so much sadness in knowing that these abuses are still happening. And the joy in knowing that finally, the world now has women with kindness and compassion in it.
You are such a blessing to Susan and all of us. Thank you for being there for her.
And for us all.

Hawwah

Ekitah
Dec 19, 2019
Dec 19, 2019

Dear Hawwah! Hope you are doing well. Thanks so much for going through my story. You are blessed.