Disguised enslavement of women by men

Emeteh Melvis F.
Posted July 28, 2017 from Cameroon

Greetings to women of substance over the world. This is a true story that has been happening to my neighbor before my intervention. This woman happens to be the fifth wife to this man, note taken is the fact that all the other four wives did not stay up toa year with this man because of his cruel nature. All along she has suffered many assaults from this man, she lost her first pregnancy due to this assault. I transferred to a nearby house just four months today and i realized when ever this man wants to beat the woman, he will lock the door. I became so furious and worried about it and really wanted to discover why all the beatings.

I took the courage to approachher and she told me her husband is hiding under the canopy of being a pastor whereas he is a double dealer and has told her never to tell anyone about this. All the times he has sexual affairs with girls whom he calls daughters in the church. He seldomly gives this woman food money. What really made her seethat this man couldkill her one day was whenshe was severely assaulted upon her entrance to the house from a saloon to plaither hair, this cruel man pulled outfive strands of mesh off her hair then she collapsed but the man did not see her condition as a call for concern, instead he left and spentthe night with one of his numerous girl friends.I asked her if she has no relation that she couldgo talk to about her suffering, but she told me she is the only person that the entire family is looking up to and that she has no where to hide her head but in this man's house. With the baby she has to take care of, it is impossible for her to leave this man's house because she has not even 1,000frs CFA to boost of.

I decided to give her an interest free loan of 50,000frs CFA, then i taught her how to fry puff- puff for sale because what i realised from findingswas the fact that this enslavement wasdue to noempowermentas a woman and so she does not contribute positively to the family income.I registered this woman to a daily collections so that as she sells she plays 1000frs CFA to enable her pay back the loan withoutstress. I also had a talk with this man though he sounded so arrogant, i made himunderstand the dangers of this cruel altitude of his.

She has greatly been empowered economically and financially and she is really doing well in business and no assault has been noticed for the past two months.

To all parents, please train your boy children on how to treat women fairly because being a violator does not make a man the real man.

EMETEH MELVIS .F.

CAMEROON

SOUTH WEST REGION

KUMBA

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Jill Langhus
Jul 28, 2017
Jul 28, 2017

Hi Emeteh. Welcome to World Pulse:-) Oh my God. This is the best story ever. That's so awesome that you were able to help her and that you addressed the violator as well. Do you have an organization that helps women? Do you have a mission to help women and educate men/boys? If so, I want to hear more about it:-)

Emeteh Melvis F.
Jul 30, 2017
Jul 30, 2017

Hello jlanghus, thank you for your encouragement. Yes I have an organisation that helps women and girls.  Ongoing projects for the empowerment of women and girls too. During my physibility studies I realised that a hand full of women are suffering oppresaion, subordination and suppression of this nature. I just pray God sees me through. My intention is not only to get women and girls out of this dum, but also to address the problem from its cause, reason being that mere empowerment without educating the men will be a short termed solution. What I look forward is sustainable empowerment of women. Funders could help make my vision bigger

Jill Langhus
Jul 31, 2017
Jul 31, 2017

You're very welcome:-) I agree and you're quite right. Your work is sorely needed. What is your website or FB/Twitter pages? I will follow you. Have you posted on the World Pulse "Resources" page to get more support for your organization? Are you on GlobalGiving.org or do you have a fundraiser going? If so, I can share that, too. Good luck:)

Emeteh Melvis F.
Aug 01, 2017
Aug 01, 2017

Thank you jlanghus. You may be surprise I take long to write to you. This is because the area I am doing follow up of the ongoing project is so so remote. No network for communication till I visit town before I can check my mails. My website is under development, reason being that I really wish I could push this ongoing project to end considering that I have no funder yet. The project is titled I am a woman and can cause a change.I solely depend on my salary for this. Though its really costing me alote, am bend in taking it to end. For the interest free loan project I suspended it because I ran shot of funds. I will do some uploads on my Facebook page so that you can follow me. Thanks for your encouragement

Jill Langhus
Aug 01, 2017
Aug 01, 2017

You're welcome. Oh, I see:-) Good luck with finding funding. I'm looking forward to seeing and following your FB page.

Nakinti
Jul 30, 2017
Jul 30, 2017

Hello Emeteh,

Welcome and welcome to World Pulse. Thank you for sharing this very important story. Women go through this on a daily basis. What you did to this woman is nothing but empowerment which was the most needed. I am happy to hear she is doing good in business. Keep up the good work.

Sending you love

Nakinti

Emeteh Melvis F.
Jul 30, 2017
Jul 30, 2017

Hello my darling mumy, what really makes me sad is the altitude of some women in the sense that, though victims of such violations they still don't want to air out.

Karen Chi
Jul 30, 2017
Jul 30, 2017

Your intervention in this matter was timely thank God for u. I just hope women with similar situations would open up so that they too could receive help and be saved from the dangers of violence

leila Kigha
Jul 31, 2017
Jul 31, 2017

Such a kind act and a courageous one too! 

Not everyone will stand up and act out of fear. You did well and we trust you will continue making a difference. We will look forward to hear more from you. 

Welcome to world pulse my dear! 

Emeteh Melvis F.
Aug 01, 2017
Aug 01, 2017

Hello Leila. Thanks for ur encouragement. My dear together we can do more than expected in our country

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi
Jul 31, 2017
Jul 31, 2017

My dear Sister Emeteh,

You are most welcome to Word Pulse. This is a great platform where you will interact with women from all over the world. Please feel free to interact and share ideas and solutions to challenges and problems facing women in your community. Thank you for posting your story and we hope to read more of the stories from your community.

You have made us so proud. What you have done for that women is priceless. You have shown women a great example of leadership. Thank you for intervening in this woman's situation. I know many people who would close their eyes to such a situation but you rose up and defended her rights and didnt stop at that but went ahead and gave her a skill which she could use to earn an income. Thank you and may God continue to bless you as you reach out to many more women in your country. 

Stay blessed my dear sister. 

Emeteh Melvis F.
Aug 01, 2017
Aug 01, 2017

Thanks Mrs. Anita, my priority is not just intervenning to rescue women, but I see it a long lasting solution if the violator is addressed as well. Reason being that concentrating jusf on women wi not solve their problems in the long run, rather if we unanymously address the men then it will go a long way