Aging means growing old or getting older. I am 31 years old and can say a big congratulations to myself for the numerous advancements and change of mentality I had as a teenager. As I grow old, I derive answers to many of my unanswered questions that keep bordering me when I was a teenager.
When I was tender, I had never heard about menstruation, though I used to see some matured girls in my class have blood stains behind their uniforms. I had a conclusion that they have excreted bloody but did not clean their bombom, as small as I was I always insulted them that "dirty old mothers".
The bloody panty night was a mistery for me till my Biology teacher explained. That night, I was very deep asleep and felt a stomach disorder but didn't get up to complain to my mum. I finally got up in the morning and saw blood on my pant. I stayed in the bedroom for hours trying to reflect if I had nature's call over night but did not clean my bom bom. My mum enter the room and I burst in tears. On an interview she say blood on my dress, she understood immediately what was keeping me in the room. She told me that as I have seen it, I will get pregnant if any boy seats by me or deres to touch me.she gave me a clean towell to use as " support" as she called it.
When I reached school I refused seating down because my bench mate was a boy. When my male teacher enter class, he saw me standing up and asked why I was up I said nothing. He walked near me and I ran out of class, my fear was that caming near me means pregnancy.I could not stay in school that day because I became very worried. I finally had a seat in class the following day with one of my female friends. I had nothing to do with any boy in my school till I had a lesson on menstruation. After the lesson, I had a change of mentality because I had an understanding of what menstruation was all about.
Also when I was twenty, my mum always tells me that my going to school was in preparation of being a good cook for my husband. I was made to understand that my dad did not send me to school because since we were many in my family, my father sponsored only male children. My mum took the challenge sending me to school but then her reason for this was for me to be a good and submissive wife to my future husband.
But when I grow old I have came to know that education is a fundamental right of every human, boy and girl alike. In addition my mum's intention of sending me to school was cancelled when I took a First Degree Program in Women and Gender Studies at the University. After year one, my mind and heart was completely transformed and I had a different sense of reasoning as well. This was the moment I began to cancel all informal education I had as I grew up.
I now know that education is a right for all humans. Marriage is not a bondage as I understood it to be, as a woman I have been able to shape my marriage to suit what I want and what I am looking up to. I have shaped a marriage of free decision, no classification of house hold chores as being the woman's sphere of influence as I knew it to be. Instead my husband fines pleasure in doing all these chores, cooking is not my sole responsibility, rather any of us that is chanced does it.
Hello young people, be courageous and ambiguous, knowing what you are up to and having your vision will build a world of milk and honey for you when you grow old. You need to work out your freedom, rights and dignity as a woman from your very tender age. As you get matured and intend to marry, don't accept what you know will ruin your rights as a woman in the future because if you do, you are just mainly digging a bottomless pit where you will find yourself in years to come. Remain pushfull, educated, courageous and fulge ahead till your voice is heard, then you have brought a great change in your society.
Aging is a London full of all good things, provided you worked for it when you were still a teenager.
As a woman, no matter the age you can be as a supporter for one another and a change maker. Being an aging woman you can share your experience as a young girl to world pulse, your society or any other media to educate the young girls as they grow up. You can as well share your challenges you went through as a young girl so that others will learn from your lesson. As a girl, sharing what you are currently facing or the worries you have about your gender in this forum and in your community will do much to empower you as you grow up. Sharing will put you in contact with someone with a similar case who can help you out.