From Pain To Purpose

Endale Edith
Posted January 29, 2020 from Cameroon

 Endale Edith is a purpose driven woman devoted to make a difference and impact the lives of those who struggle with infertility. ​

I have experienced untold fertility challenges which left me devastated, heart broken and isolated. In addition to these feelings, I had to deal with the trauma of not being able to have a baby the “conventional” way and its emotional and financial effects that left me completely drained.

After laying my hands on numerous fertility treatments, the last resort was IVF, an idea all of my being greatly rejected in the past. With courage and high hopes I decided to go for an IVF. I was completely broken when I learned that my  first IVF cycle was unsuccessful upon all the expenses. And on top of the disappointment and emotional upheaval, I was under financial pressure to pay back the loan I got for the treatment. The whole experience was an emotional rollercoaster which took a toll on me emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally.

It was a difficult thing for me to talk about my journey especially with friends, relatives, and even with in-laws. It felt like no one understood what I was going through; and, was rather treated with scorn, judgment and ridicule. I believe that many women especially African women are on this boat and infertility has become something that many do not talk about publicly as a result of the stigma attached to it. Many women end up feeling alone and embarrassed to discuss the challenges they are facing.

Determined to reach out to help these women  who, just like me, are trekking the infertility desert, Tiny Seeds Foundation (TSF), an affiliate of Endale Edith Foundation was born. I am of the opinion that every woman struggling with infertility needs support to keep hope alive. Endale has embarked on this course with a strong motivation to see TSF committed to achieving that goal, the goal to turn pain into purpose, to give fertility challenged women the assurance that they are not alone and all hope is not lost.

She recalls…‘along the way, I lost myself and I stumbled to pick up the pieces. It’s been a long road with many hard lessons’.

This story was submitted in response to The Real Me.

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TataWirba
Jan 29
Jan 29

Hi Endale.
I trust you are doing ok. Your story is is a pathetic one and at the same time a lesson to Endale herself and the entire human generation not only Women. I suggest we seek for possible ways to educate girls and boys and women and men on this topic. Infertility is something happening to everyone and I can imagine the trauma Endale went through because of infertility.
Do not hesitate to visit my Organisation link to know more about my cause.
https://www.facebook.com/mbiamenewvision/
Thanks
Tata

Endale Edith
Jan 30
Jan 30

Hi Tata,

Thanks so much for your words of encouragement. I appreciate it very much, and am very glad to have met you on this amazing platform. I would definitely visit your organisation.

Regards,

Endale

TataWirba
Jan 30
Jan 30

Thank you for your prompt response and words of encouragement Endale.
I look forward for future collaboration.
Love and blessings ❤️❤️❤️
Tata

Endale Edith
Jan 30
Jan 30

My pleasure Tata,

I am open to ideas and projects.

TataWirba
Jan 30
Jan 30

That's great Endale , I am in Bamenda.

Endale Edith
Jan 30
Jan 30

We will definitely work out something. Stay blessed!

TataWirba
Jan 30
Jan 30

Amen
You too

lizzymark
Jan 30
Jan 30

Hi Edith,your story is truly difficult, but I've come to understand that God allow our difficulties and pain we pass through become our source of strength and path to greatness,sometimes if we have all we need we may never bother to push for greatness, am glad you are doing great and helping other sisters out there in your community. Hope you are fine dear

Endale Edith
Jan 31
Jan 31

Thank you Lizzy for your comment. It is very encouraging and makes me want to do more for the women who find themselves in my situation. I am doing great by the grace of God, hope you are well.

Do have a great day, my dear.

lizzymark
Jan 31
Jan 31

Thanks sis

Anita Kiddu Muhanguzi

Hi Endale,
How are you doing dear sister. Your post has really touched me because I was in your same position at some point in my life. It is not easy and it can be a hard and painful process. Lucky for me the problem was hormonal imbalance and it was treated with hormonal medication. But at that point I thought I would not be able to have children. I have seen many women who cannot afford these tests or medications to treat their infertility issues and it is heartbreaking. These stories are endless and very heartbreaking. So I applaud you for the work that you are doing for these women. You have no idea the hope and happiness that you are giving these women.
Thank you for being the real you and God bless you.

Endale Edith
Jan 31
Jan 31

Hello Anita,

I thank you for sharing your story with me and I am happy it ended well for you. Your story is so inspiring and it is a source of hope to many others out there. I appreciate your love and encouragement too, it means a lot to me.

Thank you once again and have a great weekend!

Jill Langhus
Jan 31
Jan 31

Hello Edith,

How are you doing, dear. Thanks so much for sharing more of your vulnerable journey and for helping other women in a similar situation. It's so needed:-)

Hope you have a great weekend, dear!

XX

Endale Edith
Jan 31
Jan 31

Hello dear Jill,

I am doing great, I trust that you are great too. Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate all of it!

Do have a wonderful weekend!

Lots of love

Jill Langhus
Feb 01
Feb 01

Hello dear,

Great to hear:-) I'm doing fine, thanks.

You're very welcome:-) Great to hear!

Thanks!

XX

Anita Shrestha
Jan 31
Jan 31

Dear Sis
Thank you for sharing. Do continue update.

Endale Edith
Feb 05
Feb 05

Thank you Anita for your message. It did me good!

Hello, dear sister Edith,

What a beautiful and inspiring story you have! How brave of you to use your pain and make this as a seed to help other women who experience the same. I honor your journey, dear. You are not less of a woman because of infertility. You are now a mother of your own right through your foundation. :)

Thank you for sharing your story, dear sister. Infertility also receives the same stigma in our country. So I truly understand what you mean when society tends to criticize a woman instead of comforting her. Hugs, brave sister!

Endale Edith
Feb 05
Feb 05

Dear Karen,

This is the most soothing and comforting message I have read today. Thank you so for your kind words they have given me so much strength and courage to keep riding on in this journey. I truly appreciate sis, from the bottom of my heart.

Lost of love dear Karen

Hello, dear sister, I'm so happy my words brought comfort to you. It is my pleasure. I mean every word, dear. Keep moving forward because fo all we know they are a number of women who are silently crying in depression because of this judgment. They need to hear your story. They need your comfort, too. Hugs, dear. Have a great day!

Endale Edith
Feb 11
Feb 11

Dear Karen,

It's always a pleasure reading from you. Thank you so much for your kind words and I appreciate you for the kind of heart and spirit you've got. You make world pulse an interesting platform to want to be a part of.

You're always welcome, my sister. Awww. Thank you for your kind words, too. :) I will surely keep encouraging our sisters. God bless you, dear!