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ESEZA MUKYALA
Posted December 24, 2020 from Uganda

As you all know me, am the only girl child in the family with 7 boys. 

In my place, if one hears of that, they will always call you all sorts of good names and words and etc.  They will always call you a lucky one. Even some other funny words like " Kati ka kibiliti" which means ( the only match stick in the match box) so that means, if that only match stick in the match box is mishandled in the fire lighting process, one won't have the fire lit.

However, being one girl among boys in the family is quite a disadvantage especially if you don't interacin much with friends. Personally, I have found  psychological challenges in my life. First of all, I have a mother who tolerates no nonsense, she has great restrictions on me ever since my childhood. My parents always prevented me from participating in politics, games, MDD etc in my school times and we all know the disadvantages of that some of which are, low self-esteem, confidence, one can't even discover herself etc. It always hurt me but nothing much to  do. Ever since my childhood, I've been having visions and goals besides persuing my career. The biggest challenge I face is that my parents only focus on academics, when they hear you say anything rather than that, they think of you otherwise which isn't the case.

My vision is always to become a strong woman who empowers girls but I have been facing challenges because I had no one to listen and lift me up to attain my dreams. I would always check out strong women's quotes online and that's how I got to know the World Pulse group through online research. I therefore appreciate the founders of the World Pulse group and am very sure, while am here, I shall reach my destination.

    "My Vision is my Mission"

Parents ought to consider their children's visions and goals not only that but also encourage and support them, provided the goals are productive. 

This story was submitted in response to The Real Me.

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Jill Langhus
Dec 26, 2020
Dec 26, 2020

Hello Eseza,

How are you, dear? It sounds like you're rather frustrated:-) I would be, too, and I can relate very well to what you're saying. I wasn't encouraged in the things that I loved as child either. You're fortunate that you are sticking to your principles, despite the lack of encouragement, and staying true to your vision, and not giving up on it. Perhaps the academics that they are focusing on will aid you on your mission, until you are on your own, and then you can focus entirely on your mission, and vision at that point?

I'm looking forward to reading more about your mission, and vision. Hang in there, dear. XX

Dawn Arteaga
Dec 26, 2020
Dec 26, 2020

Eseza, sending you so much strength and light! Just by writing this powerful story you are proving your potential. I know great things are ahead for you dear one!

Tamarack Verrall
Dec 26, 2020
Dec 26, 2020

Dear Eseza,
You have had so many barriers put in your way, but you have found your way. I love that you have such a strong vision for yourself, and that it involves being strong to inspire girls. How perfect that your searches for strong women brought you here with us in World Pulse. As women and girls we are taught so little about possibilities for our lives, and what other women have to say. Here we are growing strong, together. I look forward to your voice and hope you feel bold knowing we are all walking forward together here.
In sisterhood,
Tam

ESEZA MUKYALA
Dec 27, 2020
Dec 27, 2020

Thank you all my sisters

Kike
Dec 27, 2020
Dec 27, 2020

Dear Eseza, I think this is a story to which I can truly say 'I understand'. I'm the only girl in a family with 3 boys and my experience is pretty much the same. Your frustrations are real, but I'm glad that you've found this community and that you're finding yourself too. Learning from so many inspirational women on here has been a big help to me and kept me going. Keep fighting, it gets better.

Love, Kike.

ESEZA MUKYALA
Dec 27, 2020
Dec 27, 2020

Thank you sister Kiki stopping by and giving me more encouragement

Caroline Bokwe
Dec 28, 2020
Dec 28, 2020

My dear Eseza, I hope you are doing well. Thank you for sharing your story. Remember the saying that "patience is key"? Your patience has handed you the key to a safe space where you can freely express and belong.
Welcome sister.

ESEZA MUKYALA
Dec 28, 2020
Dec 28, 2020

Thank you sister Carolyn

MUKABA ZAWADI
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Merci pour le partage de l'histoire ma sœur. Soit forte et va à ton objectif tu y aboutira

Nini Mappo
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Hello Eseza,
It is illuminating to meet you in this story, to see your longings, your frustrations, the misunderstandings, and the potential. Because we dream because we have potential, and only need a pathway and support to reach it. I am glad that you found World Pulse, and look forward to journeying with you and seeing your passion bloom.
Good on you for not giving up!

ESEZA MUKYALA
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Thank you sister Nini for that kind encouragement

ESEZA MUKYALA
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Thanks my dear sister Zawadi

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Hello, dear Eseza,

You are the rose among the thorns. The flower that blooms in spite of hardships. I am excited to know how you will grow on World Pulse as you continue to write your stories and receive encouragement. Looking forward to knowing you more in 2021.

May your 2021 be filled with love, joy peace, grace, and abundance!

ESEZA MUKYALA
Dec 29, 2020
Dec 29, 2020

Dear Karen
I really appreciate the encouragement given to me always. Thank you very much.
Am also looking forward to working hand in hand with you.

Gold Oleka
Mar 10
Mar 10

Hey Eseza, I'm also the only girl in my house hold and the youngest, so I definitely understand where your coming from. I pray that God uplifts you to become the women he has desired you to be! I would love to connect with you

ESEZA MUKYALA
Apr 04
Apr 04

Thank you sister for leaving an encouraging comment on my story. I'll be grateful if I connect with you