Life is not summed up by filling the earth with individuals. Each life means a star and each star has the role of enlightening. Two weeks before I had a little discussion with my niece. I ask her the question of what she projected in 4 years. She replied that she is in her fourth year of secondary school and after high school she will finf herself an husband who will take her as a wife. I ask her to know if she will not fo futher with education ; she categorically refuses and tells me less that she does not find a taker (husband). I continue asking her, what are her dreams? she tells me that she is dreaming of a husband who loves her and who will call her her wife in the eyes of many. I insist with the same question she reaffirms me that she has no other dreams apart from having a husband, found a family, and raise her children.
A week later when I was going to mama shujaa center center where I did the English teaching benevolence to the women of the center. I meet a girl in the middle of the road and she asks for 200 Congolese francs to pay for the transport. before giving her I ask her the questions of who she was, she tells me that her name is Jeanne. After her 4th year of high school, a man came to her presenting herself as a husband, he married her. after their second birth, her husband beat her, returned home late, and drunkenness. One day the husband came with knives wanting to kill her, she runned with her 4 children.
I ask her the same question I asked my niece to know how she plans her life in 3 years. She said that she has already learned a good lesson with men and she is now very cautious with men. I replicate, "Here is a woman who speaks." She continues, replying that she is now looking for another husband who is very different from her previous husband. guys I was like '' what the hell? ''I took my breath and I did the coaching role.
Worldwide, Africa and Asia in particular; 3/5 of the girls summarize their dream in marriage. religious and traditional beliefs use the Scriptures of the Holy Bible to keep the woman as an animal. I have a little message for you women of the world: dear women,they will only attach us to the price at which we display ourselves. men can not give us a great place in society if we do not value ourselves. Let's change our mentality, dream big, transpose our limits into bridges to our dreams. Before thinking of marriage, think of some places where people die because of hunger, think of those suffering women of the world. Let's change the world. Our star must light up the world. I am not against marriage, far from it. marriage is not a drain of responsibility or a resolution to the problems of women, we can take care ourselves. Marriage is an addition of an associate to our dreams a; partner who comes to supplement us.