The feeling brought by a positive word

esther atosha
Posted September 17, 2020 from Democratic Republic of the Congo
supported by my males in UMOJA PROJECT.

I once shared with you the hell my geography teacher was throwing me through. I remember telling you that this ordeal allowed me to push harder , but it would not have been obvious without positive words around me. There came a time when I returned at home I would get down on the ground and start crying. I felt like I was less than others and that I was not enough. 

"you are the best  ESTHER,  it will be fine". The small sentence from my mother and relatives  gave me an unstoppable energy and strength. just Yes because encouragements communicate positivity to the mind.  When we feel discouraged because of our weaknesses, how precious is a word of gratitude or hope! Such encouragement gives us relief. It lightens the burden of our work and allows us to face our problems with more confidence. Encouragement gives us the strength we need to face the future. He gives us the courage to stand firm when we are under severe duress. i always say that when we support each other incredible things happen. the woman creation  itself, shows what would be the world world where a culture of encouragement and support is normalized , especially for women and girls. Genesis 2:18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a HELPER suitable for him.” If we encourage each other, girls and woman will  be real helpers to the world because they symbolize perfection. very often we are reluctant to outside encouragements. For me, I examine them carefully before I receive them. Over time I realized that it's what we call prejudices. We could describe prejudice as "anticipated judgment". Our tendency to automatically apply learned prejudices and stereotypes to anything and everyone in our environment is the mechanism by which we carefully process information. Prejudice is an inescapable fact of the human condition. Human beings learn to distinguish right from wrong, right from wrong, good from bad, good taste from bad taste, safety from danger - all in accordance with the values ​​of their own culture. We need our value system, our ability to prejudge in order to be able to live in our culture in a rational way. A person who does not exercise his ability to "prejudge" by being unable to distinguish right from wrong, good from bad, etc., could be considered abnormal. Our prejudices or “anticipated judgments” are neither positive nor negative; they are simply an inevitable fact of our existence. What becomes positive or negative is how we use our prejudices or stereotypes in our relationships with others. Let's learn to see the good odds of others. Thank you to everyone who supports others. You are the ones we need to keep trying in this World full of discouragements .

This story was submitted in response to Stronger Together.

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Jill Langhus
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello Dear Esther,

How are you doing today, dear? Thanks for sharing your thoughtful post about encouragement and prejudice. It definitely has me thinking more about bias, the origins of it, and whether it's inevitable or not.

I hope you're doing well, and that you have a good Friday, and weekend, dear.

XX

esther atosha
Sep 24
Sep 24

hello dear!
am glad that my post helps you to think more about bias .
yes am going well ,hope you too.
have a good day dear!
xx

Jill Langhus
Sep 25
Sep 25

Helllooo!!

Yes, it did! Great that you're doing well. See you in a little while:-)

XX

Nini Mappo
Sep 18
Sep 18

Hello Esther,
I'm glad to hear all that encouragement has done for you. giving you support, courage, strength, 'can' attitude. I think one can say that we can't do without encouragement, and where we do without it, we could have done better with it.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

esther atosha
Sep 24
Sep 24

thank you Nini ,
i hope you're doing well and safe
xx

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 20
Sep 20

Hi Esther,
So true that one small memory of even one person who has stated that we have worth, can be a lifeline when we are being overwhelmed with negative people belittling us or fighting us. It takes even more strength to believe in ourselves when support has been too thin, or even non-existent. Your interpretation of prejudice (pre-judge) is really thought provoking too. "What becomes positive or negative is how we use our prejudices or stereotypes in our relationships with others". So true! I love the photos, especially the glamorous women connecting instead of competing.

esther atosha
Sep 24
Sep 24

hello Tamarack!
you're absolutely right . thank you so much for your voice.
hope you're doing well

Hello, dear Esther,

Thank you for writing this insightful post. I am in the process of absorbing anything related to encouragement nowadays as I prepare for my topic on the Aspire Reinvent Conference. It's good to know that your mother's encouragement to you was what kept you going despite your teacher's negative perception of you. How powerful encouragement is!

I love that you are in the center of the photo, dear. You are so beautiful!

esther atosha
Sep 24
Sep 24

hello dear Karen,
talking about encouragement ,i see this. Thank you so much for your words
wow congratulation and all the best for your conference .i would like to hear more about the conference .

Hello, Esther,

If you want to join the Aspire Conference, please let Jill know so she can include you on her list. It would be great if you can join, dear.

Ironclay
Sep 24
Sep 24

Hello Esther,
I totally agree with how great an encouragement does in a person's life especially to those who are close to or indespair. It revives hope in the heart and mind of the person hearing it. I once heard a wise man who said, "A person can live 7 days without food, only water; can live 3 days without food and water but cannot live 3 seconds without HOPE!" Without hope a person will surely end her/his life.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings brought by a positive word!
Kind Regards,
Ironclay

JoOak
Sep 27
Sep 27

Thank you Dear sister Esther for this beautiful piece .
Encouragement sure has a powerful effect on our mind as it inspires us to do better
With all the negativity we see in our world today being around people who can encourage us will go a long way in producing within us the confidence , hope and motivation we need in our various endeavors.