ESTHER'S DAIRY

Esther olulode
Posted June 17, 2020 from Nigeria

 ESTHER'S DAIRY (part 1) I am from a family of four; my dad, mum, elder brother and I. I grew up from a bad background with no love, no care, bad relationship coupled with a poor environment. My father has been a poor, shameless drunker who never cares about his family. After the birth of my brother, he changed from being a good, caring father, and stopped performing his responsibility as the  head of the family, although he is being influenced by his family on how he beats my mum all day. I have never for once thought of him being my biological father in my second world. My mom sells food stuff (provision food). Whenever he is drunk and requested for food or any other thing from my mum, whereby  my mom did not give him any response, he will mix up unnecessary things to what she sells or turn them to trash.  Also, he will beat her up sometimes for unnecessary things. She had a lot of miscarriages about (3)three times due to the beating she received from him each blessed day. Even when my mum delivered me, he never thought of checking on my mum and I at the  hospital, neither did he care to  know about the bills. My mum and I stayed at the hospital for four (4) days before she could get the bills paid. At a point, she left me there to hawk cold tea and sachet water and borrowed money to bail her self out from the hospital. Getting home, he never thought of asking how she bailed herself and I out from the hospital and it was her money she used for my dedication, as his family had no contribution to offer. Even his mother came all the way from Ibadan  to Lagos without any money or gift to give for her son's child dedication.  When she was about to leave, she took my brother without my mum's knowledge and used him as a housemaid without caring for him. After all of that, we were asked to pack out from the house we lived because we owed about 2 years and some months rent. We relocated to Isheri-osun, a suburb in Lagos in year 2003 into an uncompleted building. We never had peace of mind for one day.  One fateful day, he came and was so drunk to the extent that he couldn't differentiate his legs from his head. He and my mum had a quarrel that night, and to my mum's surprise, he hit an electric iron on her head and she started bleeding. I was two(2)years and some months old when this happened and was completely helpless. It was a neighbour of ours  who kicked at our door before I and my mum could get help because he locked us up. At this time, my mum had fainted before they could rush her to a nearby hospital. ESTHER'S DAIRY PART 2

Going  to school was a very tough one for my brother and I, as my mother could not afford to pay our school fees. Although, she desired to give us the best but she didn't have the wherewithal to do so. There were times we didn't have good food to eat, we just feed on anything we come by. Sometimes, my brother and I had to hawk wares for our mum, so that she can repay the debts she owed and have some cash to take care of us. It was really a tough journey for me while growing up and this I will never forget in a hurry.

However, a friend of mine who we both passed out from the same Secondary School introduced me to an empowerement programme at Bestspring Foundation, under the administration of Aunty Aramide Oikelome in year 2019, which brought about a major turning point in my life. I was trained on a skill acquisition programme which I benefited from and was gifted with a sum of money which enabled me to further develop my skills and create a source of income for myself. This also created an avenue for me to support my mum and make me financially independent.

In view of all my experiences, I desire to help children from dysfunctional and toxic family background like myself find help, safety and comfort from all their distress. I want to be a healing voice to these homes and support them in finding solutions to their numerous challenges. I want to see that every child have access to the basic needs of life and they grow up in a sane, sound and healthy home/environment.

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Jill Langhus
Jun 17, 2020
Jun 17, 2020

Hello Dear Esther,

You poor thing. What a troubled upbringing you and your brother had to endure, and your poor mom, too:-( Is your father still in jail? I'm so glad that you met the amazing, and lovely Aramide and that she's been able to turn your fortune, and outlook, around. I'm looking forward to hearing more about your vision and mission. Good luck, and please keep us posted on your progress, dear.
XX

Esther olulode
Jun 17, 2020
Jun 17, 2020

Amen, thanks ma

Jill Langhus
Jun 19, 2020
Jun 19, 2020

:-) XX

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Jun 25, 2020
Jun 25, 2020

Hello, Esther,

Welcome to World Pulse! Congrats for finally writing your first post.

What a horrible experience you had in the presence of your father, dear. You've gone through so much abuse and trauma by witnessing domestic violence from him. I'm relieved that you met our World Pulse sister Aramide and you can now help your mother financially. That's a great cause you have, dear. Keep it moving! We stand with you.

Please write more here. We love to know more about you.

By the way, I want to invite you to join the Encourager Team. Kindly click on this link for more info: https://www.worldpulse.com/world-pulse-leaders/encouragers

Welcome again to our growing sisterhood!

Esther olulode
Jun 17, 2020
Jun 17, 2020

Thanks ma

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Jun 25, 2020
Jun 25, 2020

You're welcome, love.

Chi8629
Jun 17, 2020
Jun 17, 2020

Hello Beautiful Sister ,
Thank you for sharing .
Please stay safe out there .
You are welcome to worldpluse family .We love you so much and look forward to reading more posts from you . Thank you so much .

Esther olulode
Jun 17, 2020
Jun 17, 2020

Thanks ma

Corine Milano
Jun 17, 2020
Jun 17, 2020

Welcome Esther and thank you for sharing your story with us - you certainly have started the journey to being a healing voice for others who had similar experiences growing up. We are very glad you have found us and thank you to Aramide for helping you find the skills you needed to become financially independent - and introducing you to us!

Esther olulode
Jun 18, 2020
Jun 18, 2020

Thanks ma

Anita Shrestha
Jun 18, 2020
Jun 18, 2020

Thank you for sharing

Busayo Obisakin
Jun 19, 2020
Jun 19, 2020

WAO! Thank God for the great Sis Aramide has been doing. Well done Esther for what you are now set to do as a result of your empowerment. Please keep us posted on the progress of your vision. Thank you for sharing Esther
Love
Busayo

Esther olulode
Jun 21, 2020
Jun 21, 2020

Thanks ma