My 2017 Road Map

Feka
Posted January 3, 2017 from Cameroon
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I have been a victim of mental trauma. It was devastating but because I kept a positive spirit, an open mind and read broadly on the internet, I was able to manage the trauma and eventually came out of it. In the course of my battle and struggleI met several women and girls with the same situation. I tried my best to help them out but discovered this barrier. They lacked knowledge on the use and importance of the internet. Glory is this beautiful sister who is traditionally married to her husband and she has 4 kids. She lives in her husband's family house and so her in-laws are in total control of her marriage. Her husband lives abroad and the only way he communicates with her is through phone calls. He gets a daily report on her from her in-laws and the outcome is a disaster. Glory has given her all to this marriage. She feeds the entire familyshe pays off their debts, pays the bills, educates her children etc. This is due to the fact that her husband does not send money to her. He sends money to his siblings who would collect and use it however they wish. She became so sad that she resolved to drinking alcohol. Her husband on the other hand, has a woman where he lives with a child. He is a good Internet user. He publishes their pictures on Facebook and even makes a mockery of Glory. Glory is aware of all this through friends who use it to insult her. He would even call Glory on phone, ask her to give the phone to his mum who would end up talking with the other woman in front of her and it hurts her badly. It is a horrible situation. There are many women suffering like Glory and when I talk with them, they are as ignorant as Glory. If these women could learn to use the Internet positively, it will go a long way to help them out of some bad situations. They could research, join some good online communities like World Pulse where they can connect with people with whom they can share their challenges and eventually come out of them. Some of these women do petite businesses while others depend solely on their husbands. I intend this 2017, to teach those who do nothing to get into petite businesses and all of them how to use a smart phone to browse and get connected to positive people. I need everyone to help me make this come true. I need women in my community to be mentally healthy and useful. I will appreciate your contributions no matter how they come in. Women in the rural areas in Cameroon must be independent and must learn to live positively by our combined efforts. Trauma is not the best thing to experience in this life. Love is ultimate and the results are awesome.

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Dhara Patel
Jan 04, 2017
Jan 04, 2017

Women like you is the idol for others. I just can say keep it up. your strength and progress is the slap for the accused. 

Feka
Jan 04, 2017
Jan 04, 2017

Thank you sister. We can only effect change in our own little ways. One thing is certain, we would get there some day

Lisa Anderson
Jan 04, 2017
Jan 04, 2017

Dear Feka,

It's so trying to experience trauma, but finding our commonality and sharing stories is a powerful step. Thank you so much for sharing your voice and for the ways in which you are taking action by connecting women. I love this line: "Love is ultimate and the results are awesome." 

Warm regards,

Lisa

Feka
Jan 04, 2017
Jan 04, 2017

Thank you sister Lisa. Trauma is horrible but with love, we overcome it. Nothing is as good as being loved and sharing love.

WorldCare
Jan 06, 2017
Jan 06, 2017

Dear Feka, Thank you for writing of your deep concerns for other women. You see clearly, and write of it so well. These are very unfortunate situations for women such as Glory. It seems you have some very good ideas for supporting these women. I wish you well in progressing in this venture of connecting them to others by internet. This is a grand idea!

Feka
Jan 09, 2017
Jan 09, 2017

Thank you very much. I will do my best for the women in my community. 

WorldCare
Jan 09, 2017
Jan 09, 2017

I'm sure you will, Feka. I hope that all your dreams come true!

Natasha L
Jan 10, 2017
Jan 10, 2017

Dear Feka - Your story of your dear sister Glory is very powerfully written.  Thank you for sharing your vision for change.  With your determination and positive spirit, you will bring hope and opportunities to the women of your community. Sending warm good wishes for your small business initiatives. Natasha

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