My suffering, my springboard

Feka
Posted March 4, 2019 from Cameroon
My last 2 kids. I love and miss you
My last 2 kids. I love and miss you (1/1)

It's been 3 horrible years of my very existence but I am alive and even stronger. 

On the 31st of March, 2016 I traveled to Bamenda to pick up my children who had gone to see their father for Easter break. When it was time for them to return  and complete the academic year, their father refused and insisted that they remain in Bamenda. The kids called me, crying and saying that I should not let that happen to them. When I went to get them, hell was let loose

Their father gave me the beating of my life! He used chair, stick and anything to hit me with. The children were all screaming  calling for help and asking me to run for my life but unfortunately, no help came in. Thank God, I was able to do an audio recording of the incident. He seized the last 2 kids and sent away the eldest kid away to meet me. We left and I took him to court, unfortunately, the court could not help the kids and I. We left the court in April and I have never seen those last 2 children till this date. The court was unable to write an order for him to give me the children and he took advantage of that and has been hiding them from me till date.

I was trying to cope with the separation when I wrote a report, asking for a transfer from my place of work because I got multiple threats from him and his friends and deposited it in my ministry. The day I went to drop the file, I was recognized by one of his friends who told him what I had come to do at the Ministry of Secondary education. The next thing that happened was:

1. The file got missing till date. 

2. I was not transferred. 

3. My salary was cut till date. 

Now, that was gross! That was extreme wickedness! But I had to live and be strong for my children especially my eldest child.

Several thoughts crossed through my mind. There were moments I felt like taking away my own life but I thought and always think of my children. 

Those experiences gave me the strong desire to help other women out who were as helpless and vulnerable as myself through my activities with HOVO. 

I decided to become a full time community development worker and humanitarian by organizing empowerment sessions with women and girls and giving help when I can. People are taking interest in what I am doing and are donating when they can. I use the donations to help other women and girls who are worst than I am and are in dire need. 

I will continue reaching out to other women as much as I can although it gets frustrating sometimes when you really see a need but you can't help. I am trying too to get funds to return to court for my children. It hurts me really bad not knowing if they are alive or dead. My life will be complete when I will reunite with my children again. That day, God alone knows what will happen. 

I'm consoled by the fact that many women feel inspired by my story and they try to live life positively like me. I will continue doing what I am doing and touch as many lives as possible. 

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jlanghus
Mar 04
Mar 04

Wow, dear Feka,

I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you and that you haven't seen your two youngest children for so long:-( That's truly horrible. I hope you get your court date and justice soon. I am glad, though, that you've been helping and empowering other women, though. Thanks so much for sharing your story, and good luck with your story submission.

Please keep us posted on your progress. I hoping and praying for a favorable outcome for you and your children, dear.

Feka
Mar 09
Mar 09

Dear Jill,
Thank you for always being there for me. I will sure keep you updated when I eventually get the dates.
Love you

jlanghus
Mar 09
Mar 09

You're welcome, dear. I'm looking forward to a favorable outcome and update.

XOXO

Juliet Acom
Mar 05
Mar 05

Hello Feka,
Your story is heartwrenching. I do pray that one day soon you will be reunited with your little children.
One of my friends experienced a similar fate in 2015, the trauma almost caused her to lose her mind. Her children's father had her locked up in jail for 2weeks on false accusations.
Thankfully after almost a year, he abandoned the children with a relative who sought her out and gave them to her.
I admire your strength helping others affected by similar situations and standing up for them.

I wish you all the best.

Feka
Mar 09
Mar 09

My dear Julie,.
It is a very horrible experience but with sisters like you, we keep the faith strong and are determined to fight till the end. Unfortunately, mine won't let go of the children but I will seek justice for them.
Thank you for the encouragement

Beth Lacey
Mar 05
Mar 05

I pray you will see your children someday soon

Feka
Mar 09
Mar 09

Thank you, Beth

Seka
Mar 06
Mar 06

Chère Feka, bonjour!
Continue avec ce courage et surtout ce que tu fais pour le bien des autres, ça ne sera pas vain!
Dieu te le remboursera coûte que coûte.
Courage
Seka

Feka
Mar 09
Mar 09

Merci ma tries chere soeurette, Seka.

deborah_3
Mar 06
Mar 06

You are a strong woman. I pray that you will be united with your children. The pain of not seeing your children is unbearable. Continue praying.

Feka
Mar 09
Mar 09

Thank you, dear Deborah

Tumanjong Miranda
Mar 09
Mar 09

OMG! What is this world turning into?
Dear Feka,
It's really saddening to be separated from your children and made to go through all that stress. I really admire your courage and I hope you get justice and reunite with your children.
Courage sister!