Woman of Substance, Never Underrate her.

Mayokun Toye-Olukotun
Posted June 15, 2018 from Nigeria

In Nigeria, after graduating from a 5years professional course  in 2009, the pursuit of earning an income seems difficult, every endeavors was so hopeless, till one day, I received a call from an agency requesting for immediate interview for the role of a personal assistant to a Chief Executive Officer of a shipping company in Togo, I went for the interview, I was selected, thinking it was from merit, probably I impressed the interviewer, the pay was really motivating. I got home, thought about it again, from Nigeria to Togo, no mummy, no daddy, no sisters, no friends, how do I cope, especially if I get to Togo, I don't feel comfortable with the job as I remembered the saying "Not all that glitters is gold", so I prayed about it.

I called the agent, fixed an appointment to meet. To my shock, the agent told me things that were unimaginable, when I start the job, the chief executive officer may ask me to rub his back, be his sex partner officially cause am a lady, that is more reason the pay is good. I felt degraded, so being a lady I don't deserve to get a more decent job, even as a graduate.

I stood up and told the agent to keep his job and said "am a woman of substance, don't underrate me!", to add more insults to my dismay, he said "think about it", I left the place.

Few days later,  i told my friend, former school mate, we both studied same course, about my horrible experience with agent, I was feeling unhappy how such job could be given to a second class graduate and a lady, she was moved, shared an information about a vacancy. I applied and was selected, that was how my journey started in humanitarian service 5 years ago, till this moment, which is all  about women's rights.

I currently work as a program officer, I still feel the need to support women, especially the young girls, from work experience, some young girls and women are trafficked and sexually exploited against what they were being promised, it reminds me of how I took my stand, saying " am a woman of substance, don't underrate me". Even though I don't know the next move, I simply shared my story with an old friend, and my journey began.

How I wish more girls and women are being empowered intellectually, it will help them more. I still stand to be a support to every other woman, don't underrate yourself.

This story was submitted in response to #WealthofWomen.

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Olutosin
Jun 15, 2018
Jun 15, 2018

Thanks so much for standing for us because standing for yourself is standing for all women. I love you my dear sister.

Mayokun Toye-Olukotun
Jun 15, 2018
Jun 15, 2018

Thanks Sis, love you too..

Jill Langhus
Jun 16, 2018
Jun 16, 2018

Hi Mayokun. Thanks for sharing your shocking story with us, and welcome again to World Pulse:) Is this "normal" to be asked these sort of questions at an employment agency? Was this a legitimate employment agency? Wow. That isn't against the law to ask those questions, and expect those things from people? How horrible.

Mayokun Toye-Olukotun
Jun 16, 2018
Jun 16, 2018

Its a legitimate recruiting agency at a small level, being existing for period of years with past records of getting decent jobs, which may have been offering petit income to its clients from my findings...its not normal cos the agent couldn't look directly while speaking to me.

Jill Langhus
Jun 17, 2018
Jun 17, 2018

But, wow. I can't believe they can even offer that legitimately without it being illegal:-(

Mayokun Toye-Olukotun
Jun 17, 2018
Jun 17, 2018

It happens here at times, depends on the individual's acceptance. Just like a term: destiny lies in your hands.

Jill Langhus
Jun 17, 2018
Jun 17, 2018

That's not good. If women accept these jobs, then it perpetuates the demand/acceptability of it perpetuating and occurring:(

Ese Ajuyah
Jun 16, 2018
Jun 16, 2018

It takes guts and high spiritedness to do what you did. Keep the light shinning on dear Sis.
Ese

Mayokun Toye-Olukotun
Jun 16, 2018
Jun 16, 2018

Thanks Ese

Funsola
Jun 16, 2018
Jun 16, 2018

Am impressed Mayokun, thanks for standing for us.

Mayokun Toye-Olukotun
Jun 17, 2018
Jun 17, 2018

Thanks Sis