Folagems

Joined Nov 2016
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About Me

My Pain My Purpose , My Shame My Strength.

I am a single mother of two who has endured ten years of staying in abusive relationships and marriage,coupled with series of battering,depression and stigmatization at work and in the community.

For years I hid my face from public glare and bowed my head in shame , My voice was silenced in a society that frowns at single mothers especially those divorced or seperated.

My community believes such women are not woman enough to make their marriage work, so I receive beatings in silence ,toiled to meet ends meet to care for family needs , endured sexual infection my husband brought home to me so I can remain married and not be a single mother a second time.

I smiled to the world and cried in my closet, I prayed and fasted for a changed husband who made it clear he can sleep with as many women as he wants , he has nothing to lose, a husband who doesn't see any crime in beating me and killing me in the middle of the night when no one can rescue me in a community where he is protected by law .

I have no one to turn to and continued in my depressed quest of being married and 'brandishing' my wedding ring to show the world I am 'happily married' for I was afraid of where to start from after 10 years, who to go to for help , 'two children , two husbands' stigma my community and society will shove in my face, single mother / divorced /seperated profile friends,collegues and social media followers would frown at.

Until I met a world pulse sister that helped give utterance to my mutterings and the courage to dream again,hope again and realize my potentials.

my 'shame' gave me the strength to come out and help other women like me who are bowing their heads in shame,who stopped dreaming to achieve , to maximized their potential , who society and culture have wired to endure battery and emotional abuse as part of the price they have to pay to remain married/ be in a relationship.

Some unfortunately are in mental homes as I speak,Some are in the graves after meeting with untimely death ,Some are so depressed they went back into abusive relationships to hide their shame.

My Vision

For this women I dare to speak , for girls raped ,ravished and covering themselves from the stigma of what people will say or do.

For the women in mental homes who slipped into oblivion and their voices may no longer carry a message I have come out to speak.

For victims of domestic violence who met their untimely deaths and were forever silenced in graveyards I have come out to speak.

So that those who are still alive and are improvished,depressed, traumatized and abandoned in the society/community will get help , receive support and regain their voices to speak as humans whose voices carry meaning , hope , potential and achievement wherever they have found .That they will their dignity of womanhood returned to them and receive care for their children society has called'fatherless'

Thank you World Pulse for giving me this platform to tell my story unbridled, thank You Olutosin for helping me to have faith in me .

Interests

Economic PowerEducation EqualityGender-based ViolenceEmpowering GirlsWomen's HealthHuman Rights for WomenWomen in LeadershipWomen in Technology

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