Embrace sadness

soul on fire
Posted December 5, 2019 from India

We live in a society where more often we are told to put out our happy phase or be a magical creature that spreads rainbows and unicorns. But what if that happiness is not going to stay? What if that melancholy has the power to heal us than telling them to be happy or forcing them to be happy. Whenever someone sees me crying they tell me to wipe my tears and be happy. It's not ok to fake happiness. It's better to be unhappy than faking it.

It's ok to cry and feel sad. It's ok to go through that process,  no matter how long it takes. Maybe it's endless.  It's ok to feel that way.  Note to me: whenever someone wants to open up or cry a river.  Sit and listen. Hold them and tell them it's ok. And if you don't have anything consoling to say, JUST LISTEN. Stay awesome ❤️

Soorya Gayathri

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Lisbeth
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Hi Soorya,
A great wise saying there. We must admit and accept situations as it is. I love when you said

"It's not ok to fake happiness. It's better to be unhappy than faking it."

Faking it even worsened our situation. Thanks for sharing and take care of yourself.
Hugs

soul on fire
Dec 05, 2019
Dec 05, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts ❤️

Asish R Louis
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019
soul on fire
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hi I know you:-D:-D:-):-)

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hello, dear Soorya,

Depression is on the rise these days because of "toxic positivity". I love these so much because it resonates with me, "It's ok to cry and feel sad. It's ok to go through that process, no matter how long it takes.". Yes! Negative emotions are not bad. We feel them as part of our responses in life. There's no other healthy way to deal with our problems than to go through those painful feelings.

Please keep writing!

soul on fire
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Thank you so much for sharing this with me. It means a lot. & Yes I will keep writing :-)
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts ❤️

Karen Quiñones-Axalan
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

You're welcome, dear. I enjoy reading your post. Yes, please do. Have a great day!

Jill Langhus
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

Hi Soorya,

Thanks for sharing your post, dear. I couldn't agree with you more. It's incredibly invalidating to hear be happy, suck it up, or along those lines. And, yes, in turn we need to be there for others, too, and not tell them the same thing that we wouldn't want to hear ourselves.

Hope you're doing well, and that you have a great weekend.

soul on fire
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

True:-)
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts ❤️

Jill Langhus
Dec 06, 2019
Dec 06, 2019

You're welcome!