Teen Mom, Kerala and Modern Outlook

Soorya Gayathri
Posted May 5, 2021 from India

When I say teen mom, Kerala, and modern outlook. It is never going to blend well together. I am surrounded by a place where teen girls talking about sex was considered a sin. So I can't even imagine the hell that a teen mom would have to go through. Now that I am in college I can see some changes around me and this progress is indeed surprising. I have always had a different outlook from the rest and sometimes people say nice things about it and sometimes I would be the outcast ... Ergo a freak. But it never bothered me. As long as it's for the right thing I'll be fine.

I'm talking about this because I thought of this girl who got pregnant at seventeen in my school. At that time it created a lot of talks and teachers painted a tragic story for her. They also talked about sex. That is don't have sex... Obviously. I didn't know her at all. I haven't even noticed her because I was a shy kid and I never talked to anyone. But I can imagine how things might have badly turned out for her.

Her tale could have turned heroic.  But I am sure the rest of the society would have turned her as an example for a cautionary tale. The tragedy that happens when you have sex before marriage or as a teenager. But the funny thing is these people are the ones that turned it into a tragedy. I wish people would get out of their cocoons and broaden the scope to evolve. Times are changing constantly. Some time ago women didn't have the right to vote and look how women are running this world now. Everyone would just shun the teen mom and treat them as if they don't belong to this place. It's quite heartbreaking. Yesterday I saw a youtube vlog of a teen mom who was pursuing a law degree. Imagine if people here would have supported her. Maybe she could have gone to college and get a job. She could have been a single mom and she could have rewritten the tragic tale into a heroic one. But unfortunately, there's always this judgemental person who is always critical about everything.

If you are reading this. All I wanted to tell you is please don't let yourself stay in that cocoon. Always learn about how times are changing and educate yourself. 

For example

Recently Madras High Court judge Justice N. Anand Venkatesh decided to fix an appointment with a psychologist to get a better knowledge of same-sex relationships. To give a proper judgment.

(I don't know what happened to the teen mom as I did not know her and I had no idea who she was or how she looked. I am using this platform with my anonymity to just spread the word with the hope of having a better tomorrow.)

Stay Awesome

Soorya

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Olutosin
May 05
May 05

I understand you perfectly , one of our girls in our program got pregnant now, she has been driven away from her home, she is 17 too.

It's pretty the same in Nigeria. We need education about this issue.

Soorya Gayathri
May 05
May 05

How is she doing now? It's so sad that people become so mean
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Beth Lacey
May 06
May 06

Yes, your story about Kerala could have had a much different outcome if more people were enlightened and kind.

Soorya Gayathri
May 06
May 06

I am hoping to see that one day.❤️

Tamarack Verrall
May 06
May 06

Dear Soorya,

Thank you for daring to spread the word on issues so many have judgements on. I see these issues so connected. Teen moms pregnant outside marriage, against the patriarchal rules, and people in same sex relationships, against the patriarchal rules, too. It is good news that this judge is educating himself. People don't fit into simple boxes. We all deserve respect even or especially if we break rules that are not real life. Not free, respected life. As someone who has been "out" for many years, I send congrats on a bold story.

Soorya Gayathri
May 08
May 08

Thank you so much
So true and insightful. We need more human beings like you.
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rebecca.tang
May 06
May 06

Thank you for sharing. I understand the teen mum would faces a lot of challenges. She is so young. On one hand, she has to take care of the baby. On the other hand, she may have to continue her study. Be a teen mum, we believe there would be a story behind and should not make judgement based on what we see only.
May Almighty God bless her and her baby!

Soorya Gayathri
May 08
May 08

True ❤️:-)

KABAHENDA KIGGUNDU
Jun 09
Jun 09

Hello Soorya,
I cannot thank you enough for this story because you have touched on important issues: teen pregnancies and the way society not just in Kerala, but in many parts of the developing world, treat such women.
Since when did 17 years-old teenagers have the ability to make mature decisions?
How do those people who criticized that teenager that she was not a victim of forced sex? How much safe-sex education did she receive?
Society needs to respond to such young girls with understanding and compassion. It is only through education and awareness-raising that we can stop teen pregnancies.
As the example of the law student demonstrates, being a teen mother does not mean that with the right kind of support, a teen mother cannot be useful to herself, her child and society.
It is a conversation worth having and thank your for bringing it up.

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