I feel very honored to write this piece. I got married in the year 2000 in the city of Abuja Nigeria West Africa. My tribe is Yoruba from the western part of Nigeria. I love to be widely educated but because of financial constraint I couldn't get more than an ordinary national diploma certificate in secretarial studies which I struggle to get on my on by doing one menial job or the other. I left home looking for greener pasture, struggle from 1989-1999, working as house help, secretarial job and so many like that.
I decided to Mary thinking marriage will stop my trouble I entered from fry pan to fire. I married a guy I never knew was not in the same level of faith as I am but he pretended to be a born again Christian like myself., I met him in the same church I was attending, oh my God He was fake from the beginning to the end.
17years of horrible moment, after the wedding on the 1st of January 2000, I begin to feel the real person he is. Hmmnnn first I wanted to go back for my Higher National Diploma course, he said no way we just got married, next year you will go., Okay I said. Then let me start doing some salary job. Before I knew what the whole certificate I need to get a job disappeared from the house and up till date 17 years plus now I never set eye on them to be able to work or further my education. At the end of it all, I was abandoned with for children to cater for without a job. No business to do. No financial support from anywhere to help these children of age 17,14,12 & 4 years old. I'm suffering from loneliness. Hunger and homeless. I'm confused, I don't know how to start life again.
My dream in life is to be educated and be able to educate others and be able to find for myself. I wish to be strong and start life all over again with the load of this children on my neck. I BELIEF I can make it. I belief I can still become the Lawyer that I want to be. Somebody reading this will not over look the need to be out of this mess and speak out to tell other girls that MARRIAGE IS NOT AN OPTION OUT OF POVERTY AND PROBLEMS OF LIFE. IT WILL ONLY PLUNGE YOU FURTHER INTO MORE MISERY IN LIFE. THANKS FOR READING THROUGH.