All by grace.

Gumato Tinde
Posted August 19, 2019 from Kenya
All by grace.
All by grace.: Hi. Read my first story. (1/1)

Life gives us rocks to break and rivers to cross. The rocks I was given have always been harder and my rivers deeper. 

I was born in Kalacha, Kenya, at the heart of the great Chalbi desert. I had no close relative as I was growing up. I had no cousins to protect me from the older girls and boys at the playground. My dad was born alone. My grandfather and my great grand father were both born alone. Mama's three brothers and two sisters live far away from where we lived. I was born in the year 1998 on 17th of September. Neither mama nor dad went to school.

I was lucky. I was taken to a boarding school about twelve kilometers from home when I was at the age of five years. I was not only the youngest but also the tiniest among the girls in my class. Everyone in the class bullied me. They teased me because I was so tiny but did better than them all. I feared passing exams. They gave me all kinds of bad names. Yes this bothers me. Despite all these, I kept my scores high. 

I have two elder brothers, two elder sisters, a younger brother and sister. One of my elder sister and brother did not have the opportunity to go to school. My sister got married off to a man of 30years old when she was only 12years old. After a month, she was pregnant with her first kid. She now has two kids and is expecting another one soon. She is only 18years old. That wasn't so bad.

The same thing had been planned for me. I was only 12 years when a man who had three kids asked my parents for my hand in marriage. Mum and dad accepted and I was to be married immediately after I did my Kenya Certificate of Primary Education. The man was three times my age plus four. 

​​​​​​I was too young and dumb to protect myself. My parents were poor. They had no say in the society. Who is God though? He worked miracles and when the results were out, I was the best in my village area. 

I won a scholarship and proceed to secondary school. I was aware of what was going on at home. The man was putting lots of pressure on my parents. During holidays, I would spend most of the time thinking about what to do to protect myself from getting married to this man who has never been to school and has kids with women he has never married. I tried so hard to handle all these. I started bing just an average student at school. 

By the grace of God, I completed my high school studies and got a grade good enough to take me to a public university in the country; the biggest and the best in the Sub-saharan Africa at that. I joined the University of Nairobi in the years 2016. I am still there taking a degree in Journalism and Media studies.

Since I had chosen to study and be the best version of me, my parents and the old man have asked me to pay the old man's gifts to my parents. I would have been graduating but since I have an extra task of paying back for what I don't know if I ate or used, my graduation will be delayed but the most important part is I am still strong enough to push away every rock off my way. I can stand for any woman who guest through troubles such as mine. 

I don't want any other girl to suffer the way I did. My advice to the young women out there is that, nothing is big enough to break us down to the point of not rebuilding again. Life always finds a way. Strong for myself,strong for the world. Cheers!

 

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Hello, dear Gumato,

Welcome to World Pulse! It is so much joy to know another voice is rising up from Kenya! Wow, you write so well. You are such a brave, strong, determined, resilient woman. I am so excited about the doors that will open up for you!

Life did give you harder rocks and deeper rivers, but you are a remarkable survivor! I'm so glad you escape being married off because you excelled in school. I believe you can make a way out of this "agreement". Don't be afraid of delays, Grace will see you through. My university studies were also halted at 19 years old, and I came back to school at 26 years old, too old for my classmates, and even older to some of the University professors. But one thing I've learned, nothing can stop a woman who has bigger dreams.

May your dream of not wanting any other girl to suffer the way you do drive you to greatness! I am rooting for you. You got this.

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Beth Lacey
Aug 20
Aug 20

What a success story! Good for you!

Gumato Tinde
Aug 22
Aug 22

Thank you so much Beth

Yo'landa Dakup
Aug 20
Aug 20

Powerful encouraging testimony. And an awesome story of hope. Their plan wasn't God's plan for your life.

Gumato Tinde
Aug 22
Aug 22

Sure. Thanks dear

SIMON MUREU
Aug 20
Aug 20

I think you are pushing hard with your studies and pray a good Samaritant WOULD HERE YOU CRY.
i MYSELF UNDERSTAND THE PROBLEMS WE ARE PASSING IN THROUGH HERE IN kENYA

Gumato Tinde
Aug 22
Aug 22

Thanks. We shall overcome all these.

Jill Langhus
Aug 21
Aug 21

Hello Gumato,

Welcome to World Pulse, dear! Thanks so much for sharing your inspiring first story. I'm so glad to hear that you weren't forced to marry that man and share the same fate as your sister. I'm very much looking forward to hearing more about what your plans are for when you're finished with school, and what your dream and vision is for girls in your area, country, and beyond:-) When do you finish with your studies, and what are your plans, dear?

I hope you're doing well, and having a great week!

Gumato Tinde
Aug 22
Aug 22

Hi Jill. Thank you so much for your interest in knowing about me. I wanna be the bring some change. Good changes that will impact lives of girls like me positively. I will be done with my studies in the year September 2020. I am currently an intern with USAID in Kenya,Marsabit.

Jill Langhus
Aug 23
Aug 23

Hi there,

You're very welcome. Thanks for letting me know more about your plans and goals. Sounds exciting. I'm looking forward to hearing more about it.

Marylynne
Aug 21
Aug 21

Gumato, you have shown great courage and determination in getting as far as you have with all the obstacles you have had to face. It sounds like you will handle this obstacle as well and can look forward to a productive and meaningful future. May happiness and joy be in your future too.
Lynne Thackwray

Gumato Tinde
Aug 22
Aug 22

Thanks so much Marylynne for believing in me.I am positive about the future. After all, whatever doesn't kill us, makes us stronger. My aim is to save as many girls as possible from what I went through. No matter what, I will never allow anyone to walk through the thorny paths I came through. Blessings.
Gumato

Bettina Amendi
Aug 21
Aug 21

Dear Gumato ,
I am happy to know you overcame the obstacles of early marriage and child bearing.I read you well your cry for justice now that you have to pay for debts you did not borrow that will delay your graduation. Kindly send me a mail,will share with afew friends to deliberate the way forward.
My email is amendibettina@gmail.com
Regards
Bettina

Gumato Tinde
Aug 22
Aug 22

Hi dear. Thank you for showing love. I will mail you.
Gumato

Sabdio Roba
Aug 22
Aug 22

Dear Gumato,
I relate so much with this story and I am so glad that you are raising above that and standing up for other girls. I know you are a strong, intelligent girl who will make a wonderful change maker some day and I am so proud of you.

Gumato Tinde
Aug 23
Aug 23

Thanks so much my dear sister. You are an inspiration to me. You brought me to this light and I will never forget this.
Lots of love

Domina Msonge
Aug 23
Aug 23

Dear Gumato,
You are the hero to your self. keep fighting and one day you will be the savior of your generation.
May God steel protect you in your way to fulfill your dreams.
Domina

Gumato Tinde
Aug 23
Aug 23

Amen. Thank you so much Dominant. Bless you too.

Bim Adegbite
Aug 23
Aug 23

Wow! What a powerful story. Your confidence and resolve is very apparent and there is no doubt in my mind that you are going places and nothing can stop you..."strong for myself, strong for the world"!

Gumato Tinde
Aug 23
Aug 23

Thank you sister.

Tamarack Verrall
Aug 23
Aug 23

Dear Gumato,
"I feared passing exams. They gave me all kinds of bad names. Yes this bothers me. Despite all these, I kept my scores high". "Strong for myself, strong for the world". You are such an inspiration as to what is possible when we believe in our selves. When that strength is mixed with caring for others as you do, real change in this world becomes possible. A big welcome to World Pulse. It is so good to find you here dear Sister.

Gumato Tinde
Aug 23
Aug 23

The world is ours. The environment and everyone in it.
Thanks for your compliment.

narayani khadka
Aug 23
Aug 23

Dear sister Gumato, I made a wonderful start of the day by reading your powerful and inspiring story you. I am so glad to know about what you have accomplished in spite of all the hurdles. Kudos to you. Keep on inspiring. All the best for your further studies. Lots of love from Nepal ❤️

Gumato Tinde
Aug 23
Aug 23

It's something that I have always prayed for. Inspiring everyone around me to be their great selves.
Lots of love from Kenya.
God bless you dead.

Spiritedsoul
Aug 25
Aug 25

Hi Gumato,
Welcome to orld Pulse. Hugs. Thank you so much for sharing your inspiring and courageous story. I love the way you write, and look forward to reading more from you.
Good luck with your studies to!
Hugs,
Jess.

Gumato Tinde
Aug 26
Aug 26

Thanks so much Jess.
We shall be together.
Hugs.
Gumato

Fredrick
Sep 13
Sep 13

@GumatoTinde...This is not only a mere a powerful story but a powerful testimony that has not only moved me but my heart also but God who protected, rescued and delivered Daniel whilst in the Lion's Den also did it for you for he has always been and always faithful even at the point when your hope and faith is really too low.
looking forward to connecting with you.
M y email is kamulindwafredrick@gmail.com