MY STORY AND YOUR MESSAGE,DEAR WOMAN.

Gumato Tinde
Posted September 18, 2019 from Kenya
Wearing my scars with pride.
Wearing my scars with pride.: It's not who you are, it's who you see yourself become in the near future. You are what you think you are, and that, you will become. (1/1)

My name is Gumato. I was named Gumato since I was born on a Friday. I just tured 21, two days ago. I was born and brought up in a nuclear family with a very humble background. My mum and dad did not go to school. I have three brothers and three sisters. I am the fifth born in a family of seven, with the looks of my dad and the heart of my mother. I love my family so much and today I wanna ask God to protect them for me because we have been through so much together. Fights, arguements, sleeping on empty stomach, disagreements, prayers, shouts and every manner of thing but love always ruled. I am a victim of Female Genital Mutilation. I was not forced, but rather pressured by my peers.  I don't like the fact but I accepted it. I wish someone was there to help me realise the dangers of FGM. I regret it with no pains. I know God is gonna forgive me and everyone else.

On the Day of the Girl,  I wanna ask every woman to take responsibility of The Girl. The world is so cruel.  Last week, I heard the story of the young girl,now late, may the Lord rest her soul in eternal  peace, who committed suicide after her teacher, a she, humiliated the 14 years old Jackline for soiling her dress with blood. "The girl reported to have committed suicide after a teacher humiliated her for soiling her dress was buried on Saturday amid calls for free sanitary towels in schools", the story went. I was so devastated by the news on Friday 13th September 2019. I wish I saw Jackline just a second before she did it. She would be here with us writing her stories and impacting lives. These things should stop. I hope they will. Sooner or later. We should save The Girl at whatever cost. On this day (depends on when you reading this) I wanna leave a message for every woman out there.

And here is my message.

Dear woman,

I know you have been through a lot. You must have cried and bled several times. But that's just a chapter in the book of life. Things are going to get better sweetheart. You will tell a story some day. I know this seems like a dream to you but trust me, some day, you will tell your story. You just need to be strong and prayerful. Be kind to everyone dear woman. You are a special gift to the word. Did you know that women are moms? And did you know that a mom is a doctor, teacher,friend, partner, a food store, a chemist, a bank and so many things that I can't, mention now? So, just be kind and stand up for yourself and others. They need you. You may be weak but they still need you. Imagine. The wold is cruel but be your good self because it adjusts. Yes, it does. It did and will always do. Have good intentions and respect everyone, even those who don't respect you. Learnt the art of giving and love in the present. Let go of your past. Let go of everything and everyone that weighs you down. Stand tall. If they cannot stand as tall as you wanna stand, let go but keep standing tall. I don't know how many people love you but I know God does. At my husband, an capacity, I also do. I love women and I always pray for them. And for you reading this, I love you. You are strong. You are beautiful.  You are special.  You are one in the 7 billion humans in the world. You are smart. You are brilliant. You are the best. And you should always assure yourself that you are. On the Day of The Girl, I wish you a change for better and a happy life.

With love from your sister,

Gumato

That's my message . In case you wanna read the story of Jackline, this is the link

https://www.standardmedia.co.ke/article/2001342087/pupil-14-who-hang-sel...

 

This story was submitted in response to GirlForce: Unscripted and Unstoppable.

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SIMON MUREU
Sep 18
Sep 18

Thank you for this sad story on women--girl and wish you all good blessing

Gumato Tinde
Sep 19
Sep 19

Thank you

Anita Shrestha
Sep 19
Sep 19

Dear Gumato
Thank you for sharing and beautiful message of encouragement. Keep it up continue.

Gumato Tinde
Sep 19
Sep 19

Welcome. And thank you too for taking time to read

Seka
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hello Gumato. I like so much your post. I am sad for Jackline, if she knew she could not suicide himself !
As a mum , I thank you for your kind words. Life is good with God.
Be blessed my daughter!
Seka

Lisbeth
Sep 19
Sep 19

Dear Jackline,
An amazing letter to women. Thanks very much. I was also very shocked to hear about the 14 year teenage. It's really very sad. How could this teacher tease her. Now the teacher is guilt of her blood now.
Take care

Gumato Tinde
Sep 19
Sep 19

Thank you so much ma
Be blessed too

Hello, Gumato,

I love reading posts from you because I like the way you write and your way with words. I have heard about Jackline, and it's really heartbreaking that a girl will be humiliated because of a blood stain. You're right, she could be on World Pulse writing about her stories, but now, she's gone. :,(

Thank you for the empowering letter to every woman. Stay strong and blessed, dear sister.

Gumato Tinde
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hi Karen, Thank you so much. Stay strong too and be blessed as well.

You’re welcome, dear. Have a great weekend!

Gumato Tinde
Sep 19
Sep 19

Have a great one too dear

Suchitra Acharjee
Sep 19
Sep 19

I cried when I was going through the lines " They need you. You may be weak but they still need you.". I can connect to these lines. Thank you so much Gumato. Your message inspires and motivates me.

Love and HUG,
Suchitra

sobal
Sep 19
Sep 19

You are such an inspiration Gume, thank you for sharing your heart. Be blessed

Gumato Tinde
Sep 19
Sep 19

Thanks Sobu Welcome to world pulse

Gumato Tinde
Sep 19
Sep 19

Thanks Suchitra my sister.
Lotsa love and hugs too

FabnFearless Fearless

Thank you for sharing the story. You are bright and brave. I wish you all the great things life has to offer. Much love from your soul sister from Canada.

Gumato Tinde
Sep 20
Sep 20

Welcome dear sister.
And that you so much for taking time to read my message to you. So much more love from Kenya

FabnFearless Fearless

Hi dear Gumato,
Just wanted to check in and say hello. Hope you are doing fine and keep raising your voice. We all need to be each other's support system. Love from Canada

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 20
Sep 20

What a beautiful message to girls. And what an important message to us all "On the Day of the Girl, I wanna ask every woman to take responsibility of The Girl". It is by all of us standing strong together that girls will find ways to their beautiful selves more easily.

Gumato Tinde
Sep 20
Sep 20

Thank you so much ma
We surely are responsible for the Girl child. Till they are strong enough for themselves and for the world. Blessings

Tarke Edith
Sep 20
Sep 20

Hi Gumato
Thanks you for bringing into our minds again the story of Jensine . Anyway she is gone , let join our voices together to see into it that such things should not happen again. Thanks for sharing

Gumato Tinde
Sep 20
Sep 20

Welcome dear. Thanks for your compliment. Sure we should not allow this happen again

ANJ ANA
Sep 22
Sep 22

My dear Gumato,
What a lovely note on self-care. thank you so much for a reminding to us for being happy for what we are.
I am so sorry to hear another sad news of a girl on period share. may her soul rest in peace and I pray and wish and I will put my effort/work that no girl will be suiciding in coming days on humiliations for being a girl.

at last, I wish you a very very happy birthday (21st). Keep writing and keep flourishing my dear young Gumato.
love and regards,
anjana

Gumato Tinde
Sep 23
Sep 23

Thank you so much dear.

Bettina Amendi
Sep 23
Sep 23

Thank you Gumato for sharing your story.You have encouraged me.You are one of those beautiful souls that have scars and still smile.Keep up the good work.The words we have continual shared via phone and email still ringing in my ears.BE STRONG SISTER

Gumato Tinde
Sep 25
Sep 25

Thank you so much Bettina. Your effort shows undying love for girl. You are inspirational. Thankle you once more

Namadi
Sep 23
Sep 23

Gumato,
You read me like a script, i am in pain feeling unloved and i dont know what to do. I cry everyday some times i scream inside me, yet nobody sees or knows. I am a woman told to be strong and hide my feelings to please friends, in laws, colleagues and even the children. I dont feel beautiful or desirable, I al sad all the time with negative emotions. but the same things thatmake me sad are the very things that make me strong. I am a woman

Gumato Tinde
Sep 25
Sep 25

Hi Namadi dear. You must know that you are special and beautiful. You must love yourself first. Choose to be happy because that contributes to your beautiful.
Be nothing short of kind and sweet even to those who mistreat you. Be happy for yourself, for your family and friends, for us women for everyone else who love and cherish your. Be strong dear. If they don't, I love you. And greater than us all, God loves you He always will. Cheers❤

Omoh Virginie
Sep 24
Sep 24

I cried while reading because I understand the embarrassment that comes with not having a sanitary pad during menstruation, I wept for young Jackline cos I felt another young soul was wrongly interpreted. I wept because I know too well the dangers of peer pressure. And I'm crying even while writing because I feel women are failing each other. In a society with so much pains we indeed need a reminder of who we are.

So thank you sister, you just sparked my fire even more to make a difference

Gumato Tinde
Sep 25
Sep 25

I wish I was there with you to wipe your eyes. Don't cry darling. Things will get better, if not soon, later. Thank you for the support you are offering this little one. God will fI'll up where you took from.
Gumato