Was it our fault that we were born a girl in Afghanistan?

Guzel Majidi
Posted September 1, 2020 from Afghanistan

Let's read a little text about a little girl who still can't walk alone. His life has become a very big story that can only be read and written but cannot be changed. I call for them Afghan girls. How is it possible for a girl to learn freedom full of rules only from childhood and be freedom?  Or the girl who is not allowed to dress, or the Ms. Farkhunda That men set her on fire when she opened her mouth. Can it be said that they have been given freedom? In my opinion in Afghanistan girls are just an object, and they will manage them in any way they want, and the girl herself is just a spectator of the conquest of her life. She is afraid that if she opens her mouth they will call them immoral and they will be beaten or stoned. If she does not accept the marriage, they will call her an immoral lover. she is afraid that everyone will insult her. They beat the girls, they shout at the  girls, stoned  the girls, sold the girls, killed them, cut off their body, burning them, It is easy for them because they call the girl just an inanimate body. It is easy to let go of your dreams because you are an Afghan  girl and you must live for others. Hey girl, don't go outside, they will steal you. Dress properly because they will say bad things for you. Do not laugh out loud that they will call you immoral. Do not go to a party, they will eat you. Do not go to universities men will deceive you. Do not go in the city, men will harass. Be careful not to talk to men who have bad intentions. Love is too far for Girls, do not fall in love at all. This all is Afghan girls' freedom. freedom like a dark prison. when you birth a girl you must put a chain in their feet and hands. Life, desire, lust, love, the goal of all you have to sacrifice others because it is one mother's fault that she was born a girl in Afghanistan. So where is the freedom? Was it our fault that we were born a girl in Afghanistan?  

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Chi8629
Sep 01
Sep 01

No darling, it was not your fault that you were born a girl in Afghanistan , iam sorry for all you go through there , just know that we gat your back , we are here for you and we love you so much , Thank you for sharing.

Guzel Majidi
Sep 01
Sep 01

Dear Chi thank you so much from your kind comments. love you all.

Chi8629
Sep 01
Sep 01

You are welcome anytime Dear Sister. We love you right back.

Hello, Guzel,

You are such a smart and brave Afghan girl. It is right to question the country that denies women their rights in many ways. I agree with Chi, it is NOT your fault that you were born a girl in Afghanistan. Your life is bigger than your circumstances.

I believe you are born there with a purpose, dear. That purpose could be a solution that Afghan girls are going through right now. That burden, that pain, that outrage you carry in your heart are valid, and we hear you. It pains our hearts that you feel women are treated as objects and with so much restriction.

Keep speaking up on this space, dear. Invite more Afghan girls to do the same. It is in writing that you can use your power. The pen is mightier than the sword. World Pulse is here so women and girls will have a space to express themselves. Please keep on writing!

Guzel Majidi
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Ms. Karen,
You are the most kind women that I meet. thank you so much from your kindness. I really want to improve my writes that one day all world peoples read and realize that we are really stronger than they think. I just want my written become international. again thank you dear.

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Guzel,
There is such a power in naming what is happening, because it is no longer hidden, no longer continuing as if it is just 'the way things are'. By naming it you have named all of the ways that go against basic human rights, expected of any country who is a member of the United Nations. We are all challenging together the many ways that men continue to break this rule, that we have a right as women and girls to live our lives not persecuted for being female. I am so glad that you have joined us here in World Pulse. May you continue to be safe, and have your voice soar. We are in this together and will not forget all that girls in your country are going through.

Guzel Majidi
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Ms. Verrall,

Thank you so much for powerful comments, I really hope one day these problems solve and I can live like a human.
again thank you so much.

Stacie Dickson
Sep 02
Sep 02

This was so touching. I'm so sorry girls in Afghanistan have to endure this treatment. Please know you all are strong, fierce, beautiful and worthy no matter what ANYONE says.

Guzel Majidi
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Ms. Dickson,
Thank you so much for the comment, yea we are really strong that living and studying in this country with this all rules and violence against girls.

Jayne Cravens
Sep 02
Sep 02

Afghanistan is a special country to me. I lived there from March 1, 2007 to the last week of August of that same year, doing work for the United Nations, seconded to the Ministry of Rural Rehabilitation and Development. I worked with so many incredible Afghan women. And while there were many men, younger men, who were very supportive of women having freedom, having choices, having education, I was also regularly reminded of all the men who do NOT believe this, and I saw many of the things you have described. A bird with one wing cannot fly - Afghanistan needs both wings to fly, and that means fully empowering the wing that is women and girls.

Guzel Majidi
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Ms. Jayne,
yeah you are right, there are some men that they are really supportive. but when one girl go out from home there is full of harass, I just write those things that I see with my eyes, lots of time I really faced with this environment harass and it hurt me.
Thank you so much for the comment.

Kike
Sep 03
Sep 03

Dear Guzel,
Thanks for sharing this. I've read books about the horrors girls and women face in Afghanistan but that surely can't be compared to actually living it. Thank you for your boldness to call out these things that are not okay.
It's not your fault that you were born a girl in Afghanistan but it's your fight now, and already you are fighting with your words. You are doing well Guzel!
I'm sorry for all you go through, know that we stand together as Worldpulse sisters, and you are loved, always. Keep writing.

* Sending you virtual social distancing hugs *
Kike

Guzel Majidi
Sep 03
Sep 03

Dear Ms. Kike,

Thank you so much, I am really happy to meet with strong womens like you, love you Ms. Kike

ARREY- ECHI
Sep 08
Sep 08

Hello Guzel,
I hope you are doing well. Thank you for bravely sharing this soul searching piece.
It is a heavy burden to be a girl in most cultures. And no, it is not your fault for being born a girl. Social constructs are patriachal institutions are at fault.
Continue to keep safe even as you courageously seek to be free from the shackles of a culture.
With love

Guzel Majidi
Sep 09
Sep 09

Hello Ms. Echi,

Thank you so much for the comment.