What Manner of Love?

Hannah Ojo
Posted May 24, 2013 from Nigeria

" You call it love, she calls it violence. One of the latest stories of domestic violence is that of the 23-year-old Blessing Ikhumi whose boyfriend, Cyril Okosun, reportedly bathed her with acid, ostensibly for daring to voice her decision to discontinue with a relationship she considered abusive". This was reported in the Punch Newspaper (published in Nigeria) of May 23, 2013.

Acid bath is another way women are being maltreated by disgruntled lovers. Should we fold our arms and allow this to continue to damage the lives of young African women who are made to carry everlasting wounds?. In the case of Blessing, her sight has been affected and doctors said she may lose the use of her sight completely if surgery is not performed on her. Her chances of having the surgery appears slim because Blessing is from a poor background and she is does not have any savings because she is still a student. How long can we take inhuman acts like this? This is a call for action to end Acid bath in Nigeria and other African countries where the act seems to be on the increase.

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Almighty
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

It's a pity that this kinds of disastrous situations still happen.

In Cameroon, it is believed by many girls who hail from the center and south regions that a man who does not beat up his woman does not love her.This has always baffled me because I can't reconcile violence and love.I think they are parrallel lines which should actually never meet. The only thing is for us to educate girls on the importance of walking away from any relationships which begins to turn violent. Let's keep the spirit moving Almighty

Hannah Ojo
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

Have heard it said here in Nigeria too. Some people actually believe it too that if a guy doesn't beat his woman, he hasn't really loved her. A thought like this can only arise out of a misguided mind. We need to educate our african women both intellectually and emotionally. Thanks for sharing!

Riya
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

I can't imagine how a human being could commit such a violent act on another human being, and especially one whom they profess to "love". We should not stay quite about these inhuman acts towards people, especially women.I think acid attacks not only destroys women physically but also hurt their emotional well being. It's time for all of us to rise and condemn these inhuman acts towards women and men. Lets talk about this with our families and everyone else and teach them Love does not mean to hurt someone.

There is a documentary based on acid attack survivors and a doctor (male) who has been working with them to reconstruct their faces and other parts of their body. Worth watching it.

Riya

Hannah Ojo
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

Thanks for lending ur voice. Would love 2 c that documentary. Pls how can I get it? Thanks sis

Precious Nkeih
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

Hannah, I read the story on the news and I felt really bad. Love does not produce those kind of results. If the man truly loved his girl as he claimed, he would not have given her an acid bath no matter what. True love seeks only the good of others. I am joining my voice with yours to call for an end to this inhumanity. May the culprits be well punished. Sigh.

Hannah Ojo
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

I agree, love does not truelly produce those kind of results. Together we'll win!

Khaiwana
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

A sad thing about life today is that our people have allowed their conscience to be bathe in ACID!, and that is why their w hearts have been waxed cold, how could some one do that. Isn't this attempted murder, shouldn't this man be brought before the court, What rubbish is this? What are the policies in place in this country for women? I am mad about this!

Minakshi Tripathy
May 24, 2013
May 24, 2013

Dear Ojo, Please call for wiping out this rubbish act irrespective of who does it for whom. Even if a woman does it for a man- it is still uncivilised and beastliness.Take the lead and vanish it from the culture.Hope we all will be with you. Regards, Minakshi

Hannah Ojo
May 27, 2013
May 27, 2013

Working on that already. Thanks for the encouragement

Hannah Ojo
May 27, 2013
May 27, 2013

Working on that already. Thanks for the encouragement

TJ
May 25, 2013
May 25, 2013

I wonder how society would feel if women started dousing their cheating men with acid...

Sorry for the 'blood thirsty' statement but sometimes I really wonder these things - will society be as quiet? Will the woman be persecuted? What will happen if the tables were turned?

TJ

estelle achinko
May 25, 2013
May 25, 2013

so touching

THERESA OKPOKWU
May 27, 2013
May 27, 2013

Hi my sister, You are quite right, this is a call for action on acid bath! It is becoming the norm in our country and something just most be done. Why don't we mobilize and organize a match protesting this inhuman treatment against women? do you stay in Lagos? I will like to get in touch with you. I'm presently in Canada but I will be returning next Monday.

Hannah Ojo
May 27, 2013
May 27, 2013

Yes I reside in Lagos. Would be happy to join the cause. We could catch up. Here is my mail: hannahojo@gmail.com. Would be glad to hear from you ma!

THERESA OKPOKWU
May 28, 2013
May 28, 2013

Hi Hannah, Glad to hear from you. I will get in touch. here's my email too ib_tex@yahoo.com. take care

HOPE tOWELA
Aug 07, 2013
Aug 07, 2013

I Just dont know what to say, and where to start from, but I know and believe God will guide us women and bless us with knoweledge and wisdom on how to, deal with such issues violence and abuse to women and children.

LET US NOT GIVE UP.

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