My Declaration of Self -Esteem

Harriet Kamashanyu
Posted August 20, 2020 from Uganda
Be YOU!
Harriet at the One Young World Summit

"What I am is enough if i would only be it Openly" Carl Rogers

To all sisters that often feel that they are not Enough! That often doubt their self-worth. You are just ENOUGH!

The following was written in answer to a 15-year-old girl's question, "How can i prepare myself for a fulfilling life?"

I am me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. There are people who have some parts like me but no one adds up exactly like me. Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because i alone choose it.

I own everything about me - my body, including everything it does; my mind, including all my thoughts and ideas; my eyes, including the images of all they behold; my feelings, whatever they might be - anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement; my mouth and all the words that come out of it - polite, sweet and rough, correct or incorrect; my voice, loud and soft; all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. 

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. 

I own all my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with me in all my parts. I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that i do not know. But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for the solutions to the puzzles and for ways to find out more about me. 

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is me. This is authentic and represents where I am at that moment in time. 

When i review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did, and how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting. I can discard that which is unfitting and keep that which is proved fitting, and invent some thing new for that which I discarded. 

I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me.

I own me and therefore I can engineer me. I am me and I am okay. 

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Bec1090
Aug 20
Aug 20

Thank you for your shining example of fortitude, beauty, and strength.

Hello, Harriet,

How are you? This is a powerful piece coming from a 15-year-old girl. I wish I read this when I was that age.

"Therefore, everything that comes out of me is authentically mine because i alone choose it." This is one of the lines that resonates with me.

Thank you for sharing!

Olutosin
Aug 21
Aug 21

My sister thank you.
I am me and thats enough.

Nini Mappo
Aug 21
Aug 21

Thank you Harriet, for reminding us that no one else can take our place in the world, and that we should rise up past our fears to fill that place, and bring change to our world.

Veronica Ngum Ndi
Aug 21
Aug 21

Hello Harriet
This is awesome.How are you doing dear? Your write-up is so inspiring and I like to share it with my women with disabilities for they have most of the time have a low self-esteem.Thank you for this wonderful write-up
In Sisterhood
Veronica Ngum
Cameroon

Kristine Yakhama
Aug 21
Aug 21

Inspired

Adriana Greenblatt
Aug 22
Aug 22

Omg I love this Harriet, "I own me and therefore I can engineer me. I am me and I am okay. " You are POWER! I felt it flow through every word. This declaration of ownership of all parts so resonates. My intention for this year is "I am whole" and you beautifully articulate this for so many women, this is owning our power, this is wholeness, this is courage, this is you Harriet!
Massive hugs from Montreal!
Adriana

Tamarack Verrall
Aug 23
Aug 23

Dear Harriet,
This is so beautiful. Thank you. I love that a 15 year old girl got to have this in answer to her question about her life. And I love that you sent it here to us all. Trusting what we are here to say and do is so important, and the reminder is full of such caring and wisdom. I'm drinking it in.

esther atosha
Aug 24
Aug 24

this 15 year old girl is a powerful voice .
thanks for sharing dear

ARREY- ECHI
Aug 26
Aug 26

Dear Harriet,
I hope you are doing well. Thank you for sharing this poignant piece.
I can sum it up in a few words. 'Whatever you do, BE YOU!'

Beautiful words of reflection here. Keep writing.
Love and light.

Michael Kelly
Sep 04
Sep 04

Hello Harriet,
That truly hit the mark, and l always love statements or stories that push for self esteem especially for women. Blessings onto you!

Isata Kabia
Sep 07
Sep 07

Beautifully articulated, the uniqueness of each of us, and how that is in fact our strength. These are words that every girl needs every so often, even 50 and 60 year old girls! :-) Our confidence is stripped through out our lives and it takes a community like this to build each other up. Thank you for the words of strength, Harriet!

Poleth
Oct 13
Oct 13

Beautiful thoughts and words, I love how you see yourself I think is empowering and real. Keep it up sister!