In Uganda, every day I wake up to stories of women doing things out of their way to please or make men happy. Many have stayed stuck in loveless abusive relationships on grounds of societal expectation. This has come with an increase in the number of female victims of gender based violence. Everything has a beginning and an end, women just need to learn that while they desire a marriage “till death do us part” sometimes things don’t happen the way we want them. You just need to learn not to blame yourself when things don’t work out.
Am sure as I write this, some women out there are struggling and living a violent life because the husband is the sole provider and so leaving the marriage will mean an end to a livelihood. Until us women do something about this, violence will reign for generations. I know we all need an ideal family, but what happens if you can’t have one? Do you seize to exist? Are you less of a woman then? As women we need to love ourselves a little more as this will help us have a better outlook at things.
Lastly, all women need some bit of financial independence, while you may not afford all the family bills, you at least need to have a starting point. This reduces your vulnerability because you can afford a few basics with your resources.
Loving yourself more will help make informed decisions, reduce stress and helps you look younger each passing day.