Love yourself a little more

Harris Namutebi
Posted December 12, 2018 from Uganda

In Uganda, every day I wake up to stories of women doing things out of their way to please or make men happy. Many have stayed stuck in loveless abusive relationships on grounds of societal expectation. This has come with an increase in the number of female victims of gender based violence. Everything has a beginning and an end, women just need to learn that while they desire a marriage “till death do us part” sometimes things don’t happen the way we want them. You just need to learn not to blame yourself when things don’t work out.

Am sure as I write this, some women out there are struggling and living a violent life because the husband is the sole provider and so leaving the marriage will mean an end to a livelihood. Until us women do something about this, violence will reign for generations. I know we all need an ideal family, but what happens if you can’t have one? Do you seize to exist? Are you less of a woman then? As women we need to love ourselves a little more as this will help us have a better outlook at things.

Lastly, all women need some bit of financial independence, while you may not afford all the family bills, you at least need to have a starting point. This reduces your vulnerability because you can afford a few basics with your resources.

Loving yourself more will help make informed decisions, reduce stress and helps you look younger each passing day.  

 

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Jill Langhus
Dec 12, 2018
Dec 12, 2018

Hi Harris,

How are you doing? Thanks for sharing your wise post with us. I agree that all women to love themselves more, and that the benefits go a long way:-)

Hope you're having a great day!

Harris Namutebi
Dec 12, 2018
Dec 12, 2018

Hi Jill,
Thanks a lot.
Harris

Jill Langhus
Dec 13, 2018
Dec 13, 2018

Hi Harris:-) You're welcome.

Hope you're having a good day!

Olutosin
Dec 14, 2018
Dec 14, 2018

I agree with you my sister. 100% in agreement.

Harris Namutebi
Dec 17, 2018
Dec 17, 2018

Hi Olustosin,
We just need to emphasise to fellow women that a little more love wont hurt.

Tamarack Verrall
Mar 16
Mar 16

Hi Harris,
This is such an important message. The early and ongoing messages that women are not supposed to leave, and the impossibility when we have no way to get our own money are definitely holding too many women in control. I hope your message and your work travel far and wide.

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