My encounter with cyber stalker

Sabiha Hasan
Posted September 16, 2020 from India
Women cyberstalking
Women cyberstalking

I dont add strangers on my facebook, my purpose to have a Facebook account is not make friends with man. My profile is to stay connected with those people whom I met in real world, as at times people change places and phone numbers.

It was 2016, I was busy online working for an NGO, I was frequently  online; I used to check my facebook several times a day as Facebook page was always open.

One fine afternoon, I checked my facebook and saw that I have pending friend request from a man named Tanveer. He was a common friend of one of my acquaintances on Facebook; they both did MBA from same college. I am also an MBA, so I thought maybe I know him and just didn’t recognize him.

I accepted the request and then he messaged me, I tried to keep it short and ask him does he know me or is it professional reasons? He said just professional, on which I gave him my LinkedIn profile and asked him to connect there as that’s place for professionals.

I thought thats it, but then he started pinging me on daily basis, I was very pissed of but instead of blocking him; I did a mistake of answering his all questions. He wanted to know about me, I gave him my age, single status and I am a feminist. One day as I was working on creating some documents for organization. He told me about him that he’s an engineer working abroad on a railway line construction site ; but will be back soon and will like to meet me. I was not interested to meet a stranger, while I was thinking it; he asked me : What does I think of him, whether I find him handsome?

In my mind, he was fat and not good looking; but I didnt want to hurt him so I said I find him, Oki! The next thing I know that he proposed me to marry him and I rejected his proposal there and than.

After which he started abusing me by calling me old cow whom no one wants to marry, also I am mad and mental. I wanted to give him a piece of my mind but thought NO; as I already wasted my precious time for nothing. He is not worth it!

I just blocked him from Facebook and thought its over. But then when I checked my LinkedIn, I realized that he is checking my profile; I felt quite uncomfortable and blocked him from there too and I almost forget him. But after a year or two, again I received a friend request from same person but I knew that I already blocked him; does this means he had created a new profile. I went forward and blocked him again, and then again after a year same thing happened and after talking to my family; I didnt only blocked him but also reported his profile. Till now no news, I hope everthing is over.

THANKS FOR READING

Sabi

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Alexia Colina
Sep 16
Sep 16

I feel very disturbed by your experience. That is not how people should be using profile media platforms and no person, either a boy or a girl, should be treated that way. I hope you're doing okay. You made a smart move in reporting the incident. Keep safe always!

Sabiha Hasan
Sep 16
Sep 16

Thanks, yes I was a bit worried

valem
Sep 18
Sep 18

Dear sabiha
how are you? you made me remember how much I hated facebook
and unwillingness to engage in it.
I have learned not to run away from a problem but to find a way to deal with it. thanks for sharing

Sabiha Hasan
Sep 17
Sep 17

Welcome

Nini Mappo
Sep 17
Sep 17

Be safe out there dear Sabi. There are a lot of weird people with ill motives and no love in their hearts. I thank God that your instincts kicked in and you took safety measures before your safety was violated too deeply. The important thing is that you have not been poisoned by his angry callousness, and you keep your spirit sparkly and vibrant :)

Sheroo
Sep 17
Sep 17

Thanks for sharing your story my dear, I really learnt a couple of things from your experience. I will also read around and make sure I learn more about cyber security and how to raise awareness about it

Tamarack Verrall
Sep 18
Sep 18

Dear Sabiha,
This is such an important story of caution for us all, what can happen when you trust a friend of a friend on Facebook. You took precautions and he lied and then attacked. Too many men attack a woman when she says "No". This must have been so stressful. By writing you raise my awareness with this important reminder of how quickly a site we use for good reasons can make us targets for sick and violent men. So glad that you took good steps by blocking and reporting him. Facebook has to do better with getting rid of stalkers like him.

Millynairi
Sep 18
Sep 18

Dear Sabina,
It is so good that you have shared what happened to you so that we can also learn from your story. It is quite disheartening that people are misusing social media. I am glad you blocked him at an early stage before he complicated issues. Stay safe and thanks once again for sharing your story.

Sushmita Das
Sep 19
Sep 19

You could have reported this profile to the cyber experts.
If the situation was out of your control then you could have also complaint to the NCW (MoWCD)

Sabiha Hasan
Sep 19
Sep 19

Oh that's good to know as I didn't know about all this then.
Thanks!

Sushmita Das
Sep 21
Sep 21

You're most welcome

Isaura Diniz
Sep 19
Sep 19

No one deserves to find such terrible encounters, in real or online life.
Thank you for sharing this, stay safe Sabi!

Andrace
Sep 19
Sep 19

Hi Sabi,
'Pity you experienced all the bother this guy brought. 'Glad that you are safe and blocked him early enough. 'Great that you quickly recognised him when he tried to stage a comeback.

Thank you for sharing your story, which is a renewed cyber security call for all.

Let's remain safe, Sis.

Love and hugs,
E. J.

Marie Abanga
Sep 20
Sep 20

Dear Sabi,

So sorry you had to go through such.
I am however happy you took all the actions you stated and had the support of your family.
I know sharing it here could inspire someone too or help someone heal from a similar trauma.
light and love
Marie

Hello, Sabiha,

That is one scary experience. I hope you are safe and protected from this man. Please stay safe always. Thank you for sharing this story with us. This serves as a warning for all of us.

mugoli
Sep 22
Sep 22

hello my sister SABIHA!
I tell you it's a good story that you cut in progress, it was necessary to make him arrive until the end to know these intentions.

Maria Sundvall
Oct 22
Oct 22

Dear Sabi, thanks for sharing your story. It is really sad to hear how women are being harassed on platforms that are to be used for a good cause. Good that you blocked the man from your accounts. Be safe!