Love Languages

Hauwa Abbas
Posted January 6, 2020 from Nigeria

#mondaymotivation I always thought I knew what my primary and secondary love language was. I assumed that being goal oriented translated to having little time for words and stories, I would quite frankly prefer action any day. I have come to accept that a person's love language is heavily determined by their current needs, desires, goals and mindset. Let me try and explain. For parents and caregivers, biological or not. There is at least one child that has your mumu button. Perhaps it is because of the innocence. Every word melts your heart, ever sentence sinks in deeply with trust. You can see through a child who is lying, who is scared, who doesnt want to share and so their words can echo as words of affirmation.

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Now imagine a person who always valued quality time as their primary love language. After a long period of financial hardship, spending every day from lack of work with their partner while worrying about all sorts of bills. Given the circumstances will quality time still be their love language?

***** We need to look at the relationships that we value, that we want to keep and ask do I know their love language? If not ask and listen. Are you ready to adjust and put in the effort? Please know your love language, yourpartners, family members and friends, dont forget children. #coaching

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Hello, Hauwa,

Thank you for sharing your insight on how we acquire our love languages. What are your primary and secondary love languages?

Thank you for sharing!

Hauwa Abbas
Jan 06
Jan 06

Dear Karen, primary has always been Acts of Service.... my secondary shifted recently to words of affirmation.

Wow! That’s great to knkw, dear. We need people like you. Have a great day!

Lisbeth
Jan 08
Jan 08

Dear Hauwa,
Karen took the word from my mouth wow. We definitely will do more with acts of service here at world pulse.
Thanks very much for this inspiring post Hauwa.
My warmest regards to all of you.
Hugs
Lizzy

Anita Shrestha
Jan 06
Jan 06

THANK YOU FOR SHARING AMAZING THINGS

Jill Langhus
Jan 06
Jan 06

Hello Hauwa,

How are you? This is so true. Thanks for the reminder. I think in general women put in more effort to ensure their partner's needs are met, but it needs to be mutual. My needs still aren't being met, so then it becomes a problem:-(

Hauwa Abbas
Jan 06
Jan 06

I am doing well, thank you for asking. If your needs are not being met, you might want to start by communicating them to your loved ones and those close to you.

Jill Langhus
Jan 06
Jan 06

Great to hear:-) You're welcome.

Yes. I've tried that but I never seem to get anywhere. I will try again. Thanks for the advice.

lizzymark
Jan 07
Jan 07

Thank you for shearing Hauwa,this is a reminder. How so you understand the difference between the primary and secondary?

Sinyuy Geraldine
Jan 07
Jan 07

Hi Huawa. Thanks so much for your advice for us to find out the love language of the people around us.