I was depressed, frustrated and suicidal for a long time (I still get depressed alot), but I pulled through.
Even thoug I am in a better place now mentally and physically, I still hurts from all the years of abuse from my own family.
And it is now that I relaised that a lot of Girls are still being raised in similar or worse situations.
And alot of women are in similar or even worse situations; staying in unhealthy marriages because of the fear of stigmatization and family backlash.
Even though I have always struggled with projects all my life; I haven't a clue on how to go about reaching out to women and Girls who are victims of this viciousness (I always wished I had someone to talk to as a teenager when I was most abused by my Father) to hug them, soothe thier pains and tell them they are not alone and that together we can change our stories.
To reach out to women who protect, enhance and promote patriarchy in the name of culture, tradition and religion to enlightne them of the dangers of what they are doing and show them the best way to be a woman; ‘hang patriarchy’.
Long story short, I am still standing and going strong by the grace of almighty God. But it was hard, it was brutal; and I keep wondering how many women keep being swallowed by these circumstances everyday.
It is my hope and wish that one day, someday, we as women should be able to hold up our heads hight and tell a different story to our Children and Grandchildren. The story of liberty, freedom, victory and success and not that of being victims to a patriarchy that should have no place in our world.
I am grateful to my sister OluwaTosin for inviting me to this forum. And it is my hope that together we can end this scourge.