Child abuse, abusers and enablers

Hawwah
Posted September 24, 2019 from Nigeria

Some few days ago, a video of a father brutally smacking his infant child went viral on social media.

Of course, the whole world came out in condemnation of the man and thankfully, he was traced, arrested and persecuted.

What irked me is that Africans especially Nigerians participated in the condemnation.

There is nothing bads  about condeming child abuse, but there is alot of bads and wrongs about the hypocrisy behind it.

Child abuse, is a part of African cultural upbringing, it has always been and sadly still is.

We are not making any attempts to address it as a people and society. Everyday I see people justifying it using the saying 'spare the rod and spoil the child'.

Hence, we look the other way and allow parents abuse thier children because afterall, they are thier children.

We must in all honesty call out, report, and do the needful when we see parents abuse thier children regardless of whatever the reason may be.

I always say,  violence can never be the language of love. Therefore, the only thing Parents should do and act towards thier children is love, and love does not hurt.

I may be wrong, but I will always stand by my conviction that parental abuse does more harm than good. I will never endorse it as a parenting method, never have and never will.

Hence, before we condemn those far away from us, we should start by condeming in strong terms those close to us.

Please, mothers, Sisters, Aunties, Friends and spouses, enough of enabling abuse in the name of child training/parenting.

It is time we stop enabling child abuse. If you were raised that way, dont carry it on.

If you know anyone who does that, make sure to stop them whoever they are.

It is about time we stop raising broken people.

Let this end with us.

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Anita Shrestha
Sep 24
Sep 24

Dear Hawwah

you are saying truth that ''There is nothing bads about condeming child abuse, but there is alot of bads and wrongs about the hypocrisy behind it''. Yes it is happen in our country too. Please share other important issues too.

Hawwah
Sep 25
Sep 25

Hello Anita,
Thank you very much for your feedback.
I thought this important that was why I shared it.
If such issues are not a part of issues discussed on world pulse, I apologise and will delete.
But yes, it is important.
Thank you

Anita Shrestha
Sep 25
Sep 25

Dear
All things are important for sharing. Therefore, please share all things.

Regards

Jill Langhus
Sep 27
Sep 27

Well said, Dear Anita:-)

XX

Anita Shrestha
Sep 27
Sep 27

Yes dear

Jill Langhus
Sep 27
Sep 27

:-)

Jill Langhus
Sep 25
Sep 25

Hi Hawwah,

I totally agree with you 100% on all points, and I'm glad you're calling your fellow countryfolk out on it. Be the change, dear. Be the change:-)

Hope you're doing well, and having a great week!?

Hawwah
Sep 26
Sep 26

Dear Jill,
It is a reality I have lived with and sadly still living with.
The hypocrisy of our people is epic.
It is about time we break the silence that enables such abuses.
Thank you for your encouragement

Jill Langhus
Sep 27
Sep 27

Hello Dear Hawwah,

Oh:-( Well, I hope it changes relatively soon:-(

Yes, it is time.

You're very welcome:-)

Hope you're having a good day!

XX

Lisbeth
Sep 25
Sep 25

Dear Hawwah,
You certainly have hit the nail on the head. It always choked me when I hear stories of such in the media. An yes we must condemned those closer stories before the distance once. It might be happening right in front of our nose and we think it's okay. However, when it's far in the media we reject it. That is sure hypocrisy.
Thanks very much for sharing. I pledge to report any of such crimes in my community.
Hugs

Hawwah
Sep 27
Sep 27

Dear Lisbeth,
Yes, we must.
The fact that it has been going on for generations does not make it right.
Please, do not hesistate to report that in your community.
CHange begins with us.
Thank you and God bless.

Hello, Hawwah,

Thank you for bringing up this subject. I was a product of such physical abuse, and I thought it was parental love. It's wrong to release the anger to a child because as experts say, once we do it, we won't be able to stop it. Instead, the intensity is increased every time.

Hope you are having a great day!

Hawwah
Sep 27
Sep 27

Dear KAren,
Yes it is but unless we all rise up and speak against it, and louydly;
It will not stop.
We must do our part. By not enagging, and not enabling.
Have a restful weekend.

That’s true. We need to protect the children.

Have a relaxing weekend, too!