Living with bias & breaking the silence

Hawwah
Posted August 29, 2020 from Nigeria

Even though I have always lived with bias and have tried in my own way to consciously cure myself of it, this is the first time I am really having to take stock of those deliberate efforts and success I have made in freeing myself of this prejudice; and give myself a pat on the back. Unlearning bias, and even fighting it in a deeply biased society like mine is no mean feat.  But I have come to understand that there is no feat that is impossible to accomplish unless it is we have not set our minds to it. I am still in the process of unlearning these biases and intend to teach my children and any other person I can influence, both young or old to drop the biases and embrace humanity. We are all part of a big whole, and we are not just stronger, but better together. We all matter. This is my story about living and unlearning bias.

https://dladyofmysteries.blogspot.com/2020/08/living-with-bias-breaking-...

This story was submitted in response to Stronger Together.

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Nini Mappo
Aug 30
Aug 30

Hello Hawwah,
Thank you for sharing. Indeed the fight against bias is a constant one, as there are many opportunities that present themselves and we realised we still have that sublte sense of bias. Sometimes we call it preference if we want to justify our biases.

Let's keep growing with every opportunity to be unbiased presented to us, until we are free enough to see every one through the lens of the value and dignity they possess, every time.

Thank you for inviting us into your journey, keep growing sis ;)

Hawwah
Aug 31
Aug 31

Dear Nini,
Thank you for your comments.
Indeed, overcoming bias is one of the greatest achievements anyone can reach.
The hold it has in the minds of people is incredible, but unless we overcome it we will never grow.
Thank you for reading my journey and your continued support.
Together, we are stronger.

Andrace
Aug 30
Aug 30

Thank you for sharing, Hawwah. I agree that we need to let go of our biases and celebrate our wins when we do. Of course, we are stronger and better together.:) I like that you are consciously unlearning the biases and teaching your kids to. We all should, truly.

Hugs,
E. J.

Hawwah
Aug 31
Aug 31

Hello Andrace,
Thank you for sharing in my journey and your comment sis.
Together we are stringer.

Hello Hawwah,

It was so great to meet you at the Encourager Party! Listening to you during our "early birds" call reveals how much you know about diverse culture and histories of other nations. Reading the link you shared explains why who you are today. It's such a blessing to call you our sister. I'm impressed at how you fired your cousin because he won't apologize to a pagan.

This world would be better with the kind of mindset you have, dear. I agree that our religion, ethnicity, culture and norms are huge factors why we have implicit biases. May this be the generation who will break those perceived norms so we can all create healthy, peaceful, and sustainable relationships.

By the way, it that your blogsite?

Hawwah
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Karen,
Thank you so much for all the encouragement and support. Thank you for inviting me to the encourager party, it lifted up my spirits when I needed uplifting.
These biases are an integral part of the lives of most of us, but very few people are willing to unlearn them and let go even when they about how unfair it is. And those who are, are oftentimes ostracised, chastised, condemned and even persecuted. I have never regretted firing my cousin because deep inside I know what I did was right but you are the first person to commend me for it.
Not everyone has/is able to reach that independent mindset of doing things based on their own conviction rather than the norm or acceptance, hence many remain trapped. We must do our bit to change the status quo by speaking up.
I am so honoured to be connected to you too Karen and to call you sister. Thank you for all you do.
Yes, that is my Blogspot.
kindly follow my portfolio for on www.authory.com/HawwahAGambo
In love and sisterhood,

You're welcome, dear sister Hawwah,

It's marvelous to see the solidarity of our sisters during the party, how we can be different, and yet we are one. That uplifts me, too. :)

I think what you did was fair and just, dear sister.

You're such an eloquent writer and an articulate speaker. I'm honored to call you my sister.

Wow,that's one impressive blog! Great job on putting all those content there, dear. I have subscribed your portfolio already. You've written a lot!

Looking forward to listening to you on the Aspire Reinvent Conference!

Hawwah
Sep 02
Sep 02

Dear Karen,
Thanks alot for the subscribtion Karen dear.
It means alot to me. I truly appreciate it.
I have lost over half of the content I have produced over the years, I am still trying to find those I have lost.
Some have been stolen, some have been lost to me forever and I may never find them.
Regardless, I am not giving up to creating content to put out there. Luckily, it only gets better as I am continuously learning on using internet tools and technology to achieve my works for posterity.
Thank you for being my sister and friend,
Hugs and kisses

Beth Lacey
Sep 02
Sep 02

Yes, Hawwah, we do all matter.

Hawwah
Sep 02
Sep 02

Yes Lacey, we all do.